So, my boyfriend and i are planning our first time, but im afraid it will hurt terribly.
And also are there any other things i should know
Help please!!!
2007-01-21 12:39:49 · 17 answers · asked by in?uisitive 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes we Love eachother
And yes we are in a committed relationship
2007-01-21 12:45:52 · update #1
This is a big deal! There are many things to consider! When it was my first time. I had so many doubts and guestions. First of all it doesn't hurt at all. But, make sure that you are using alot of protection, and that you are prepared for the unexpected. Because there is no way for someone to explain it in words really. Im not saying that you shouldn't do it because think about it all of your helth teachers that you have ever had that have said dont do sex, have probably done it alot and they turned up fine. There is nothing wrong about it. What ever you choose will be the right choice( PS dont let anybody pressure you, it's your body)
2007-01-21 12:48:45 · answer #1 · answered by Jane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? You should know that the relationship will probably end and will you be happy afterwards. It does hurt and its not usually good the first few times. Have you been together long? If less than a year keep waiting. What do you know about him? Was he formerly known as a player ? Will you be fine if you follow through and he never speaks to you again. Has he been tested for diseases? Have you? HPV is very easily contracted and can lead to a lot of issues for females. Are you ok if you get pg? Because no birth control is full proof.
2007-01-21 12:47:03 · answer #2 · answered by troys_wifey2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to relax. It will not be anything like in the movies, so don't worry that it's not like that. It will probably hurt a little bit, but it will go away. Also, you might bleed a little so be prepared for that. Just try to relax and have fun. One other thing, I would talk about protection and what you would do if you should become pregnant. I don't want to scare you, but it could happen and you should agree on what you would do ahead of time. Have fun ;)
2007-01-21 12:47:02 · answer #3 · answered by Wishing on a Dream 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly LOVE your boyfriend, dont be afraid and just do it.
If you are afraid of pain, have your bf on the bottom and yourself on top. Dont ride him like a cowgirl, but lay on top of him so that your face is close to his. Ask HIM to move his pelvis. ASk him to hug you in his arms. Why? Because when it's gonna hurt you will want to move up, and that's no good. That's why he has to hold you so you cant move. You'll do your thing later after the pain is gone.
If you dont love him and just want to try this sex thing cause of peer pressure or just cause you can:
Dont do it! It's too early.
After you have done it, you'll understand that it wasnt what you expected it to be, and you'll be disgusted with the whole situation and yourself. Your next b/f will ahve a hard time getting you in bed.
2007-01-21 12:48:07 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does hurt, but not too much. You get over it quickly. And just keep in mind that there probably will be some bleeding and it will hurt for the first few times (not just the first). Keep some lubricant on hand (like KY jelly -- it's water-based and won't break down the latex in a condom like petrolium jelly will) and go slow. And be sure you use protection!!
2007-01-21 12:47:01 · answer #5 · answered by spyhopper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for some girls i know it does hurt and there is a little bit of blood, but for me it didn't hurt and there was no blood.
Also don't be disappointed if it is not like you imagined it, but the first time is a bit of a let down if you get your hopes up.
Also if you come to doing it and you don't want to let him no, because there is nothing worse then going through with it and having regrets.
2007-01-21 12:45:51 · answer #6 · answered by princess_kimnus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, u shoudl always use contraceptives (i.e, condoms, the pill,..etc) always get tested for std's before and after u guys have sex becuase STD's are on a rise. and the first tiem will hurt really bad becuase ur hymen is getting ripped. but soem girls dont feel it at all because when u are sexually excited it doesnt hurt as much so get as horny as u can possibly get and it wont hurt as much trust me! well good luck and take care of urself.
2007-01-21 12:46:31 · answer #7 · answered by Daisy! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have some lubricant handy incase things don't go smoothly, that should keep things from getting akward. Don't be afraid to tell him to slow down, it should be enjoyable for both of you.
2007-01-21 12:43:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It will hurt for a split second, and then you will experience some great pleasure.
2007-01-21 12:47:29 · answer #9 · answered by GENE D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're underage, don't do it!
Otherwise, use birth control and condoms! Go slow, be patient and gentle with each other.
2007-01-21 12:45:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋