Whenever I'm without my boyfriend I feel really like depressed and sad. I love him so much and i really do. Is this normal to be so obsessed with him? I've had other boyfriends and I've never felt like this. I think I'm like this with my boyfirend because he is the best and always will be, so I'm just so afraid to lose him. Am I right? What's wrong with me? I'm tired of feeling so depressed all the time
2007-01-21 13:01:29 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I became this same way with my husband. Very clingy and needy. I had never been this way with other boyfriends, but for some reason I had to be with him all the time. It's called codependency. When he left for 2 weeks to work out of state I had anxiety attacks, was depressed etc... I really thought I was going insane. I straightened myself out before we got married, and now enjoy my alone time... Of course I still want to spend a lot of time with him, but enjoy time away too. The consequences of maintaining a codependant relationship can result in a lot of unmet personal needs, and can often resurface as depression, anxiety, and stress.
2007-01-21 13:11:04 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd like to say that I am exactly the same as the asker but just that I'm male as opposed to female. I love my girlfriend very much & she's such a nice person. She only comes around once & i wouldn't want to lose her EVER. I actually cry at the thought of losing her & i actually posed a question about this same subject. I can relate to the asker fully & the answers are all good & well but it's so difficult to stay away from her. I wanna be around her every moment. I tried staying away from her for like one day but t became too much. I think i'm obsessed.
2007-01-21 20:17:39 · answer #2 · answered by Gokuh 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's ok to love spending time with him, but every guy needs space. Even married men! You can still be in a committed relationship and have freedom to be on your own sometimes. Don't smother him! Guys need time away. No matter how much they love us - they still need time to do guy stuff and re-charge their testosterone. You need to find a close female friend and balance your time better. Smothering him will only ruin the relationship. It's cute in the first few months but after a while he'll freak out and want out.
2007-01-21 13:06:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think is is normal for most young girls but it's not healthy to obsess over anything like that because you can really get hurt and it may scare him off. You need to stay busy and get to know who you are and what you like. I am a firm beleiver in "you can't make anyone else happy if you're not happy with yourself". I think most guys would rather a girl that has her own life than one that is smothering.
2007-01-21 13:08:18 · answer #4 · answered by Nette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, he must really be great. Talk to him about it. Maybe you guys could figure out a way to have you miss him less.
2007-01-21 13:07:00 · answer #5 · answered by helplessromatic2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋