I am undecided as what to do.... Destination wedding with few very close family and friends (like 20 people) or Local Wedding with like 200 people??? Pro's and Con's, experiences would help.
2007-01-21 10:29:36 · 13 answers · asked by >>Ascher<< 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
local weddings are great b/c more of your friends and family can come.. and they can be very nice b/c they're at home with lots of memories everytime you pass by where it took place.. expensive b/c of the # of ppl/.
destination weddings are beautiful! you get your CLOSEST friends and family.. the ones who really matter.. && get to experience a wedding in paradise with them.. expensive to transport the guests..
overall.. i would say go with what you truly prefer.. if you only want the people who matter most && you don't care that much about local memories.. then go for destination wedding ;) hope that helps
2007-01-21 10:34:57 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had it both ways (yes, I have been divorced 1 time and now I am happily married).
The local wedding...much, much more expensive. A lot more hassle to plan. However, you will be the center of attention all day long. Many people just love that. You'll probably get more gifts too. And more people willing to travel to your wedding. If you are looking for "the fairy tale", it more often happens at a local wedding, in my opinion.
As far as the destination wedding, here's why I liked mine(and a few personal opinions & experiences thrown into the mix). My first wedding was wonderful, but very expensive. When all was said and done, I thought to myself "all that money for THAT". I was also getting married the first time partially FOR the wedding (wrong reason to get married!). So the 2nd wedding was much more about us, the couple, and the marriage...not the wedding. We got married on a cruise ship in Miami before it left port. We had 15 people come (only 4 came with us on the cruise, the other 11 got off and went home). Everything was pre-planned for us and all we had to do was pay ~$1000 and pick out a bride's dress. The reception still had all that cruise fancy food...caviar and escargot (which I hate, by the way) and free booze. By 4pm, we were back in our civvies and on the deck for the fire muster. And that was it! It was beautiful, didn't last nearly as long, was a lot of fun, and off we were onto our honeymoon.
I'm sure if you got married on an island or another exotic location, they would do most of the planning for you, just like my cruise wedding. So the perks would be the same.
There are definitely reasons to do it either way. It really depends on your motivations.
2007-01-21 10:38:46 · answer #2 · answered by CG 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st - Depends on what kind of budget you are working with -
if money is not a real point of consideration -
What would make you the most happy? Out of those 200 ppl how many are ppl you are truly close too & will be a big part of your future life..?? or are the majority of those 200 just ppl that you invite (like most ppl) to fill the seats & to keep from upsetting anyone.....
If those 20 ppl you have listed for your destination wedding are the ppl you & your fiancee are the closest too (the ppl that will be active members of your lives once you're married)....and all of the ppl you are closest too will be able to attend your destination wedding - i would strongly consider it....
((*personally i'[ve been married twice, the 1st i had the big church wedding - we divorced within 14months - my 2nd hubby had also been married & had the church wedding w/lots of guests & he divorced....so we were married at the justice of the peace - that was 15yrs ago....) Good Luck!
2007-01-21 10:37:10 · answer #3 · answered by rjsluvbug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My BF wanted to do the desitination but they decided not to because of this reason: They felt they were telling people where they were to vacation and how they spent their money that year. They felt very rude and uncomfortable with making people use their time and money for one day in their life. And also that people would do it begrudgingly because it was their wedding and not just another day.
So they decided on doing a wedding at a place around where they lived, I dont think they could have been happier with the way everything turned out. And afterwards I asked if they had been sad that they hadnt gone to the Keys to get married as they originally planned. They both said that they were so much happier that they had the "big" wedding, they were able to share with EVERYBODY instead of just a select few. And it actually surpassed my sisters wedding (which had sat atop my top 10 weddings list for 12 years), I dont think it would have been as special a day if she had gone away.
Good luck with your decision.
2007-01-21 10:41:02 · answer #4 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its your option. People are wrong if they think a local wedding is cheaper. Its true a destination weddings you have to account for plane tickets and room and bored but it depends on if you are paying for that. I'm haveing my wedding in vegas people are invited to come but we are not buying their tickets or room and bored it is just basically we are having a wedding and if you wish to come you are invited. Also people that dont want to come can watch live on the internet... many places show the weddings on the net now and thats a great option.
The dinner which is optional is paid for for our parents and wedding party. We are inviting others but they have to chip in 25 per person. Many dont agree with this but its not a formal wedding and we cant aford to pay the full dinner for everyone we are still paying about 6 plus 20% gratuity and 8.25% tax we thought 25 would be fair.
Point is its your choice and the people that love you will come where ever it is. If you have it at home everyone and there mother will come and you will have to feed them all.
2007-01-21 10:57:19 · answer #5 · answered by ki4ki_b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My vote would be for the local wedding because you'll be able to enjoy having the company of all those who are important to you. You and your new husbnad will be able to honeymoon somewhere alone and you'll enjoy your time alone after the excitement of your wedding.
On the other hand...my cousin did a destination wedding, but kept it close enough so that most could drive there. It was fun. She chose a beautiful hotel with a banquet facility there. Very nice.
2007-01-21 10:44:04 · answer #6 · answered by Wendy B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
local...honestly I wouldn't attend a destination wedding, I think that is asking too much of people. I can't afford to go on a vacation, I certainly couldn't afford to go with some one for their wedding. If you want a destination wedding i would suggest eloping then come back and have a big party.
2007-01-21 10:35:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i Would make it local because a lot of people wanna watch you get married. All the people you invite will want to see you with the love of your life about to be together forever. SO i think it would be better to have evryone to see you and the love of oyur life become 1 then just about 20 people. Your honeymoon can be your destination
2007-01-21 10:35:44 · answer #8 · answered by doyoubeleivein♥atfirstsight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll have less hurt feelings with a local wedding.
Chances are your grandparents wouldn't be able to be at your destination wedding.
2007-01-21 11:03:30 · answer #9 · answered by ee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Destination Weddings can be VERY expensive. I'd rather have a huge blow-out celebration with hundreds of friends.
But, that's just me.
2007-01-21 10:32:52 · answer #10 · answered by [we're all mad here] 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋