we were together only two months when he cheated on me with his ex that weighs at least a 80 pounds more then me. i lost all self confidence but didnt want to give up on our relationship. he lived in another city when this happened and how he moved to where i live to tr and make things better. i am trying to forget about it but no matter what i am doing i think about why it happened. was i not good enough? is there anyway to get over this faster so that we can move on i hate beig upset all the time thinking that it might happen again exspecially with him working out of town right now. PLEASE HELP ME
2007-01-21 11:53:04 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
not saying at all that she does not deserve love just as much as anyone else it just made me feel like i was that worthless that he had to go back to his ex that they did nothing but fight
2007-01-21 12:03:36 · update #1
He was working in grande prairie and had everything in the world going for him a great job great friends his family and to be together he would have had to move to edmonton i thik he was scared to give everything up. He has now given up everything to start over here in edmonton with me i know he wouldnt give everything up in his life just to move here to cheat again well i hope not anyways.
2007-01-21 12:11:07 · update #2
Gain 160 pounds, that way, you'll have a 80 pound advantage over the ex & since you lost your confidence, @ least you will have gained something in its place!!
2007-01-29 10:56:45 · answer #1 · answered by chevy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Once cheater is always a cheater. You deserve better. I do not want to hurt your feelings but he will definitely cheat again. Not because you are less pretty or anything, it just in their nature. Look at Hugh Grant, I like him as an actor but he cheated on his Miss Universe girlfriend. She is like the prettiest girl in the world! Looks doesn't matter, cheaters cheat no matter what. Why put yourself in those kind of situation when there are more loving and sweet man out there for you? Dump him NOW!
2007-01-21 20:01:06 · answer #2 · answered by daisyleemie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would love to write a 2 page column on how you could work things out. But the thing is....if he cheated on you, he took you for granted. He does not deserve you no matter how sorry he is. If he did it once, he WILL do it again. It's in his blood. He had absolutely NO heart and NO consideration for the part of you that you gave up to him. You deserve someone way better than that. Someone who respects you and what you have to offer. Sorry, but this is how I feel. Good luck. I feel terrible for you. You have to get away from him.
2007-01-21 19:58:46 · answer #3 · answered by Brittany A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband cheated on me when we were dating and the only way I was able to get over that mistrust was to know everything that happened? Have him answer all of you questions and maybe that will help you get over it. If he doesn't want to share then he is not worth the time. Sorry to say! Have you ever cheated? Sometimes you can't ever get over it if you have done it yourself. Be strong and don't get mad at him when he talks to you about it. When you are done talking just ask him to give you a little space to like. I wish you the best of luck!
2007-01-29 15:05:57 · answer #4 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, I wondering why you are working so hard on this, what about him? There are lots of fish in the sea, find someone who is nuts about you and would never think of hooking up with an "ex". I"m thinking you don't have much self value if you are hanging on to him. Don't you deserve better? Don't you deserve someone who's not all wrapped up in his past? If he's doing this to you now, so early in the relationship, what makes you think he will change with time?
2007-01-21 19:57:57 · answer #5 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mine cheated for 12 years out of the 15 we where together. It doesn't matter what the others look like it's about who you are. Don't be like me waiting and waiting hoping it will get better. it won't. You will not be able to forget, you might be able to forgive but he has to earn your trust again and that's hard to do. I suggest getting on with your own life. Take classes, start going out by yourself or with friends. things will fall into place.
You are good enought but you deserve better.
2007-01-21 20:01:40 · answer #6 · answered by peregrynsmum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did he really explain to you why he did it, and did you believe him that he was really, deeply sorry. the thing is, i'm sorry but it might happen again. the trust has gone out, but at least he's willing to work at it. it shows that it's not you that's the problem it's him. just try to take a back seat for a bit, step back and look at what he does for you. he has some making up to do (that can be fun!!!) if he does that, you have things to look forward to. it doesn't always have to hurt, and time will heal. the more he shows you, you can trust him again the better it will be.
2007-01-21 19:58:51 · answer #7 · answered by purple_butterflyuk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be with a guy who cheated on you? Once a cheater, always a cheater. Chances are he'll do it again...either to you or someone else he dates. Dump him, forget him, and move on. I, for one, could not stand the constant worry: What's he doing now? Where is he? Why is he late? Why doesn't he answer his cell phone? UGH! Don't do that to yourself. Drop the loser and find someone better. You are too valuable to waste your life on a jerk like that.
Aloha :)
2007-01-21 19:57:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be with him? Do you have so little respect for yourself that you would allow someone to treat you so badly. If you stay you are giving him permission to disrespect you forever. Set the standards higher and don't put up with this you must deserve better and you will not find better with him.
2007-01-21 20:01:31 · answer #9 · answered by noddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be okay. See that is how you people get stuck in ego love affairs. Because she is 80lbs more than you, you figure she isn't lovable. WRONG! Wake up and smell the coffee. He loves this girl! Move on and find happiness like these 2.
2007-01-21 19:57:37 · answer #10 · answered by sexy c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋