Why cant my gf tell me?

Question

My girlfriend is a thousand miles away, but we are having a good time keeping our relationship strong. I love her, and she tells me thats she loves me more than anyone on earth. i cant be with n e 1 else

a few times, when i call her, she sounds disappointed to talk to me,
When i ask her what is wrong, she always says shes fine, but its clear that she isnt always "100%"
today she told me that there are lots of things that i dont know about. things that are "really emotional and serious for me [her]"
I ask her to tell me what those things are and she refuses to tell me.
"Theres too much involved to just tell you"; "Its not something i can just start talking about"; "Its hard to just bring it up, its something really emotional and serious to me"

would it still be an issue about trust if i told you that she had told me (about 5 months ago) that she had kissed a guy. she begged for my forgiveness
(which i did give to her)

can anyone please give me some advice, or guess at whats going on

Answer 1

To me is sounds like she may be still seeing this guy. Long distance relationships are hard. Is there anyway either of you can go and see each other and sit down and have a heart to heart chat? If not, you need to over the phone.

In any relationship, you have to have upfront honesty and communication, whether it is hard or not. She needs to be honest with you and respect you. If she is still seeing this guy, she needs to tell you, even if it hurts you. You are being honest and faithful to her and she needs to be honest to you. Even if her feelings have changed for you, she needs to tell you, not keep you hanging.

You are girlfriend and boyfriend and should be able to talk about anything. I don't know how long you have dated, but that shouldn't be a factor. It sounds like she is using those "There's too much involved to just tell you"; "Its not something i can just start talking about"; "Its hard to just bring it up, its something really emotional and serious to me"
As excuses not to tell you. She may not want to hurt your feelings. Tell her it hurts your feelings more not for her to be fully honest with you.
I hope I am wrong. I wish you the best and hugs to you. I will pray for your strength on whatever it may be that she has to say. I pray she can tell you over the phone if you cannot see each other. Make sure you tell her what you are thinking.

Answer 2

It has to be something really important and personal. But it seems maybe shes having some issues with you being so far away. Maybe that emotional thing is that shes thinking it might not work between you. But im only guessing here, it could be anything really. Dont push it, she will tell you in the end, when its right.

Answer 3

Good luck getting a girlfriend because that's just ridiculous. Just that right there would stop me from dating you. I don't have many guy friends but the ones that I do have I am pretty close with. Honestly, if you truly care about them and they truly care about you it shouldn't matter who they're friends with. Girls don't cheat just to cheat. Honestly, I wouldn't ever cheat because that's jacked up. You didn't really ask a question but good luck with finding a girl because that's one of the most ridiculous things that I've heard. I hope all of the girls you like have a bunch of guy friends just to screw you over so you can decide whether or not that's really a big enough excuse to give up a great relationship. Good luck.

Answer 4

"in for a penny, in for a pound", someone once said.

a kiss will always lead to more when long intervals apart are involved.

she did not mean it to happen, but with guys being guys, a girl will often stumble.

she can't tell you because, it was not something she set out to do. yet it is almost impossible for a guy to accept that

the apparent truth here is that she now has a boyfriend, impromptu though it be.

sorry, but say she can say it, what would you do?
the relationship is doomed as trust will never be fully restored.

guess it is time to move on.

Answer 5

Maybe she is cheating on you and doesn't really know how to tell you. Long distance relationships require an extra effort and sometimes people slip and do things they regret. And sometimes they don't regret them. I think your girlfriend is confused and I would not be surprised if there was a third spoke in your wheel. Keep your head up and stay positive. Try and talk to her and tell her you would appreciate the truth.

Answer 6

well, if she doesnt want to tell you, i wouldnt push her, although dont stop asking how she is altogether. she still will want to know you care, but asking all the time gets very annoying. if she did kiss another guy, then there is no way shes 'more in love with you than anyone on earth' because she wouldnt want to hurt you. you live very far away, and you might want to rethink this relationship. trust is a big issue, and she cant be trusted.

Answer 7

I don't think she going out with some other guy. There just might be some things going on in her life that's making her feel bad and she doesn't want to tell you b/c you might feel or think differently about her. I don't really know but I'm taking a shot

Answer 8

Ummm...I would say either 1) she doesn't want the relationship 2) she's interested in another guy or 3) she's just plain not happy. At all. Not with u nessisarly but just with life.

Answer 9

What good is guessing? Have you ever watched the show cheaters? That's a guess. But I doubt that is it.

Maybe if you tell her you are available whenever she is ready to talk to you, she will trust you enough to share. If she has someone else, eventually you will know.

Answer 10

Go for a surprise visit. You should be able to figure some stuff out pretty quick. Sit down with her and have a nice long face-to-face chat. Work things out.