My Mom has gone into an odd over-protective mode?

Question

(I posted this in another section,and I appreciate the answers that were given. Just wondering what you guys over here have to suggest.)

I am really needing to get out of the house(no,school doesn't really count),but she's not letting me go anywhere without her being right there with me.
I'm fourteen,and I just want to go hang out with my friends and relax,but she's all of a sudden freaking out about me going anywhere where she is not present.
Parents,what can I as a kid do to help her settle down and let me have my space? She thinks I hate her.

Answer 1

Sit down and talk to her. Obviously you did something wrong to make her start worrying about you more.

Answer 2

I understand how you feel, considering that I am a teen myself. Your mom is being protective because this is the age where a lot of bad things can happen, like getting involved in drugs or hanging out with the wrong crowd and such. Talk to your mom about how you feel, and assure her that you're mature enough to take responsibilities in your actions. If you can gain her trust, then things will settle down more. Try it!

Answer 3

Dude 4 more yrs and you will have all the space you want. your old enough to get knocked up and at an age where alot of kids start doing drugs. start inviting you mom with you and your friends set a limit about how far she might have to sit, like at the movies or if at the mall you guys have to meet up and your there and she there but your not all walking together. Trust me. Being a mom isnt about being cool or even doing things that you understand its about parenting. just gonna have to deal with it for now. or you guys are just gonna fight all the time trust me i have been there. but my grandma didnt even let me out of the house without her, but she didnt go anywhere so i didnt go anywhere, church doesnt count

Answer 4

The mature thing to do would be to approach her about how you feel and ask what you can do to make her more comfortable and trusting with you going out. Tell her that you feel left out because your friends are going out, and would like to know what it is that makes her uncomfortable, and you want to find ways to change that. But it might take a while, and small steps such as going somewhere where she can be close by, but not close enough for you to trip over her... It might not be anything that you've done, it might just be her being more insecure about her "little girl" growing up, or seeing things happen to other girls your age, and being afraid of that. Either way, if you talk to her about it, you might be able to make her feel better about things.

Answer 5

I can tell you from experience...the hardest thing to do is "let" your children grow up...MUCH harder than raising them. ESPECIALLY mothers and daughters. She doesn't think you hate her, she is struggling very hard to come to grips with the fact that you don't NEED her like you used to. You need to understand...moms don't ACT LIKE moms, they ARE moms. You have always been the center of her world and believe it or not...she has always been the center of YOURS, and that's changing. Help her handle this by making sure you include her in what you're doing. By that, I mean when you get home from hanging with your friends, tell her something funny or interesting that happened when you were out....don't just come home and go to your room. If you have a cell phone, call her every once in awhile to "check in" and just say hi.

Eventually she will loosen up if you let her know that she's still important to you.

Answer 6

I wouldn't worry to much it's just what parents do they just want to you to think of them as your best friend and not as Mom and Dad so they know whats going on in your life and that your OK.

Because most teens at that age like to be with friends more than with their Mom and Dad. But I can tell you this if you just take some time out of your day to just talk to her like before you go to bed then she might ease back and let you go out with your friends.

Just try putting yourself in their shoes and think if you had a teenager who you still think is you little kid and had to have you around all the time and now it's like they just pushed you out of their life not that they did but that's just how you feel.

Answer 7

Did something happen to make her distrust you? Just ask her calmly and respectfully if there is a reason. maybe she dislikes one of your friends or has heard rumors about girls in your grade doing drugs or having sex. im sure she is just worried...so give her every reason in the world to trust you and maybe you two could strike up some sort of deal.