I do I ask a boy to a dance without embarrasing him or me?

Question

There's a dance on Friday, and I really want to ask this boy if he wants to go with me. How can I do this without embarassing him or me? How should I deal with rejection? Once I got rejected and I cried. I didn't end up going to that dance. But I HAVE to stay at this dance, no matter what.

Answer 1

hey girl, no stress! just come up to him (wen u or him are alone to make it more intimate) CAUTION: dont bring any of ur friends cuz u dont want him to think ur scared. and ask him. dont be shy. by the way, make sure u look pretty before u ask him and wear something that compliments u. if he rejects u, walk it off. dont cry or b upset, just forgive and forget

Answer 2

Why do you have to stay at this dance? Are you assisting in it somehow? Well, I still would ask him, but keep it casual and friendly. Say something like "I'm involved in Friday's dance and I think it would be fun if we went to it together--are you available that night?" Wording it that way doesn't sound clingy or "desperate." Wording it that way sounds like, if you can come with me fine, but if not, that's okay also. If he says no, I know you will feel hurt and rejected again---how can you not? But, in life rejection works both ways for guys and gals. If he can't go with you or has other plans, I just hope he'll be nice about it. If he's cruel or dismissive, the heck with him! If you don't take a chance, you'll never know--so ask him in a safe way.

Answer 3

Hmm, the old "ask a boy to the dance dilemma". Well, let me start off by saying that this is completely normal to be afraid of rejection, embarassment, so on and so forth. Well, you have to talk to him when you you and he is alone, then he can give you a definite answer. If his buddies are there, then they usually say "I don't know...", if your friends are there then that is really overwhelming for him. He doesn't want to seem like a jerk by saying no, and doesn't want to embarass himself by saying yes. So, once again, he is prone to saying "I don't know...". So, when he is alone and you are alone, no matter how much you want to bring a friend to make it easier, do it alone. Then, when you are face to face, it is only the two of you adn you can ask him honestly. He, I hope, will give you a more definite answer. You shouldn't be afraid, you are asking him a question, people do it all the time, God knows that everyone goes throught this and gets embarassed. Don't be nervous, just go up to him and say: "do you want to go to the dance with me on Friday?" Say it sincere, and it'll all be over in about two seconds. If he says no: don't cry over it, please. He is only one guy, there are billions more of them out there that will say yes. You are your own person and you are strong and independent. Don't let one guy drag you down. Just tell yourself that there are other guys out there and if he saud no, then you are too good for him. Then, cheer yourself up and if you have no one else to go with, go with friends. You'll probably have tons more fun with them then you ever would with a guy, it tends to get awkward...I know what it's like to not want to go to a dance without a date. I've done it, and I can't say I regretted it, but I know I would have had more fun there then at home. If you have to go to the dance, then go. There is no requirement that you need a date to go to the dance. Cheer up and remember, rejection is not everything, it isn't your sole focus. Go and have fun. I've been single for a long time and I think it is quite freeing not to be tied down by a guy. If he does say no: then you can think if it as more freedom. Someone better always comes along. Good luck and don't be sad. Please don't cry if he says no. It just isn't worth it for you to get yourself all worked up, he is just one person. GOOD LUCK!!!! ;-)

Answer 4

Don't be so serious about it. Just casually ask him. It's just a date. You'll probably have more dates with other guys later on. Most people don't marry their high school sweethearts. Just think of it as practice. If he says no, oh well. Ask some other guy out...or just go with some girlfriends, and have fun as a group. A group of girls having fun will attract a lot of guys. Just remember, in high school, it's more of a game than anything else...don't take it so seriously.

PS- As far as what to wear...I find most guys feel more comfortable around girls that don't intimidate them. Just wear something casual, and toss your hair up with a pencil or something. This will help with the not taking it all too seriously, and he'll see that. Guys don't like stress, and if you take it too seriously, it'll stress him out.

Just make sure you wear something that'll knock his socks off at the dance....oooh yeah!

Answer 5

Acceptance.......rejection......embarrasment, all part of life. You can't not ask him, and wonder would have been, don't feel scared to live a little. It'll only make you stronger. Now a forth and don't take "No" for an answer.

Answer 6

if yall have lockers at your school then go and find his locker when no one is around and slip in a note that says will you go to the dance with me?? from (your name) then on the note say put the answer in locker ___. then hope for the best. if you don't have locker at your school than just try to find out if he has a cell and get the number some how and then text him and ask he if he would like to.

Answer 7

ask him. i have a feeling that both of you are nervous, afraid of being rejected. just ask the guy: i want to go to the dance friday and have no one to go with. all of my friends already have a date. if you do not have a date, why do we not team up and go. no strings attached. we can go dutch.

Answer 8

Don't ask in front of friends. His or yours. Be causal about it. Maybe say, "Are you taking anyone to the dance?", if he says no then ask, "Would you like to go with me?". If he says no then just say, "Oh, okay I had to take a chance". That sounds snooty but it is confident and walk away uneffected. He will regret saying no and may ask you!!!

Answer 9

Just say in a cool way "hey about the dance you wanna go wit me?"

Answer 10

Just ask him and be honest. The first rejection you will get over and asking people out you will become more comfterble with. Just ask him out. Hell even ask the geek I am sure he will through you off your feet.