my bf seems to be freaked out that everytime i tell him i have a serious question that im going to ask him about moving in together after high school or getting married..
i donno maybe its a fear of commitment but it seem like something more then that.
we have been dating for 3 months now and have already talked about how its goin to work when im in college, so we know were gonna be together for a long time..but still..why does he keep thinking that.
cause im not thinking about marrige at all... =/
2007-01-21 12:37:54 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
sorry guys but i forgot to add..
us staying together until college WAS NOT MY IDEA!!!
he brought it up to me. and he always talks about how excited he is that when im away at college hes gonna come spend days at a time in my dorm room..
like completely honest i asked him one day how long do u think we will be together and he said..well see once your in college but a long time..
and i was shocked!...so its not like i brought this topic up to him..
2007-01-21 12:53:58 · update #1
he may be freaked becasue maybe deep down he wants you to ask about marriage or moving in and he's too afreaid to mention it himself. college is a very tough time for a couple to get through, i know i'm in it right now!! but it is possible if you two are in love and honest to eachother about your feelings. ask him why he assumes that. that's the best way to find out!
2007-01-21 13:56:09 · answer #1 · answered by Duelen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-16 10:13:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that then. The thing that bothers men the worst is when the woman says Honey- we need to talk. Instead approach your question as "hey Todd, I want to discuss how we are going to keep the relationship going once we go off to college." If you state the content of the conversation at first, it will lessen his anxiety.
2007-01-21 12:45:06 · answer #3 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its because everytime your GF says, we need to have a discussion, the first thing that goes through a guys mind is 'oh sh*t, I am in trouble, what have I forgotten, I must have said something wrong, did I look at someone, oh lordy now I am in for it'
We go on the defensive straight away.
2007-01-21 12:46:11 · answer #4 · answered by fizz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would appear that he's scared of the future and does not want to face it. Get right to the point - maybe this is his way of not wanting the relationship to go forward and he doesn't know how to tell you.
2007-01-21 12:47:31 · answer #5 · answered by Jack S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he doesn't want to trade total freedom for a loving romantic life yet. Believe me its normal.
2007-01-21 12:47:07 · answer #6 · answered by da_hammerhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thinks you are.Just dont bring it up until the time comes.
2007-01-21 12:45:30 · answer #7 · answered by Jim C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋