Okay, So I signed up for one of thoes friend network websites, sort of like hi5 or whatever. Anyway, I searched my boyfriends name and found out that he was signed up, so I joined the network to view his profile. Apparently he goes on often, I never knew, not that I need to know what he does all the time. There were messages on there from some gurl, so I viewed her profile, and read the messages my boyfriend sent her last week.
He said, "_ _ _ _ _!!!? Where have you beeen??!?!? How are you? and I seee you're still a hotty ;)" She replied: "Thanks, even though I don't think it's true. ADD ME TO MSN ALREADY!!!!"
Reading that made me feel so hurt. I'm not sure if I should be hurt. From what I can tell and know, he'll never cheat on me. I use to brag about how faithful he is, and how much he would never hurt me. But I feel so hurt, am I over reacting? and jumping to conclusions? or worse am I turning into a disgusting jealous girlfriend?
2007-01-21 13:55:38 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've always been extremely confident in my relationship. I'm not insecure at all. It just stunned me. I remember last week, I answered a question and told a girl that I have 150% trust in my boyfriend.
2007-01-21 14:03:38 · update #1
It is understandable that you feel hurt. He is openly flirting with another woman! Only, I guess it is not that open since he didn't tell you about it. I think you deserve some answers about who she is and what his relationship with her is. I wouldn't worry so much about being a "disgusting jealous girlfriend." If he is as great as you think he is, he won't be offended about you asking questions. Just think if the situation were reversed. Wouldn't you understand if he saw an e-mail like that and he asked about it? Stand up for yourself and how you are feeling. You are part of this relationship too- your feelings matter just as much as his do. Good luck. I hope he has a reasonable explanation.
2007-01-21 14:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by Lady J 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i would feel insecure.. cos apparently hes callin someone else a hottie? but still, none of their messages show that he cheat on u right? the most and worse is that they are flirting.... hmm.. maybe u shd just tell him straight what u saw and have a good talk with him.... that will be the best way.. do not jump to any conclusion cos it will harm the relationship..
Best Wishes
2007-01-21 22:10:09 · answer #2 · answered by sadgal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well what I would do is keep tabs on their canverstions back and forth for a while then when you feel he might be cheating you then meet with him face to face tell him that you know he is talking to this girl and reveal a couple of things he would not want you to know and see what his immediate reaction is. From that you should be able to tell if he is honest or just a really good freakin liar.
2007-01-21 22:01:37 · answer #3 · answered by secret love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to be upset and/or jealous. If you are in a relationship, you should know who your partner talks to. If he hasn't told you about that girl it is for a reason....and I'm sorry but he shouldn't be calling other girls hotties or talking to them behind your back. That is just wrong. Don't be so sure he won't cheat on you, you have to be realistic. Why else would he be sneaking around online, and talking to other girls??
2007-01-21 22:04:59 · answer #4 · answered by babygirla718 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no u have a perfect right to feel hurt, u thought u and he were exclusive, and there was no one else, now u see there is someone else interested in him, that he may also be interested in. we sometimes get the shock of our life, when we see things that we never thought were, and it is so hard to accept. use to think my ex was a good husband, and that he would never cheat on me, sometimes we do have the tendency to put them up on pedestals and we see only what we want to see, and that's when we get hurt, when our perception is different than what we just find out. need to confront him, find out just where u stand in all this, because if u aren't exclusive than u may not want to be in the relationship anymore, he owes u the truth.
2007-01-21 22:06:27 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, for me, its like this. If u believe in ur bf's values and integrity, then there is nothing to be jealous about. some men would say that just for the heck of it; u know there's a lot of women out there craving for attention and most men would say anything justfor the heck of it and means nothing to them at all esp when they already love someone.
what ur feeling right now is just normal. but like i said.. if ur bf is the kind with good values and integrity and matured, then u dont have to worry about anything. but, yes, u have to check on it once n a while bec even the best men in the world with the best of intentions also do fall into temptation.
dont worry too much.. destiny will dictate who ends up with whom; so dont stress urself too much...
2007-01-21 22:02:27 · answer #6 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well u r overreacting.
just because u two are together doesn't stop that chick from being hot.
should he have told her she was hot? maybe pretty but not hot.
"ADD ME TO MSN ALREADY" he hasn't been chatting with her like that, she's not even on his msn. msn comes before phone number......so they haven't been talking on the phone either.
unless he added her after he asked which mean he most likely did.
just tell him not to be talking to her because u think she wants him
or say u have the hots for her...that'll make things weird and he will not wanna look at her....or you..........????
2007-01-21 22:02:35 · answer #7 · answered by me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, ur feeling insecure...u dun even trust ur bf and that's why ur checking up on him. And for him to say those sentence, it cld mean anything, flirting online doesn't mean anything at all, it might be for fun or he is teasing that girl...normal thing. But it cld be that he is into her too...so, ask him abt it and talk to him. Tell him what u like and dislike cos he might not know. And also respect his privacy...ur invading it!!
2007-01-21 22:00:37 · answer #8 · answered by DooGie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not over reacting at all. No guy who is commmited would do that.
He is tired of you and will most likely be leaving anytime soon...
YOu need to decide if you will spice things up for him, wait for him to leave, or realize that you are better off without him.
2007-01-21 22:00:15 · answer #9 · answered by MinkeyMink 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO you are not overreacting...then again it is the internet...people tend to let loose a lil bit, just because they feel as if they can. Maybe he is doing harmless flirting, but you really need to tell him that this is bothering you. Good luck
2007-01-21 22:12:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋