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He and I have been dating for 7 mo. He asked me to give up my cats to live with him. He doesn't like cats and cat hair.- kinda freaked out about it. I won't, he compromised to give the cats their own room, 1 room only. He needs the help if I don't move in he will have to make other plans. He wants me to be with him, help him he would do anything for me. He can't afford to go it alone. It is hard for him as a single father to get another job, pay for daycare. Do it sound like all he wants is someone to pay the bills, do his laundry and take care of the kid? Am I not hearing correctly? He wants to be with me make a family with me - just not here at my house where I have my stuff together and have made a life. Is he being totally selfish?

2007-01-21 09:44:13 · 10 answers · asked by vah7469 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

10 answers

How old are you?

"the kid" ...is it his with someone else?

I would not move in with him until you see an engagement ring and perhaps a wedding. You make a family with someone after your married, not beforehand. If he wants to "share" all these things with you, you need to be sure he's going to "share" and not put it all on you. I do not believe it would be wise to move in with him just yet, but you can definately still see him.

2007-01-21 09:49:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

a lil over half a year and hes asking you to get rid of your cats and take care of his kid... ok no I dont think you are ready for this. I know hes in a rock and a hard place but i think this eairly in the relationship you just cant help him out. You should help him out instead but researching afordable child care and programs that he could qualify for for assistance. And maybe a less expensive home with 2 bedrooms. Or maybe find him a roommate which is a great option someone to help him pay rent food and utilities etc. There are ways to help without giving up your life for someone that you are just getting to know.

2007-01-21 10:03:04 · answer #2 · answered by ki4ki_b 2 · 0 1

it sounds like this guy is using you. he wants you to get rid of your cats. but is willing to give up only 1 room when push came to shove. how do you think he will treat YOU once you move in? I guarantee he will treat you like his property, eventually make you get rid of the cats, or they may "accidentally" get out of the house. I realize it is hard for a single dad, but it is his choice to live the way he does, not yours. he could just as eaily get a roommate that will help with the bills. I urge you with all my heart, don't move in with this guy or you will become trapped.

2007-01-21 09:52:32 · answer #3 · answered by Smith Jerrod 4 · 1 0

Do YOU feel like this is the right thing to do? Follow the instinct....if that tells you no, don't do it. When in doubt(you are by asking on this site), don't do it. The only time I would say is move in with him if you were absolutely sure....and just having to ask this question shows that you have doubts......

2007-01-21 09:50:24 · answer #4 · answered by What Will The Spill Kill? 6 · 0 1

Thats a really tough spot to be in, but he shouldnt be rushing you to do it. If he cant afford it, he should find a different way to be able to afford it other then forcing you into a "family". I wouldnt move in with him just because he doesnt have enough money.

2007-01-21 09:50:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

you are falling for a pathetic sob story!!

what a pathetic little boy!

dont fall for this crap, let him get on his own 2 feet, why are you with someone like this??

lies, lies, lies, heard it a hundred times (I cant make it on my own because I have to take care of my child, a child that he most likely had out of wedlock and is PROBABLY NOT PAYING A DAMN THING)

Don't even consider getting rid of your beloved pets for this scum of the earth, they deserve to have your home to live in.

I hate to say this but is he a black guy???? sorry but this is so
A-typical for most of them. I know because a married a loser like the one you are describing, dont fall for it honey!!

2007-01-21 10:06:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

He is looking for a free maid who is willing to help pay his bills. Don't be this guy's doormat.

2007-01-21 09:47:39 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 7 · 1 0

Pretty selfish. If he doesn't have his financials together, don't even bother.

2007-01-21 10:21:26 · answer #8 · answered by Sammy 2 · 0 0

I would not do it. get away get far away, follow your gut feeling on this one. its only been 7 months. He could get another job if he tried...I'd stay far away from him.

2007-01-21 09:50:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Tell him "SURE, once you put a ring on my finger"...otherwise, find someone else.

2007-01-21 09:49:21 · answer #10 · answered by vamedic4 5 · 0 1

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