my boyfriend of 18 months is having a recurrance of cancer, he is in constant pain and needs constant attention. this illness is my main source of stress and unhappiness, should i leave him as i am so unhappy and drained? i am 28 yrs old
2007-01-21 12:54:16 · 9 answers · asked by saegiie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes you cold hearted cow, go and enjoy yourself, and I hope you contract the disease, and your loved ones leave you to die alone!
GET HIM AND YOURSELF SOME HELP!
2007-01-21 12:59:12 · answer #1 · answered by tattie_herbert 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
leave him as a boyfriend but not as a friend, you know what i mean?
if your in an unhappy relationship you shouldnt force yourself to continue, however, you dont want to leave him in this time of his life, maintain contact, continue friendship, but make it clear that your bf/gf relationship is over and the constant attention is making you unhappy and you need some space but still be friends but not too close, close enough .
2007-01-21 12:59:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooh that's a sticky situation. You don't want to hurt him even more, but at the same time you need to distress. Are you with him constantly? Maybe you should limit the amount of time in a day or week you spend with him so you can destress a bit. It sucks to be in a situation like that. Good luck.
2007-01-21 13:03:14 · answer #3 · answered by Wishing on a Dream 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I am so sorry you are having to deal with this kind of question. If you can not love him past the cancer, and your love for him does not outweigh the stress then you need to leave him.
Meaning, if you are not happy and your love for him isn't more than the disease then you need to find someone that you love enough to stand by no matter what.
2007-01-21 13:02:22 · answer #4 · answered by Serenayowlerlove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you must feel, but consider how he feels. You could be the one person in his life that he's fighting to live for. Imagine if he were to die, could you live with the guilt knowing that you broke his heart when he had only a short time to live?
Not to pressure you or anything, just wanted to give a worst case scenario. My best wishes that he gets better.
2007-01-21 12:59:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not married to him and (hopefully you have not committed fornication), and so you are under no obligation to him.
This is a character issue for you. Only you can determine what you want. But if you did commit fornication maybe you owe it to him?
This is a severe character test for you. But if you had any gumption in you, you would see it through... you'll will come out stronger for it.
2007-01-21 13:04:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww I am so sorry. I will pray him and you.
He needs you now more than ever. Stay and be with him. How would he feel if you left? Do you love him? That's the question you need to ask yourself. If you do, you wouldn't be asking this question. Good Luck :)
God Bless and Be Safe :)
2007-01-21 13:02:18 · answer #7 · answered by Yeah it's me................ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just pray for him i mean seriousy pray for him. start going to church if you dont already go. call a practioner to pray for him. life is not as bad as it may seem to be sometimes. jsut pray, and i promise you things will get better.
2007-01-21 13:07:03 · answer #8 · answered by poohbear's_girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking? You know that you are going to anyway.
2007-01-21 12:58:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋