I used to be an exotic dancer/stripper when I was a student. I am now a professional. I'm not proud of my past employment, but not exactly ashamed of it.
My problem is....should I tell the men I date what I used to do?
I tend to never bring this up, but I'd like to be honest.
2007-01-21 13:07:54 · 9 answers · asked by CURVY 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do not care if you danced in the past as long as you now dance for me. You know that I love to watch you dance on the homemade movies that you make for me.
2007-01-22 01:53:29 · answer #1 · answered by ICARRYABIGSTICK 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are the honest type and you feel comfortable talking about the past to your date then do it if it will make thing easier. It is obvious you felt you did what you had to do to get you in a professional job so you could get ahead, it not uncommon to have an odd job, many people do when they start out. If you don't feel comfortable telling them then don't if you think it will hurt the relationship, but should the relationship become more then that is when you need to tell them.
2007-01-21 13:21:54 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The past is passed. Water under the bridge.
Honosty is nice, but sometimes inconvenient.
Situational ethics would suggest you do not volunteer anything, but respond honostly. A gentleman would never ask.
Perhaps the most significant wisdom I have to offer you is that when your soulmate comes in to your life, he will not care. Unless someone can accept you as you are, and as you were, they are probably not worth spending time with. If the gentleman in your life asks, tell him. It may be a turn on. On the other hand, if he cannot accept it, he is probably not worth the time of day.
Your soulmate will likely not be perfect, either. It is important you know that. If he is not perfect, are you willing to accept him as he is and was? If not, it is your problem, not his...
2007-01-21 13:25:26 · answer #3 · answered by jpturboprop 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should only tell the man that u will marry. because the other men that come and go in your life are obviously not important. if u find a man that u think yeah I've found my life then tell him just in case someone from your past knows you and has seen you doing what you did then he/she could tell and might ruin your relationship. but don't be ashamed you were trying to make a living and now you are following your dream.
2007-01-21 13:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by joey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some things about your past are just that to the majority of people. Not everyone needs to know everything. If you plan on having a serious relationship with someone then at some point yes tell them. We all have things about our lives that we don't share with everyone we know. Good luck and congrats on a new career!!!
2007-01-21 13:16:48 · answer #5 · answered by persha69 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that most men will probably use that information and make assumptions as to your moral character and your values. I would leave it in the past at least until you are in a serious, committed relationship with a good guy...Shallow guys will just try to get you in bed.
2007-01-21 13:17:02 · answer #6 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't bring it up unless directly asked.
2007-01-21 13:14:28 · answer #7 · answered by drfk2003 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they ask about your past yes you should if they don't then no unless you feel they should know it
2007-01-21 13:14:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
'be' proud
2007-01-22 05:21:40 · answer #9 · answered by lowroad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋