Where have all the good men gone? Okay, I just put myself out there and asked this guy that im interested in on a date (yes men, we can do that). And I just got rejected and it hurts so bad, especially since i am really shy when it comes to stuff like this :,(. Basically he said he is in the process of getting back with his ex, who he is still in love with. What is a good way to deal with rejection? I need a little help to deal with this in a healthy way.
2007-01-21 14:20:29 · 6 answers · asked by //// 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know this bites the big one! But basically there isn't much you can do about it as far as the guy goes anyway. Hopefully he was straight with you about the reason for his rejection. And who knows? Maybe things won't work out with the ex and then he will give it a shot with you.
In the meantime, treat yourself to a treat, something you enjoy. Maybe a movie or dinner out with your friends? Do something that you enjoy to take your mind off of things. You never know, the real Mr. Right could be sitting at your favorite coffee house waiting for you to show up!! Good luck and keep your chin up, things do get better!!
2007-01-21 14:29:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK so he rejected you. In my mind you have won. I am a shy girl and it would be so hard for me to ask a guy out and you had the guts to do it. I know that the rejection must really be hard. It might not have worked this time but if you keep it up I am sure you will score with some guy that is shy and wanted to ask you out but couldn't.
2007-01-21 14:29:41 · answer #2 · answered by Amy R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chunlee,
Life was never ment to be hard, did you know that?
Life was not always about, 'If I do something good, I'll AWLAYS get something good in return', did you also know that?
Yes I know you are hurt and what I just wrote really sucks, but eventually you will see that...
It doesn't matter if you are shy, young, no experience, etc... what matters is, have you learnt anything? You felt something, did you learn from that feeling?
Never run away from pain, but accept and take it in, you will be glad and appreciate that you have this feeling, just shows that you are human and also gives you an experience that you will take with you.
2007-01-21 14:46:00 · answer #3 · answered by calv83luc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, welcome to what guys have to experience all the time. It will get better. It's true that time heals. It is good that you are asking men out. The good news is that this means you will have better control over who winds up inserting themselves into you and are not just at the whim of whatever jerk approaches. The bad news is that yes some guys will reject. You have to expect that. It dosen't mean they are "bad" just as not all women who reject men are "bad"
2007-01-21 14:28:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's brilliant that you have the courage to ask guys out...
You also need to consider that if he had said yes and then not told you about the whole ex thing he would have ended up cheating on you.
So you shouldn't waste your breath on him, go find another guy who will treat you better! Keep up with that asking guys out, I think it's hot that a girl has the courage to ask a guy out, so you'll be fine!
Good luck!
2007-01-21 14:26:07 · answer #5 · answered by soccerpsychic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get back on the horse, honey. A few successes in this area will be sure to build your confidence.
He didn't reject you after all, he simply accepted his ex.
2007-01-21 14:25:52 · answer #6 · answered by Ande 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well now you know what us guys feel :P. Nah, just because one guy said no doesn't mean another won't, rejection shouldn't be dwelt upon, just pick up and move on.
2007-01-21 14:27:12 · answer #7 · answered by Idiotman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋