ok i really like this guy at my job and he just broke up with his girlfriend of 9 months so im like now is the PERFECT time to get to know him a little better and see if anything good can come out of this.. so yesterday one of my friends was talking to him about me and he said he dosnt want to go out with me casue im a virgin and he dosnt want to take my virginity and me gett attached to him which i tottally understand .. i look at it this way im only 16 im in no rush to have sex and i have told him that im waiting for the right guy and he was fine with it ....i thought he would be the one hes a really really nice guy hes cute my parents love him and he is perfect.. what should i do???
2007-01-21 10:42:25 · 18 answers · asked by ashleybaby147 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he was that great he wouldn't bring up the virgin thing. He would date you with or without a sexual relationship. Wait. If you are asking the question now then he isn't the one to be with....no matter how much your parents like him.
2007-01-21 10:45:58 · answer #1 · answered by lolabellaquin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he told your friend he won't date you because you're a virgin, well, unless you plan on becoming a slag very soon, that is that. it's good that you are waiting until you are with someone you truly love but girl, you are 16. you've got a lot of boyfriends and dates in your future and if this guy isn't mature enough to even date you and see if things work out (you may not like him after a few dates!!) then move on. and by the way, a "nice guy" would never make sexual experience a prerequisite for dating you!
sorry hon, just don't want you to get hurt.
2007-01-21 10:57:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're 16, he shouldn't be interested in having sex with you. Especially if he's over 18. But do what you're thinking, get to know him a lot better, flirt with him, and just be yourself around him. Tell him that since you're waiting for the right guy to get really intimate with, you two can start dating, and see if he's the right guy for you. But if you don't know if he likes you or not, be as cute as you can be around him. If he starts playing with your hair, messing around with your hand, and kind of making fun of you just a little bit, he might like you.
He seems like a genuine guy. Most guys where I live want sex all the time. So this guy should be a keeper. Do what you think is right.
2007-01-21 10:51:00 · answer #3 · answered by JDmcgee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's nice that he doesn't want to take your virginity away and all. but that should be a red flag that tells you that he is only looking for cheap girls that he can have sex with. atleast he was nice about it, being up front and all. if he's willing to wait, then everything should be fine. but if the very first thing out of his mouth was sex - it doesn't matter how nice he seems (oh, and anyone can be nice, sometimes it's just an act).
2007-01-21 10:47:58 · answer #4 · answered by mike s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well honey if thats the only reason he wont go out with u, than give up cuz u know the only thing on his mind is sex. he should be going out with u to get to know your personality. just because ur parents like him doesnt make perfect. i think u should move on and find someone who respects u.
2007-01-21 10:49:02 · answer #5 · answered by mommie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes not perfect for you....he dosnt want to go out with you. Face it...he just isnt that into you....move on!
2007-01-21 10:48:38 · answer #6 · answered by rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with him to a public place. Your virginity should not be a factor in casual dating.
2007-01-21 10:46:14 · answer #7 · answered by Sharyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to take psychological responsibility for taking your virginity. Doesn't this mean that he don't want to take ANY responsibility for your probable relationship with him? Maybe you should think again about if he's really so nice & cute...
2007-01-21 11:04:19 · answer #8 · answered by alexus_mad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off never try to date a guy who is on the rebound.. all you will both do is get hurt.... just be his friend and see what happens..its ok to let him know you are interested but you may find his mind changes once he gets to know you and/or falls in love with you... just take it easy and be friends and hang out together
2007-01-21 10:46:36 · answer #9 · answered by crystal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you work with him I would say forget it. Work place romances rarely work out. Think about it if you do go out then break up it will be awkward. Find a nice guy outside of work.
2007-01-21 10:49:03 · answer #10 · answered by chemky1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋