Before you come into here with your inspirational talk, I would like to say that I have heard all of it, and I have lost count of how many times each piece of advice has failed for me. (Srry bout that)
Now, about my problems. I get straight A's, yet I feel like giving up... I feel like it would be much easier to stop studying, I truly do. The problem is, I know the immense amount of love my parents have for me, and the last thing I would wanna do is upset them. My parents believe strongly in education. I am in a dilemna.
I have social anxiety disorder but am too depressed (or lazy, haven't figured it out) to do something about it. Again, I have heard all the advice EVERYWHERE.
I have many assignments due, I want to do them for my parents, I want to give up because it would make me happier; I am now in another dilemna where continually thinking about this stalls me from doing anything productive.
I need to here something from somebody that is not a typical piece of advice.
2007-01-21
10:32:23
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I'm so lost right now
2007-01-21
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go for a walk...just look at the bums on the street,...look at little kids who are suffering, who would trade places with your ungrateful **** in a minute....you have a computer, and no doubt food and a warm bed at night, but it just ain't good enough...so go rob a bank, go to prison, maybe shoot some drugs, and end up on the street, but get beat up first by some relative..now, when you have almost destroyed your life, then maybe you can look back and see just what you had,...and how little you appreciated it...I know that you should go help others, and stop brooding about your self...and pray and Thank the Good Lord everyday, that you are intellegent, well loved, and healthy...got it?
2007-01-21 10:49:42
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answered by MotherKittyKat 7
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technically, you have each and everything that makes a guy or woman satisfied. yet, may be, you choose for something else. there is another choose, which has no longer been fulfilled. there is a few vacancy using that unfulfilled choose. think of. despite you have now, is that what you relatively wished?? if no, then, what did you relatively need?? if definite, then, what else do you choose for?? yet yet an option decision may be to maintain your self busy. an idle innovations is the devil's workshop. so, take exhilaration in some new activity. attempt to do something new and exciting. shop your innovations busy, so as which you do no longer shop on feeling depressed. else, this melancholy may additionally effect from the incontrovertible fact which you have each and everything you wished, and there is not any longer the rest you will possibly decide for. for this reason, there is not any longer something left so you might do. all the wonderful :)
2016-10-31 22:48:11
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answered by ? 4
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A lot of rambling thoughts
Buckle down and work hard, whether you want to or not. It is very very hard to defer gratification and work like hell and not get any immediate benefit for it. everyone has this problem, a lot of people never can do that. One way to get over the hump on deferred gratification is to give yourself rewards every time you complete an assignment, like call a friend, eat a cookie, play a video game, whatever. I had serious bipolar disorder that wasn't diagnosed, I was in hell most of the time, but the reward system did get me my bachelor's degree (even though I did end up flunking a few courses due to the depression). Another way was to force myself to study by joining study groups. Then you had to study or you'd look dumb/lazy to others. Another way was to get to school 2 hours early, then there was nothing else to do but work on homework or else sit there being bored. 2 hours wasn't enough in college, but it was better than nothing, and I was often in crisis.
You could be burned out. apparently a lot more homework is being assigned nowadays, or you could be depressed.
IF the ONLY reason you are working hard is to please your parents, and you have no desire to settle on a career that requires good grades (maybe you want to be a carpenter) then maybe you need to throttle back and please yourself. Maybe you are trying to overachieve, and that is total burnout, in my opinion. You know there are other forms of education than your classwork. I think I got a lot more out of after school debate club and a science club than I did out of actual classes. Also, when I was in college, an aquarium club I belonged to, going on fossil digging trips and keeping a flower garden, computer programming for fun. I was a national merit scholar who went to grad school for physics with severe undiagnosed & untreated bipolar, so you have to know that I value education very much & know how to buckle down when I have to and can't. I think spending all your time learning calculus when you want to be an auto mechanic may not be appropriate; it may be better to find an after school job at a repair shop. It's ALL education, whether you take a class or not.
So you should think what your long term goals are, and act appropriately. If your parents expect all A's and you have no interest in a job requiring a college degree, you are going to have to tell them you need to throttle back. They want the best for you and I don't think they would want you to run yourself into the ground.
2007-01-21 10:54:50
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answered by Anonymous
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Honey, this may sound like it's only "advice", but you need to hear it. Listen to me: you need to see your doctor. You are suffering from depression. The doctor can help you to find a therapist to talk to, and can give you medicine to help you through this tough time.
Don't worry that this will upset your parents. They would be far more upset to see you give up everything you've been working for: good grades, etc.
What you're going through is very common in young people. Don't allow yourself to become another statistic.
2007-01-21 10:43:10
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answered by diannegoodwin@sbcglobal.net 7
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dont do the crap for your parents do it for you. If you dont feel like school right now withdrawal for awhile. If you are down right now do what feels good. Making someone else like your parents feel better isnt gonna cut it.
2007-01-21 10:49:58
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answered by b 4
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Have you seen psychiatrist?
If you have already heard it all why are you asking a bunch of idiots for advice?
2007-01-21 10:45:04
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answered by mellijenk 3
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i am here if u want an ear to listen. dogmicjoe@yahoo.com. i can relate to depression. try socialanxietysupport.com. for help. try also nolongerlonely.com for moral suppport.
2007-01-21 11:09:43
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answered by Anonymous
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You decide whether you win or lose. I hope your choices suit you.
2007-01-21 10:39:26
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answered by Answerer 7
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