the first time my brother got drunk he was happy and smiling and telling jokes and this carried on untill a couple of months ago ,when he gets drunk, which my mum and the rest of the family (except Tom,my other brother) resents he now is very violent
what causes this????
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2007-01-21 10:09:08 · 10 answers · asked by Huggles [mozzafan] 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That would suggest to me that he isn't happy about something in his life & the alcohol takes away his inhibitions & lets him show his anger. He probably puts on a (fake) happy face when he is sober but that goes out of the window after he has had a few drinks.
Talk to him & see if he wants to talk to you about what's bothering him.
2007-01-21 10:19:22 · answer #1 · answered by Cori 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though he is developing a alcohol dependancy habbit, this is an illness and needs to be treated as such. I suggest you join an support group, sear the internet for their website. Alcohol dependancy is dangerous, and leads to many potentially fatal conditions.
The chances are there is a reason he is drinking this much, and its a terrible life for those around an alcoholic. It won't get better if he turns a blind eye to it, it will get worse. You really need to try to talk to him when he is sober. It could also be a case that he has changed drink, whiskey can have a very negative affect on people, myself I cant drink bacardi i turn into a right nasty cow, but not with other drinks.
Please try to help him. But ultimately only he can change this.
2007-01-22 02:43:43 · answer #2 · answered by portly_pumpkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excessive alcohol intake leading to personality and behaviour change, and he must take responsibility for any actions taken when under the influence of alcohol - we all have a choice. On the other hand what is the reason for his increase in alcohol intake? Could he be feeling depressed or inadequate? Encourage him to look at the reasons for his drinking and to decide if he needs help. He still has to take responsibility however, and if he chooses to ignore your offers of help, well, still be around to support him, but accept that he has to take some responsibility for his actions.
2007-01-21 18:21:06 · answer #3 · answered by filmwatcher59 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes there is a certain drink that doesnt agree with us,my younger brother turns nasty when he drinks whisky,my older brother turns nasty when he drinks stella and my dad turns nasty when he drinks pernod.
But sometimes when we are drunk we lose our inhabitions,things that we deep root in our brain to try and forget sometimes resurface and we act differently,we lose control and cannot stop ourselves.
My younger brother was driving to a garage 10 years ago,a girl ran out infront of him,she hit his car and died.
She was drunk trying to get to the off license for more drink,anyway that was in 1997 and here we are in 2007 and my brother still turns nasty when he gets drunk,he talks about how he couldnt avoid her and how he feels so guilty,he finds it hard to cope with when hes had a drink,facing your problems is difficult when we are drunk.
Sit down with your brother and talk to him,thats all he may need but if he carrys on acting in a violent way he may need professional help.
2007-01-22 07:37:58 · answer #4 · answered by freerange00720002000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to your brother he clearly ain't happy! Try and find out whats wrong and see if you can help.
Also has he changed what he has been drinking lately as i know that Vodka makes some of my friends aggressive.
2007-01-22 07:03:44 · answer #5 · answered by Molly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
has your brother changed the drink that he drinks normally is he drinking more than usual drink can make you do horrible thing or it can make you more lovable talk to your brother about it tell him how you feel when hes voilent to anyone again get him arrested and have him charged other than that refuse to let him in to the house if hes going to continue in this manner when hes drinking
does he behave like that when hes not been drinking
good luck to you, get him sorted out before its to late and he seriously hurts someone
2007-01-21 18:24:02 · answer #6 · answered by jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is your brother getting drunk?...this is not a question for you ,but for your brother.My partner used to drink and over time it changes thier personality..the only way is for him to get some help..i have seen families beeing ruined by booze..not drinking any alcohol at all will help!!
2007-01-22 06:51:06 · answer #7 · answered by janine s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your brother may have issues you and your family dont know about or he just cant say what he feels when hes sober so he lashes out when hes drunk
try talking to him when hes sober he may just need a hug
2007-01-22 08:32:48 · answer #8 · answered by bexieboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he has a drink problem.... There is nothing you can do as these people have to want to help themselves. Just love him and be around to support him. There's nothing else you can do - he really does need to want to do it himself.
2007-01-21 20:32:07 · answer #9 · answered by Jackie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its time to give up its your bodies way of saying enough is enough.
2007-01-21 19:14:14 · answer #10 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋