she told me to back off and i will.Does she not want to be around me now? she doest even call me or text me now were close friends but she ways lonely and needed someone just to be their and i took it the wrong way i have liked her for a few years, she just got out of a 2 year relationship 6 months ago they were to be married but her ex was unhappy and broke it off,and now she wont even sit next to me or look my detraction. she wants space right? but i just want to be friend now(not really but ill hide it) what should i do just keep call/text her every other day or just back off and wait for her to call? were both 19
2007-01-21 13:11:33 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it sounds like you need to give her space. You should tell her you'll back off like she wants but you're always just a phone call or e-mail away if she needs you. Then stay away and let her clear her head. What she's gone through is a big disappointment and it's probably very hard to take.
Even though I'm sure you don't mean it like this it might look to her like you're saying yeah, he's gone and I'll just move into his spot and it will be fine and it doesn't work like that. Let her see what her life is like without your friendship and I'll bet in time she'll want that back.
But for you, are you sure you want to set yourself up like that? You really want more but are hiding it from her. There's no guarantee when she's over this she will want to be more than friends with you and that would hurt alot I would think. So just be sure you are willing to miss out on other opportunities with other girls and gamble on her.
Good luck!! I hope it works out for both of you.
2007-01-21 13:28:48 · answer #1 · answered by Hopeful girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone. She needs to deal with it her own way. When she's ready, she will call and talk to you or to someone. Just give her a friendly gesture - smile, wave, etc.
You are too young to get married. Concentrate on school - you have plenty of time for this sort of things. Better education ensures better future for you and for someone you care.
God bless!
2007-01-21 13:24:19 · answer #2 · answered by childofGod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all why would you try to bait her and tell her you just want to be friends and in reality that is not the case maybe you should just tell her how you feel tell her you understand she just got out of a relationship but you have feelings for her, tell her you will give her a little space but just think about giving you a chance, tell her you are not going to push her into anything but you also are not going to just wait around either. don't beat around the bush or tell lies just tell the truth.
2007-01-21 13:22:29 · answer #3 · answered by T.T. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask if you can have a quick word with her and say "I'm sorry I didn't give you enough space, but I'm always here if you need to talk." If she doesn't accept your apology, then you did all you could and just need to move on. Good luck.
2007-01-21 13:18:47 · answer #4 · answered by Tess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i m going with the later I think cause my personallity is a handful to say the least .. I tend to steamroll everyone only a special girl that is ready can handle the town pound in a nice way offcourse.
2007-01-21 13:17:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋