I feel like my son's grandparents don't listen to him/show him respect, and I read stats in a magazine that said a lot of people in my generation feel that way. As an example, our parents will see my son pushing a pull toy on the floor, and they'll say, "Pull it by the string." He knows there's a string and knows how to use it, but he wants to push the toy, and he's not hurting anything or anyone. So why do they feel the need to order him around? He's a person too; why doesn't he get to do what he wants, within reason? If he's doing good stuff, why burden him with unnecessary structure? Anybody know a good way to deal with this? Is there a nice way to say "I know you mean well, but you're stifling him"?
2007-01-21 10:58:44 · 7 answers · asked by serenity_ii 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Sometimes you just have to get straight to the point...feelings may have to be hurt in order to eliminate ground room for the blame game. Your child is trying new things and he sees that he can use the toy by "pulling" and "pushing" and it still works the same way. Exploring and experimenting are keys for child development and allow him to learn that there is more than one way to make things happen. If your child feels that there is a need to listen to the demands his grandparents have given him then he is being obedient...good job but you are absoultely right. There is no reason to change things when they are not key to the issue.
It's child-play.
Remember, whatever you say, you must mean it so that they will not try to turn the subject around and make you feel guilty about the way you raise your child.
2007-01-26 08:39:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, it happens. Even a bossy little neighbor girl that's just 4 year old tells my 3 yr old son how to do things. She's the expert! It's human nature I guess, and you do have to make an effort to not do it. We try very had to keep our mouths shut, let our kids us their imaginations and don't sweat little things like how to use a toy. Every toy in our house has been treated as a car or swaddled like a baby so there's not telling what a childs imagination is up to.
2007-01-26 02:32:50 · answer #2 · answered by wwhrd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parent do the same thing... I just say: oh leave her alone she's alright.. Or stop messing with her...I think parent try to correct the mistakes they have made with us so they work on it with our children .Also they just are trying to show you that they have an interest in the child... Ignore it only if its nonsnese but if its something that interupts the child; as a parent correct it...
I will open my mouth when due
2007-01-25 05:06:54 · answer #3 · answered by Lela T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way you just said it is perfectly acceptable. This is your child. Tell his grandparents that you will handle raising him and for them to just enjoy being grandparents. There is absolutely nothing wrong with your son being creative.
2007-01-21 11:07:52 · answer #4 · answered by Gayle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom pretty much lets my son do whatever, she respects my parenting less than she respects my son's creativity.
You need to sit down your parents(or your SO's parents, whoever) and tell them to let him play how he wishes, and that he needs to learn to be creative and think outside the box.
2007-01-21 11:06:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my wifes parents are respectful so is my mum
but dont get me started on my dad he thinks i am turning my 4 sons gay!
2007-01-21 12:04:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore it. my mother does that too i just ignore her
2007-01-21 11:06:06 · answer #7 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋