My son's father want to come back the reason he left is because my son has a speech delay?

Question

my son has a speech delay and his father said something is wrong with him and was a shame of him but,just the other day
when he dropped off our child he said we need to talk i was like here we go what could he want to talk about.

Answer 1

he has no business being ashamed of him.he helped create him too.if he wants to get back with you.....just say no.you don't need someone like him who doesn't love your baby for who he is.

Answer 2

The fact that he wants to talk is a good thing, and you should regard it as just that. Even if what he says you don't agree with completely. You two obviously need to clear a few things up. If he wants to be an active father, thank god and your own wisdom for choosing a father who had that quality. If it turns out that what you say is true and he is ashamed of your son due to a speech delay, then suggest to him that he look for a solution that the two of you can implement together, rather than to be critical and unattached. Encourage him to be the sort of father your child needs and deserves, then thank him for being so. Positive reinforcement goes a long way and in the long run, the three of you can only benefit.

Answer 3

Well, my daughter had a speech delay and she is fine now. And so what if he did have a problem, your parents should always love you and help you. Maybe he realized what a jerk he has been. I hope he smartens up for the sake of his son. I wouldn't tolerate a man like that in my life but since he is your son's father you can't avoid him.
I hope your son has other male influences in his life. If his daddy bailed once he may do it again.

Answer 4

Think long and hard before allowing your child's father to come back. Any man that would abandon his child because of such a petty thing as a speech delay would probably be hard pressed to 'reform' and not pull similar stunts in the future. Be sure that he is commited to you and your son, understands what a terrible mistake he made, and (most importantly) is willing to apologize to your son. In time, he may be able to 'make it up to him' somewhat, but your son's trust may be hard won after this experience.

Best of luck to you all.

Answer 5

My oldest did no longer talk particularly some words until eventually ultimately he grow to be 3. He did no longer have a reason to talk considering I stayed abode with him and knew what he needed. He began speaking because of the fact the neighbor teenagers have been ill of twiddling with a toddler who could no longer talk. Went from some words to finished conversations in some month. Ended up contained in the honour Society in severe college. no longer something grow to be incorrect with him. confident, speech delays may be a symptom of Autism (my grandson has the two) yet there is soooo plenty extra to autism then speech delays. Do study to him, discuss with him, instantaneous him for words once you hand him something. rigidity "tub" at tub time, case in point. he will learn.

Answer 6

You know what ...that must be the hardest question... First you need to put your child first.. Will it be good for him or bad.If he's saying mean things to him or not treating him right than heck no... that wouldn't be fair to your son. It's not his fault. If he is going to be treating him right and respecting him than yea. But just don't let him keep on changing his mind and come then go and vis-versa. That will break your sons little heart and he will start understanding why daddys not there. Thats messed up though ,about him being ashamed... sorry you and your son needs to go through that...

Answer 7

I would not assume he wants to get come back to you - he said he "we needed to talk". See what he has to say.
Regarding him coming back, I would never want to reconciled with a man who could reject his family because his own flesh and blood child has a speech delay, or anything else wrong for that matter. How could any self-respecting man walk away from his child for a common and treatable problem. For any problem, however great or small, he should be helping his child, not running away from his responsibilities!

Answer 8

You don't need a man that would be ashamed of his own blood. That's not someone your son needs to look up to as a father. It will only hurt your son in the long run if you keep giving the man chances.

Answer 9

if thats why he left your better off without him! That is the dumbest reason to leave! I understand having a child with a speech delay is challenging but come on tell him to be a man and DEAL. Good luck to you!

Answer 10

If your son's father is not overjoyed to be his father then you don't need him in your life. A father should be proud of his son no matter what.

Hopefully he wants to discuss getting therapy for your son to help with his spech delay? I am not sure how old your son is but a friend of mine has a 3 year old and she gets therapy and it's very helpful to her speech. Hopefully your discussion with your son's father goes well.

Answer 11

My best friend went through this...Men expect their son's to be "a chip off the old block" it is hard for them to accept if there is a "defect" Sometimes it takes time and men get over it, especially if they see progress.
Maybe your son's father has had a wake up call and sees the error of his ways BUT I would defiantly encourage family counseling before just letting him move back in.
Just listen to him and see what he wants to talk about.