when we think 100% that we have met "THE ONE" then things go wrong?
For instance you both still have a lot feelings for each other (love) but you are not together anymore. Do you just carry on living with the feelings or do you do something about it? If possible do you stop it and how?
2007-01-21 10:09:57 · 20 answers · asked by itgirl23 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Shay, your def talking sense to me on this one thanks.
2007-01-21 10:18:19 · update #1
Zen I like your thinking.
2007-01-21 10:24:25 · update #2
I wont go into details but I have to see this guy every week at least once. We have said a few things to each other but both cannot lay our cards on the table.
2007-01-21 11:37:59 · update #3
no if we truly love them we'll never get over it even if we meet someone new. Love isn't something you can just toss around if its there it will always be there maybe not between both of you but, if one of you loves the other then it will never change. Love is love you can't love someone one minute and not love them the next. Love doesn't work that way...so no you will never completly get over them.
so good luck to all those who go through heart breaks because there tough!
2007-01-21 10:16:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should try to get over it. It's healthy to remember the good times and keep the bad times as lessons learned. Be glad the person came into your life and left the memories they did. If you truly believe you can get past the obstacles that broke you up previously, by all means, give it another shot. Only you can be the judge of what are deal breakers in a relationship. If it helps, get out a piece of paper, draw a line down the middle and write good things on one side and bad things on the other. Whichever column is longer might be able to help you decide.
2007-01-21 10:22:06 · answer #2 · answered by Zen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think we ever fully get over it.. you carry a piece of each other with you and it just takes time (lots of time!!) to move on.. But it will happen.There is like a grieving process and it's healthy to just feel it. I've found that you learn from each relationship. Particularily on what you do/don't want out of a relationship. After my big love, I was getting pi***d off that I was still so in love w him so I had our ties cut with reiki.. it felt like the right thing to do... still have great love for him, always will but now I've moved on and I'm very happy to leave him in my past and live my life while enjoying the memory of our time together.
2007-01-21 11:26:15 · answer #3 · answered by blondie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to move on by looking at the relationship and what you learned from it. I don't believe you ever get over the feelings especially if you really didn't want it to end, but for whatever reason it had to. However, in my case "the ONE" taught me what I wanted in a relationship and helped me to move on with my life. He was loving, open, and loved me like no other I have known. Yet the relationship had to end for reasons I won't go into and we still talk occassionally. I know I still feel love for him and he does for me, but we each have different lives now and I understand the fact that we cannot be together. I do however, thank him everyday in my mind for all he showed me.
2007-01-21 10:17:13 · answer #4 · answered by hljones1169 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there are no guarantees that we will always get over such feelings. For the most part, and for most of us, time does indeed heal all wounds. Sadly, you may develop feelings so strong towards someone that they will never go away completely. In such cases, i'm afraid that you will have to carry on with those feelings, and there really is no certain thing that you can do about it. Just know that you can still continue to find love, and be loved in return, despite those feelings.
2007-01-21 10:27:07 · answer #5 · answered by OKI812-maybe69x's 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, if u still have alot of feelings for each other,then why r u not together? And it depends on wether one likes the other more than the other, Or wether its a destructive relationship ,or neither of these.If not=
Then be a grown up , cards on table, tell it like it is and deal with the answer , and yes u can get over it and move on , when u know the answers to these questions yourself. (and yes! i know i cant spell wether, so wat do i know lol)
2007-01-21 10:36:50 · answer #6 · answered by snake_eyesuk2004 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it is possible to get over it. I still have feelings for an ex. We just had that connection that I hadn't found with anyone else. I don't plan to get over them even though I have moved on. I just view it as one of those things...I still love him a lot but know we cannot be together.
2007-01-21 10:13:50 · answer #7 · answered by intewonfan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Sorry, you never truly get over that one relationship you thought was it. You do mostly, but not quite. Eventually your heart kind of rewires and bypasses the emotions. They're still there but they only effect you when you take a trip down memory lane.... It's tough going, and I know this sounds like a cliche, but it'll be ok in the end.
2007-01-21 11:07:38 · answer #8 · answered by T M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but if the person you love, returns the feeling then they would still be with you. Nothing would stop you being together. So maybe its not love that they feel but missing the feeling of being in a couple!
2007-01-21 10:45:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are things that we put in there when our hearts were opened, but we never had a chance to take it back out when our hearts were closed...
It comes back to you every now and then, because every time your heart beats, it shakes it out again... But just know that it is OK.
Be grateful that you have left that space for that past relationship, because it will always guide you with knowledge to the next...
Appreciate what you have and what you feel sometimes...
And it is always ok to miss someone, even if they don't miss you.
2007-01-21 10:26:36 · answer #10 · answered by calv83luc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋