need advice quick. before the situation gets worser....please read!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

im being put in the middle of my brother baby momma drama and i dont know what to do. my brother is 20 and im 15. my brother got 2 girls pregnant he dont go with one no more and 1 girl had a baby last year in 2006 and the other girl is havin her baby in april and i just seen my nephew for the 1st time last nite (i only seen 2 pics of him) and now i feel like just because my brother is havin problems with his 2 baby mommas im been put in the middle of it. my mom is mad at me and both of my brother baby momma's is mad at me now. i dont know what to do.....i tired of my brother not growin up and bein a man. he wont handle his biz....i dont know what to do. i put my nephew pictures on myspace and i got in trouble for doing it. any advice....please

i did not put the baby picture on there without the baby momma permission.
it was my first time seeing my nephew.
you dont have to be such a ***** about it (you know who you are)
im a girl
my brother ex gf found me on myspace and started to talk to me.
im not tyrna be in nobody's life im tryna stay out of there life

Answer 1

Tell everyone to leave you out of their B.S and refuse to talk to them about it. The best thing you can do is learn a lesson and use a condom. Your brother is an *** and will always be one. Be a better person than him and focus on your life.

Answer 2

Yes I have some advice. First of all there is no such word as worser. Things can only get worse, not worser.

Anyway about your brother and your mother. Tell them to mind their own business. If you want to talk to your nephews or put their photos on your myspace page. Then go for it.

Tell your brother to grow up and take some responsibility for his actions. I know it was the girls who got pregnant, but they did not get pregnant from only kissing your brother.

If your brother doesn't want children, then he shouldn't have sex. No method of contraception is 100% full proof.

Oh and just for the record those stories about God impregnating Mary without actually touching her only exist in the Bible.

A friend of mine once told her daughter, "If you are old enough to F$%k then you are old enough to handle the responsibilites afterward".

I think there is something in that for all of us don't you?

Answer 3

Hey, sweetie. Nothing in life is going to be as hard as your teenaged years!

But it does sound like you have strong personal principles, Gal. You SHOULD love both nephews no matter how your older brother handles the corresponding relationships with the moms. Doesn't sound like you are trying to play favorites, that folks should get all upset. You are 15. It's rotten that your OLDER brother has presented you with a difficult situation like this, but sounds like at least you are doing your best for the next generation of youngsters by loving both children.

Your brother's children are related to you by blood, unless otherwise proven. You sound like a sweetheart. Just stay out of the drama and make sure you have someone stable and even-keeled to talk to!

Answer 4

That really sucks that you got put in that position. For now because you are only 15 and still living with your Mother, it is best to take her side on this. It will definately make your life a lot easier. You may not like how your brother is living, but he is your brother no matter what. These women should not have been trying to talk to you, because they are more than likely trying to get information about your brother through you. Don't be fooled. So, because your brother isn't attached, I say you shouldn't either.

Answer 5

Hi little sister,
The only thing I can tell you, Is love your brother no matter what,love your nephew, Just
tell your nephew's mom, that you would like to be part of your nephew's life,But you don't want to be in the middle of your brother and her mishap es, your Brother will grow up someday
so love him for him OK? he will always be your brother. But sister please most important, is you your only 15 and have a long life in front of you, So what ever happens, Stay in school, do as good as you can, and Pray for Brother and all the family every night. God bless you and your family.

Answer 6

myspace is nothing but TROUBLE !!! put it on private so no one can see the pics if it makes ppl unhappy !!!!
it is NOT your place to do anything about the drama!! if brother wont you cant..... just keep in touch with the babies as best you can, by buying gifts when you can, maybe a package of diapers or a toy now and then, leave on door step with a little note, or talk to both moms and tell them how you feel about seeing the babies, and maybe they will let you come over to their house to see them once a month... brother needs to grow up but YOU can NOT make him..... so leave it alone, and just be an uncle to those precious little ones as best you can... and if the moms do not want to let you see them, then go on with your life and remember the little ones will grow up some day and come looking for you, ........... I have a 1 yr old grandson I have not seen sense he was 3 mo. old so I know how you feel... God bless

Answer 7

Tell your brother, your mother and any other ignorant member of your family that you will not ignore your nephews and nieces - and if they have a problem with that, they might remember that there would be no issue if your brother had learnt to keep it in his pants. Don't let them make you feel guilty for something that is due to someone else's stupidity.

Answer 8

i didn't see any reason why you have to feel like you being put in the middle?
if your nephew's mom didn't like you put her son's picture in your myspace then take it out. you know that your brother having this problem with them and you make it worse by showing it to the world. that's why she is not happy with it. take out that picture then your problem solve with her.
if your mom being angry with you, it doesn't mean that she blame you for what happen with your brother. she probably think that you knew all a long but never tell her about it until it's out of hand. beside she just want to point it out to you that it is not cool what your brother did to that 2 women of him and she really want you to take this as a lesson for yourself. that's all.
so you don't have to feel the way you feel right now. you are not in the middle of anything. just take that picture out and understand about your mom frustration about your brother. and you can feel better after you done it.

Answer 9

the more u get involved with ur brothers problems the more in trouble u will be. let him handle his business and ur mom can handle him better than u.
his kids r ur nephews and no one can stop u from being their uncle/aunt so he should just bug off and if the baby momma say anything tell her to talk to the baby father, u just their to be a uncle/aunt thats all.
dont get involved with his problems u too young to be the man of the house and take up his slack

Answer 10

Take the pticutres down from your myspace and stay out of your brother's personal life.