We broke up a year ago (her decision; although I was such a great guy to her and never did anything wrong - she was just confused of her feelings). We met last night for dinner after not seeing each other for 6 months.
She seemed really unhappy with her life, job, where she was right now. She'd put on weight, didn't talk much. It was very sad, as she wasn't her former self. Despite that, she knows I still like her a lot, and I know she still likes me, but she's unhappy with her life right now.
I suspect she's depressed, given what I saw from her last night (she made excuses and after less than two hours of dinner saying she didn't feel well and was feeling tired, and we left the restaurant).
I'm kinda concerned for her, and am wondering what to do. She broke my heart when we broke up, so I'm conscious I don't want to get hurt again myself, but I don't want to leave her lying there as she seems so low and hurt right now.
Do you think she's depressed. What should couild I do?
2007-01-21 09:51:33 · 3 answers · asked by James 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I think your hunch is right. I am no mental health professional, but have family members who suffer from depression. You are very sweet to want to help her, but you need to make sure that you are strong enough to help her through this without expecting anything in return (like a possibility of getting back together.) If the answer is no, then you might just have to let her work things out on her own. If you do feel like you can be a friend to her, then let her know that. Let her know that you care about her and that yo are concerned. Also let her know that you have no expectations (if that is really true.) Ask here to take walks (sometimes fresh air and being active can be mood elevating.) Just be there for her if you can and maybe encourage her to see a counselor. You can't "fix" her- just be her friend. Good luck to you and your ex.
2007-01-21 10:02:40 · answer #1 · answered by Lady J 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you help her as a friend this time if you're so concern. Don't take advantage on her situation though as a revenge on what she did before, because at her state right now, she might be vulnerable. Your heart will lead you through if you really are honest about helping her. Help her stand on her feet again. If there's anything between you two, it'll follow through after. But the main issue right now is to get her up again, if shes really down and depressed as you said. Good luck!
2007-01-21 18:08:06 · answer #2 · answered by egan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to her and expressing your concerns. If that doesn't work, just let her know that you are there to listen if she needs anyone to talk to. Try to keep your feelings out of it..it may depress her more.
P.S. You are a good person to be concerned about someone that "broke your heart!"
2007-01-21 17:55:50 · answer #3 · answered by ctyce 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋