my son matt spends 50% of his time at his dads house.now don't get me wrong my ex is the best dad he helps matt with his homework,attends all school functions and has been very supporting to me.the one problem i have is my ex plays warcraft all the time and this has rubbed on onto my son.matt is not allowed to play this at my house but when he goes over to his dads house he plays for hours straight.its not uncommon for my son to come home from a weekend at my exs to tell me all he did was go from the ps3 to the computer.now i do know this is a exaggeration and my ex does do other things with him but he does spend a great deal of time playing video games.since my ex is such a graet dad and my son loves playing these games with his dad i don't know what to do.can i ask what do you allow your children for video games? how much tv?
2007-01-21 10:29:33 · 10 answers · asked by megen7greeany 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
if anything its good for bonding. buy them 50"plasma and a PS3
2007-01-21 10:32:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was never allowed more than an hour of television/videos/games a night. As far as your son is concerened what his father does in his home is his thing. However you CAN (and you have a duty as a parent to do so) discuss your son's playing with him. It is better for the child that BOTH parents are on the "same page" when it comes to raising the child and just because you are no longer married is not an excuse for your exhusband to not stick with your rules about the video games while your son visits him. This is only giving your son mixed messages and confusing him and will cause problems later on in the child's life. There is nothing wrong with playing these games with dad, just have dad limit the time. There are alot of other things dad and son can do besides vegetate in front of video games.
2007-01-21 11:05:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
for me I would not be comfortable with the choice of the game, but then that is me. I would not worry about it. It is the weekend, and as long as he is getting to bed and his dad is disciplining him properly, I would not give it much thought. I mean if it were the summer or perhaps the whole time he was there on Christmas break that would be a different story, and like you said they do do other things together. This is the computer generation. It is hard to make boundries to when your ex has him.
I would say that if you approve of the game, then it is OK. If you do not approve of the game, and he is not aloud to play that particular game at your house, it should not be aloud at yours, but if you are just talking about games in general, I say let them have fun.
2007-01-24 16:07:07 · answer #3 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me personally, I play World of Warcraft myself and I would honestly have to say not to worry. If you look at the time your son spends between your house and your ex's, then look at the time he also spends eating, sleeping, school, etc. and if you look at that percentage vs. what your son does during his entire week I bet you would discover that this number isn't as high as you think it might be. Video games are a hobby. You play them for fun. If your son would rather play video games then watch t.v. or play a sport then I say there's nothing wrong with that.
2007-01-21 10:39:12 · answer #4 · answered by Lhynne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is his time with his dad so you don't have too much say. As long as he is not at your house it will all equal out. If you are worried have a talk to your ex about your concerns and see how you go
2007-01-21 20:06:04 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's fine. Video games have been proven to increase IQs. Especially the Grand Theft Autos. Get the book Everything Bad is Good for you for more info
2007-01-21 10:32:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds like we married the same man , my ex is a video junkie too except the game that drove me over the edge was diablo and what pushed me past the brink was this when my son was 4 (he's now 8) i was at work left at about 8 in the morning at some point after i left my son did something to upset his dad (proabaly nothing except inturept his game playing)any way my ex sent him too his room and than he (ex ) "lost track of time" and when i got home from work around 7 that night my boy who had peed himself and was starving and screaming because he had been sent to his room for like 6 or 7 hours so that was it i cleaned up my boy got him something to eat and when he went to bed that night i took the game out of the computer and smashed the shi* out of that disk than i got carried away and hit the moniter also i left the next day with my son and now his dad and i have joint custody but now instead of diablo it's the game you mentioned and yes my son plays with his dad,his dad even got him his own computer so they could play together ( i know it's pathetic)any way he stays with his dad for a week and than me for a week i have tried to explain to him and his dad to limit there playing but it falls on deaf ears he plays nothing at my house except outside with friends and me and stuff but no games anyway heres what i did i enrolled him in karate and football (soon to be baseball because football is over) and my ex has to take him to pratice and class during the week after school so at least 3 nights a week they are to busy to play with homework and such so thats how i inadvertinaly got them to lessen their time at the screen..when there are no sports available i enroll him in art classes and my ex is so clueless that he has yet to figure out my stragity....... sorry this was so long but i truly know what it feels like to lose to a computer gams so i wanted to share my story good luck chances are your ex thinks there is nothing wrong with countless hours in front of screen but there really is so do what u can to try to get dad to do a little something else besides the screen good luck
2007-01-22 00:13:27 · answer #7 · answered by auntie s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too much video games and T.V. is bacd for anyone. My brother(11) is addicted to them, and he won't spend time with the rest of us anymore. Instead he just goes upstairs and plays on the playstaion or computer. I would work out a time limit with your husband for how long he should play video games and watch T.V. My mom will take it away from brother for a few hours if he is continuosly playing.
2007-01-21 10:34:10 · answer #8 · answered by ~I love my baby brother~ 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
no video games are inappropriate for grown men, and a bad influence on children. 8 yr olds need to be active not sedinentary and video games develope no socal skills and decrease attention spans... video games are bad for children, ad expecially for adult image
2007-01-21 10:33:08 · answer #9 · answered by samee 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Everything in excess is not OK. Try moderation, that always works.
2007-01-21 11:22:46 · answer #10 · answered by Kate373 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋