My friends are having a terrible time getting their 4 year old to sleep in his own space. They have tried without success to get him into his own room, but he just won't have any part of it. They are older parents and really need this to come to an end. Any suggestions to help the situations?
2007-01-21 11:21:33 · 12 answers · asked by Teenytime 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
start giving him rewards every time he does stay in his bed and start slow, like for a 1 hour nap then when he wakes up give him something he thinks is special. Nothing will work if the parents are not consistent you HAVE to be consistant!!!! good luck
2007-01-21 11:26:45 · answer #1 · answered by lovingmommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off, its going to be hard. The child is going to throw a fit, because he doesn't want to be in his own bed. It depends on what the parents feel like listening to. If they put the child in his room. Maybe fix it up to be really cool to where he would want to sleep in it. LIke a space ship, etc. Prepare him before bed. Tonight you are going to be a big boy and sleep in your own bed, something like that.
Take him in the room, read him a book, tell him it is time to go to bed and turn out the light. He will probably need a night light. He will throw a fit. His parents should NOT let him get in bed with them. If they give in, he has won. Even if one of them have to stay in the room with him, all night. He does not come out of the bedroom. It is going to take some time and it is going to be hard. Most parents whimp out, because they don't want to hear the child cry and scream. You go through this a couple nights and it should be over with.
Good luck!!!
2007-01-21 19:38:03 · answer #2 · answered by supersweetfungal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 is old enough to understand that mommy and daddy need their own bed. I have an 8 year old, 3year old and 10 month old, and the 10month old is the only one who still has to have me near him to fall asleep( and we are working on that too!). My now 3 year old pro-tested sleeping in her own bed for awhile as well and we just had to stick it out. We tried a method that worked ok where you put the child in bed and each night over a week you sit on the floor next to the childs bed and move prgoressivly closer to the door each night. sometimes you have to repeat this for a while but it may work. I also read a book called "The No Cry Sleep Solution" as I am one of the weak moms who can't bear to hear my children cry.
2007-01-21 20:15:42 · answer #3 · answered by roblesmomi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey that is weird my sister has the same problem. So I am going to tell you what you did I told my sister to do it but she will not listen. So you can either put a lock on your door so he can not get in, trust me you are not harming the child by doing this, you could put one gate up and lock it securely and stack another gate on top of it and lock it securely in his door way so then he can not climb out nor can he push the gate to get out and you can still hear him. Or you can put up a screen door in his room one that locks and keeps him in his room again he cannot get out and you can hear him. He is four he needs to start knowing that it is not okay for him to be in the adults bed. Also the adults have to be firm and cannot let the child get to them when it is 3 o'clock in the morning he needs to understand it is time for bed and here is where you stay until we get you up. Parents cannot give into him or there plan will fail. Well good luck.
2007-01-21 19:31:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple solution. They need to lock their bedroom door. Explain to the child that he has his own bed and mommy and daddy have their own bed. He is certainly old enough to understand that concept. Expect a lot of tears the first week and he'll probably even sleep on the floor outside their door at first. Eventually he'll get it and sleep in his own bed, as long as they don't give in.
2007-01-21 19:34:20 · answer #5 · answered by missmannah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to get a child out of the bed when they've been sleeping there for awhile. Only suggestion I can give is tough love. They need to explain to their kid that hes a big boy now and big biys sleep in their own bed. It'll be hard at first and probably will for awhile, but they'll have to let him cry himself to sleep. Whether he cries for 5 minutes, or 2 hours. He'll eventually get over it. If he keeps getting out of his bed, they need to keep putting him back in.
2007-01-21 19:26:35 · answer #6 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We had this problem too. Move his bed next to their bed. Every week move it further away from their bed. Over a 3 month period of time the bed should be moved slowly into the child's room. It really works as crazy as it sounds!!!! Good luck!!!
2007-01-21 20:07:03 · answer #7 · answered by Married and loving it!!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just going through a phase in his life, and will eventually grow out of it. Some kids are like that, and it just takes some time. I suggest talking to some specialists in this area of parenting because it can be very tough, but don't worry, he will grow out of it.
Also, maybe they can watch the TV show called "Supernanny", because she has some great ways to get kids to sleep in their own beds.
2007-01-21 19:33:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they should put a little bed in the room with them to get him used to sleeping alone at least. Then when they think he feels comfortable sleeping there, they could move him to his room. Make him take his naps (if he takes them) in his own room to start gettin him used to it slowly too.
2007-01-21 22:32:03 · answer #9 · answered by Christal E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why doesn't one of them try sleeping in the childs bed with him for a while he will get use to waking up in it and then going to sleep in it wont be so bad, then after a while one of them should sleep beside him one night not the next and so on and then gradually filter it out
2007-01-21 19:25:45 · answer #10 · answered by louisem28 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋