i have been dating this divorced guy for over 3 mons now and before it gets any farther i want someones opinion on this.he was married for 7yrs with a child that he adoors.hes the best/loving dad i have ever seen.the problem is he cheated on his wife not once but 2x and finally left her for an old gf(not me).he told me his wife was so bad to him she drove him to cheat.i will say in the 3 short mons i have known him he has been nothing short of wonderful/accommodating to her but she has made his life a living hell.example i heard her call him a f-cking a-shole in front of thier 5 yr old child and he just walked away.i asked him if she was so bad to u why did u not leave.he said when u have a child its not that easy u want to make it work.what do u guys think can a controlling wife make u cheat or did he make her that way from all his cheating/lieing on her?
2007-01-21 13:04:14 · 5 answers · asked by heather5jean 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is an old story! One that is so worn out that I would have thought every woman in the world has heard it by now! Listen, a wife does not make a man cheat! He chooses to do this on his own! If one is unhappy in marriage, he does the decent thing and leaves the relationship BEFORE he pursues another one! If my husband were to have cheated on me, I would not trust him either! Just remember, If he cannot honor his vows with a woman he promised to love and be faithful to before God, and with whom he has a child, what makes you think he is telling the truth and will be faithful to you? No excuses are acceptable for a cheater! He knew this woman before he married her, and married her anyway! He is using the horrible wife story to get some action! If he did it to her.....he will do it to you! Ladies, stay away from married men!
2007-01-21 13:19:35 · answer #1 · answered by Marie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol I think the guy is retarded. He has children ... a family ... why cheat? If he was unhappy then there's something called D,I,V,O,R,C,E. What an idiot lol there's no other word for it.
Wife being too "CONTROLLING"? Are you serious? Now either that's an excuse for his cheating or he's a major push-over aka P-U-S-S-Y. NO woman should control a man and NO man should control a woman. Damn, I mean stand UP for yourself if she's too controlling, not cheat. Would you want to be with a man like that? He's not even a "man" actually. Would you want to be with a "Boy" like that who cheated not once, but twice? Clearly you don't have any trust issues whatsoever. Good Luck
2007-01-21 13:16:21 · answer #2 · answered by Bobby_Bomberman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! No way, he was a jerk to cheat on his first wife and child. He did that on his own. No body "drives" us to do what we do, we do it because we want to! That is the plain and simple and very sad truth! You will not really get to see who this man is in three short months. Try living with a cheating jerk like that for a year or two, and THEN tell me you won't be cussing him out too! She did not trust him because he hurt her, The unfortunate victims were not only his wife, but his innocent 5 year old child who had to endure seeing his poor mother hurt and lashing out because of the father's infidelity. Something I am sure he will remember for the rest of his life, thanks to daddy dearest! A guy like that likes to justify his actions and so he will tell an unsuspecting female he wants to get lucky with anything! You really think he is going to tell you the truth? Wake up and take those blinders off before he hurts you too! He will!
2007-01-24 05:30:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to tell in this case. Did he suggest counsiling for their problems? or did he just seek sexual relief? Cheating more than once shows that his priority is to get off with any woman available.
Tell him you are too tired a few times and see how he handles it.
2007-01-21 13:12:33 · answer #4 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Cheating is a character issue. You should have more self-respect, IMHO.
2007-01-21 13:08:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋