I dated this girl and it kinda did not work out in a way. She was insecure about us and I made the mistake of forcing the issues and ended up suggesting to be friends again.
During the past month we hanged out like 3 times with other buddies; the first 2 times she was herself and even online we would still talk and would msg me all the time. Suddenly, out of nowhere she stopped msging and our conversations became open ended. I asked iff she was ok, and I was concerned if everything was alright but it took her a long time and just answered with "Everything is fine, I have no problems with you".
The last time I saw her was at party. I was feeling a bit insecure with her sudden change in behaviour, so neither of us really attempted to talk to each other; there were situations when there was open seat next to me on the sofa and she would not sit down, unless I got up. Also, she was talking to this new guy and was very talkative and kinda flirty around him when I was around.
2007-01-21 11:27:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The reason I ask is because I regret having pushed her for an answer and agreeing to become friends I still like and care for her. Do you think it would be wise to ask for a 2nd chance?
2007-01-21 11:27:45 · update #1
It sure seems she has moved on... I hate to say it but it seems she may be interested in someone else. Although you regret your decision it probably was the best thing for you at least. Coming from someone outside this may seem a bit harsh but I think you should try to date a couple of other people...if in a while you still feel the same and she isn't involved then sit her down and come clean but it might actually be good for her security that you can say you saw what else is out there and she is it.
2007-01-21 11:34:32 · answer #1 · answered by Rutroh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep she likes ya and is prob just frustrated at the way u suggested being friends, she prob didn't want to be friends but felt since u mentioned it that she had no choice but to agree. If she didn't still care she would be ur friend no bother. I think u should just tell her that u made a mistake u suggested being friends cause u thought thats what she wanted and that u would like to start dating again, but do take things a little slower she does seem a tad insecure.
2007-01-21 19:33:01 · answer #2 · answered by louisem28 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say that I think you two weren't meant to be a couple. The differences between you for example her insecurity, aren't going to change. Also, showing interest in another guy while in the same room with you -- there's your answer. I know it's hard to accept, but I don't think things would have turned out any better if you'd done things differently.
2007-01-21 19:33:23 · answer #3 · answered by MailorderMaven 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible she is being influenced by her friends. she might have still liked you for awhile, but she is now moving on. And that's alright, I'm sure one point in time you could get back together. If I were you I'd move on, because there is a girl out there waiting for you. If I were you, I'd take the friendship you have and just ignore her. The more you pay attention to her, the more she will not pay attenttion to you. let her go...you deserve better.
2007-01-21 19:35:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing the whole situation, it's very difficult to say, but if you weren't happy with something (say, you like to push the issues) and you brought it up with her and she couldn't take it, then maybe you're better off. It sounds like you feel for her b/c you don't have her; you may miss her, it is normal, but you have to ask yourself is it worth it? Say she came back to you and you may still have the same issues and it might make you unhappy all over again, and then you may not even able to stay as friends. Would it be worth it? Your move, sir
2007-01-21 19:32:54 · answer #5 · answered by That Guy! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that is the only way you would know and get relieved, just be honest with her about your feelings. If she is playing games with you then she probably will stop if she likes you and give you a second chance. If she doesn't want to give you a second chance then she probably just isn't interested anymore.
Next time don't be pushy. Good luck.
2007-01-21 19:33:18 · answer #6 · answered by Maji 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok from my experiences im guessing she has moved on a lil i talk to old friends on line and its not the same they talk for like 3 mins and all they say is hi and and whats up and bye if u still like her tell her how u feel if she doesnt like u back find som1 new
2007-01-21 19:32:36 · answer #7 · answered by Washington King of the Interwebz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that she is exhibiting behavior that indicates she has moved on. Chalk this up as a lesson learned for future relationships and remain friends with her.
2007-01-21 19:32:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's probably moved on by the sound of things, 'specially if she's been flirting with other guys and not saying anything to you. That would say to me that she's over you.
2007-01-21 19:31:49 · answer #9 · answered by Mandi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has moved on and I suggest you save yourself some pain and do the same.You could tell her how you feel but I would think she is over it.
2007-01-21 19:31:35 · answer #10 · answered by Jim C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋