I see that alot of skinny girls are getting boyfriends faster than fat people, It is really fustrating cause fat people need love too, at my school all becasue im over weight no boy talks to me unless hes my friend or he thinks im undatable and they are feelling sorry for me. I have a crush on a boy that I know named Nicholas and hes single but he wont date fat people, I hate the fact Skinnny butts get guys faster than fat people, IM TIRED OF IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-21 09:48:29 · 33 answers · asked by lil_princess342000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is very simple: societies standard goes like this: if you are a girl/woman, you better make sure that you are slim,curvy, young looking. If you are a guy you can afford to be big---because guys define the standard of beauty. So in order to be acceptable in society, women have to be pretty.
If the media would promote fat women as beaing beauties, then it probably would be the other way around. Fat is not pretty and no one wants to date unpretty people. I was standing in a crowd with a lot of friends, and I asked the question on why one of the guys would date a girl with such an ugly face and this is what he told me: who cares about the face---body is what counts.
My son, when he was 15 told me this: put a bag over their head--the rest is what counts. Unfortunately this is how it works. It should be the person, but in this world "Shallow" is thy name....
2007-01-21 09:56:18 · answer #1 · answered by What Will The Spill Kill? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Physicall appearance is the 1st thing we notice about a person. And physical attraction is a necessary part of any romance. So, yes, being overweight will hurt your love life. Being overweight is unhealthy and unattractive. I'm sorry if that sounds harsh, but it's the truth. Too many people try to sugar coat it these days. Overeating is just like smoking. It is a harmful CHOICE. The good news is, you can do something about it. It is 100% up to you to decide if you want to be in shape or not. You make the choice every time you decide to snack on some chips and soda when you're not even hungry--just bored...and every time you lay on the sofa watching tv instead of exercising. Make better choices and you'll be healthier, look better, and feel better about yourself. Then you'll get more attention from boys as well.
2007-01-21 10:03:00 · answer #2 · answered by Cali Snow Queen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm a skinny person, and I don't have a boyfriend, and i think i'm pretty and all that jazz. but i think the whole issue is to have some confidence here. Most guys find girls that are confident and just believe in themselves, very attractive. They overlook the outside appearance. now other guys are just plain jerks.
this Nicholas guy evidently just doesn't see the real "you" the person inside. beauty is on the inside, not the outside. and yes, it's true that lots of skinny girls with big breasts, curves, and gorgeous looks get boyfriends, but not all skinny girls get boyfriends faster. it just depends on the person.
2007-01-21 10:10:33 · answer #3 · answered by phantom_angel_2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although with some guys weight is a huge deal- for others it is not. What is a huge deal is how you accept your body?
Can you look in the mirror and say "I am beautiful"?. Because how you carry yourself is what most people find attractive. And even large and overweight woman can carry themselves with confidence- Prime example is Queen Latifa.
If being overweight is uncomfortable and unnatural for you then the first thing to do would be to work on it. by diet and exercise. Its hard work- but the way you will feel when you see results will be definately worth it.
And for right now- dont worry about the guys- they will see your beauty when you see it in yourself.
2007-01-21 10:05:53 · answer #4 · answered by Sadey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for one thing being obese is not natural, now I understand sometimes there is a special circumstances(don't get me wrong being super skinny is not natural either.) But generally when I see a girl who is overweight I think there is someone with no discipline, or no self control.
It isn't always about looks. Though depending on what grade your in it could be.
No it isn't always about the figure, I will not sit here and listen to generalization about men, that is absolutely absurd. I do not generalize women, so i would like it if you wouldn't generalize men, and thus generalizing me.
It is usually the girls who say guys are *****, those are the girls whom no guy wants to date because you obviously hate men.
2007-01-21 09:52:46 · answer #5 · answered by Idiotman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its because they have confidence and don't let people push them over. I am a girl with curves and no I didn't have a new boyfriend everyweek. But i did find guys that loved me and cared about me and had 3 longer lasting relationships and am now engaged because I stopped appearing like I felt like i couldn't get a date. its all about presentation of yourself. Not saying be someone your not but a smile is the most attractive feature and your best accessory. A frown doesnt help anything. Guys that can't look past the outside aren't worth your time anyways honey. Trust me. You want one that looks at you and thinks you are gorgeous inside and out. Trust me he is out there. It might take time but it will find you when you stop looking for it and just let things roll.
2007-01-21 09:57:09 · answer #6 · answered by countrygal87 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because todays media has potrayed fat to be ugly and unhealthy.
Just because you are over weight doesn't mean that you are ugly. Confidence goes a long way with men, not high school boys, I know it don't help now but just wait your turn will come and for the better.
2007-01-21 10:01:19 · answer #7 · answered by railcar_exp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, I'm gonna be honest here. Guys believe fatness is unattractive, and we wont date fat girls because we are always horny, and would much prefer to kiss something were attracted to. Otherwise, we fell pressured by the girl, but we wont do anything because we get turned off. I'm sorry, that's just how we are.
2007-01-21 09:55:22 · answer #8 · answered by Food For Thought 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is so they won weight mutually. superb out for all time, eating an identical food. yet additionally i think of which you choose for somebody who's such as you. an extremely fat guy or woman needless to say has an ailment, probable much less complicated to no longer sense embarassed and to understand one yet another if the two go through of an identical. epidermis human beings have prejudice. on an identical time they do no longer wanna get entangled witth somebody who does not shelter themselfs. yet ofcourse you will detect skinny with fat. that's no longer so uncommon.
2016-10-31 22:41:17 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that you are having problems with boys because of your weight. Boys are so immature when they are in school.
Guys aren't getting the chance to get to know you and I am sorry. Just don't get frustrated and turn to food. That's what I did in school and it didn't help anything. Just be patient, you'll find the man that is perfect for you.
2007-01-21 09:54:17 · answer #10 · answered by Deborah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋