So I was kind of seeing this guy except every time we were alone we ended up sleeping together. We weren't really "serious" about each other but we got along really well.
He's morman and preparing to go on a mission which having sex could cause him to not be allowed to go. I knew that from the beginning but he always instigated and I figured it was his religion not mine.
He broke up with me recently because he said we couldn't control ourselves around each other. He wasn't even willing to discuss just leaving sex behind.
Was he only in it for sex? My roommate says thats all it was and thats not a big deal. But another close friend of both of us swears there was more to it than that.
I didn't realize how into this guy I was until we broke up and now I'm feeling rather betrayed.
I just want to know if guilt is a valid reason to end a relationship with someone you claim to really care about.
I think I need to know the truth to move on.
What's your opinion?
2007-01-21 14:03:55 · 10 answers · asked by blood_drop2003 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're right, his religion was his responsibility. I think he probably does like you, but is conflicted because of his religion. I would advise you to stay away, as he will never be able to commit to you in the way you want. Plus, he didn't really consider your feelings, maybe because he was ashamed and embarrassed about having slept with you before the "mission". Too complicated and you are probably lucky you got out now - it would just hurt more later. Another possibility is that he's just a jerk.
2007-01-21 14:13:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably was in it for the sex... but then felt guilty. He probably wants a woman who will respect his religion and assist him with controlling his urges, not just put out.
I am not surprised that he broke up with you, even if there was more then just sex... in the end, it altered his relationship with his God, and would have forced him to lie to those around him.
If you had a strong beleif in say, not eating meat, and you had a boyfriend, and everytime you went to his house, he coooked you a really delicious , juicy steak that you couldn't resist, wouldn't you start to loose respect for him and wonder why he doesn't respect your beliefs enough? Even though they are your beliefs, not his...
2007-01-21 22:10:43 · answer #2 · answered by MinkeyMink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like to tell you something 'Very True' about guys...you and other chicks may not like it...but it is Very True....
Guys having AT LEAST two characters...
one is Before sex...
one is After sex....
Whatever guys saying before sex... is just like the words that a drunk may say...LEGALLY has no value and liability...as guy was drunk....
Therefore, in my opinion, smart girls are those girls who are having sex with guys ASAP...
NOW, if the guy After sex says ' I Love U ' that is worthy... a girl may count on it...
The guys for getting sex... are playing ONE million games... the story you said... is just one of them...
SO move on... u enjoyed too:) NOT? LOL
2007-01-21 22:20:21 · answer #3 · answered by DJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He got what he wanted, sex, he is ready to move on, The morman missionary story appears lame, clever, but lame.
You should move on.
2007-01-21 22:08:38 · answer #4 · answered by Dane 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you should tell his church bishop because mormon are forbidding to have sex outside marriage, he used you for his satisfaction because you are not mormon. he would never tried that with a mormon girl. he looks at you as being easy with no morals. go to his church and tell his bishop.
2007-01-21 22:22:22 · answer #5 · answered by prophetess chosen from god 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i think it was sex..considering his religion, that is a big no, no...and he still did it with you. i think you should move on anyways, you could do a lot bette
2007-01-21 22:07:56 · answer #6 · answered by kristina43 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
try talking with him about this and see what he says. it could go either way
2007-01-21 22:11:49 · answer #7 · answered by punkins_wife121705 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You used him......he used you, it's over now get over it and move on!
2007-01-21 22:07:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
maybe for him, but clearly it wasn,t jest sex it, was a lot more,
2007-01-21 22:09:41 · answer #9 · answered by i,m here if you need to talk. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to him and find out
2007-01-21 22:08:44 · answer #10 · answered by kimgurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋