My dad is sick and im scared he is going to die.?

Question

My dad has been sick for 5 years now and i have only know for about 2 months. I am 14 years old and i dont want to lose him. My dad is a very strong and positive person and my step-mom has been very upset but my dad always says everything is going to be ok, the other day my father looked at me and my step-mom and said "I am dying" and it scares me. Im scared that if he has gave up hope then he wont fight to stay here. if you would please help me. thank you very much i would be very greatful.

i have also lost so many ppl in my life time that i cant handle any more pain. my mother has been sick for a long time and i always seem to haf to deal with every thing. my two uncles died in exacty a year apart. my last uncle that died hurt very much and i still have not got over it and i dont know if i could deal with my dad being sick and my step-father haveing cancer all at the same time i found out 2 days apart that my father was sick and my step-dad had cancer.

Answer 1

im sorry to hear that.... be strong god says he will never put anything on you that you cannot handle. just pray and believe that god can heal anything. god bless your soul. and god bless your dad.
ima tell u some of the things that has happrnd to me>>>
i was born with some serious diseases that targeted my brain and heart. i wasnt suppose to live. at the time my mom took me to a church and let the pastor pray over me and by the love of god and the will power god had for me i lived . im 15 now.


my grandma died on my birthday when i was 6 years old. i didnt realize she died at the time. my grandma promised me hours before then she said im gonna bake you a cake when i get out this hospital. she died at 6:55 that evening. and it hurts me everyday knowing that my grandma died on my birthday. but i knowed one day she had to die. and she just died on my birthday. god called her home.
just believe that there is a such thing as maricles and sometimes god calls home an angel.....good luck and god bless you

Answer 2

I'm very sorry for you and your dad. My dad died suddenly and unexpectedly last spring and we're all still hurting so much. He tried to tell me that he was dying and tho i would respond in the moment, my denial would take over. Try to stay in the moment if you can, be where he is, talk to him about what he's saying.

I'm a middle aged lady, and you're just a little kid and you should not have to deal with this and you should not have to be strong - the grownups should take care of you. But, if you can be strong and talk with her dad about whatever he wants to talk about, you will have fewer regrets if he doesn't make it.

You should keep hoping for the best, and I'm sure he does, too, but his brain must process what's happening, and he must come to acceptance. That is not the same as giving up hope, which he will never do, because he loves you guys.

There is nothing at all any of us can do that will really help. I'm so so sorry. It's not fair.

Be good, give your best, and remember, you're just a kid and don't have to handle it well.

Answer 3

I am soooo sorry dear. My daughter lost her father at the age of 14 from a motorcycle accident and it was very devastating!!!! Doyou honestly think he has given up? If so, jst try to talk to him and tell him daddy i NEED you more than anything in the world and i dont want to lose you!!! I wish mydaughter would have had a chance toat least talk to her dad, but tradgedy happens and it is something that someone at a yound age like you are is very very hard to deal with. My daughter still has very bad moments and i wish i could take her pain away and make it all better but i cant. Just try and enjoy every moment you can with him while he is here!!!! Videotape him as much as you can at least that way you will have something to hold on to dear!!! May god be with you and your family in this time of tragedy , but always remember there are MIRACLES!!!! and i honestly hope one comes for you and your family!!!!!!! God Bless all of you right now!!!!

Answer 4

Losing a parent is never easy, I don't care how old you are. I lost my Dad when I was 36 and my Mom when I was 42. I was devastated for the longest time. But, it does get easier.
If your Dad is ill ( God Bless Him) , and he is sick enough to die, maybe that is best. You wouldn't want him to live a life of pain and illness would you? You love him and want for him to be well, this I understand. But sadly we can not always hang onto to those we love the most, but we can be thankful for each moment we had with them while they were with us.
Perhpas you should speak to your school counselor about this.
Good Luck to you.

Answer 5

first i'm so sorry for what you're going through. i think that you should talk to someone who isnt close to the situation. do you have any adults that you feel close to, maybe a teacher or coach or counsler at school? just to let some stress out with out getting your family down. when my uncle was dying from cancer the whole family including him got together and made a scap book. this is something you can do by yourself or with your mom/stepmom dad and realatives. you can get pictures and have everyone who knows him write down their best memorie. make sure you use present tense. dont make it as a memorial, but as something you all can read together, but you can keep always to think back on what a strong special person he is/was. I'll be praying for you. but i do think you should find someone to talk to first to clear your head and maybe get some frustrations out. good luck

Answer 6

this will be one of the toughest things you can go through whether you are 14 or 34 and I wish we could all give you just the right help. You have every right to be scared, tell Dad you love him. The best thing you can do is spend time with him, watching your favorite movies or read to him or what ever he's feeling up to.

I'm not a religious person but my mom's minister said something to me that brought me comfort--"give your worries to God don't take them back it would be rude." weird I know but it helped get me through.

try your best to be strong for your dad.

Answer 7

I am so sorry for all this.. a young person should not have to deal with so much death in their young lives..... all I can say to you is make your memories now... you at least have the chance to get to know both ppl and make time and memories with them, most ppl dont get that chance ... ppl who die are going to a better place too, they are leaving us behind but you have to know that they will NOT hurt anymore when they leave us... the pain and suffering they feel will be over and they will be happy and healthy again with God.. I know how it hurts to loose some one, we all do !!! but it does get easier as time goes by... Mourn all you need to, write little stories about these ppl, your 2 dads, and take lots of pictures and make story books for each of them... take the time to spend with each of them !!! Love them all you can, so when they are gone you will KNOW you loved them enough !!!!! God bless

Answer 8

I know it's a scary time for you but none of us knows what the future holds in store. Just enjoy the time you have left to the fullest. The fact that you love him so much is one of the greatest gifts anyone can get in this life. Just knowing that people care about you that much can give you the will to fight to the very end.

Answer 9

I am glad to hear that your dad is in your heart so strongly that is a very good thing.Now this is what you do you take alot of pictures of him.You go for little walks with him,You do what ever you feel he can do just with you because see he is your dad and from what I am hearing you love him very,very much so you do all you can so you will have pictures and the private time with him.Try to stay stong just try I know its going to be hard but I know you will be fine just because you can say "I HAD THAT PRIVATE TIME WITH MY DAD"

Answer 10

the only thing i can really say is think positive thoughts, not negative. have good times with him, and try to forget the bad ones (when he is very sick)