Okay... my bro fed my parents a string of lies about me and now they made me leave all facebook groups, they want to take away my comp., put parental controls on it, get me off of facebook all together, and they don't trust me anymore!!! I said "You don't trust me anymore!" and my mom said "You're right... we don't!" I didn't even do anything wrong!! They have been watching over me like a hawk all day, my bro included!!!! I hate it!!! I feel like a prisoner!!! please please please help me get them to trust me again!! But, I don't know how because I never did anyhting wrong, my mom believes anything my bro says. He came home drunk one night and he said "I'm not drunk" and my mom and dad were like "uh duh, of course your not drunk, why would you be" mean while he was toppsy turvy and you couold smell it in his breath!!!!! HELP PLEASE <-- thanks for reading all of this... by the way I am 14 and I am a girl <00 if that makes any difference =] I want my freedom back!
2007-01-21 09:41:15 · 12 answers · asked by Elizabeth B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I tried the brother thing earlier... they thought I was lying about that to get revenge,,, I am not a lier.. I hate liers... why are they so oblivious?!!
2007-01-21 09:49:52 · update #1
All I said... to my friends was.. Good luck on your mid-terms where is the harm in that.. I don't see any
2007-01-21 09:55:09 · update #2
As the proud parent of an 18yr daughter - i can tell you that trust is the single most important factor between a mother & daughter (or any parent & their child). Was the contacts on your facebook inappropriate in anyway? (or any other server/networking site)... If you are just communicating with friends & stuff, then your parents will see that while they are monitoring & that in and of itself will start the healing of your damaged trust. Also, it would help if you could talk with your Mom & (TALK) not emotionally - or yelling - & tell her that you & your brother are different in lots of ways & that you want her to give you a chance to show her that you can make sound choices - that she's a great mom & you've learned alot from her * & that if anything inappropriate or "strange" were to happen you would come to her immediately & talk it over with her. ****It's also extremely important that you understand Y your parents are being so protective & r so concerned. It may seem ridiculous to you - but honestly it isn't. There are so many predators that use these "social networking" sites to stalk kids & it's not the childs fault that these sicko's are out here trolling the net - & it's not your parents fault either - they love you & they don't want anything to happen to you & if that means they have to make you angry with them to protect you - then that's what they have to do, better to have your child angry with you for a lil' while than to have them damaged for life or killed. You must becareful on the net it isn't as safe as most ppl think. Your parents would never knowingly invite a child predator to have dinner in your house, but that's exactly what happens with computers predators are invited right into the safety of your home.......think about it - & you'll see that your parents have good reason to worry....but if you talk with them, & be truly open & honest about everything (including your online activities) they
will be more open as well. Good Luck!
2007-01-21 09:53:40 · answer #1 · answered by rjsluvbug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dang, that sucks. I'm kinda going through the that thing right now. Cept my brothers have nothing to with it. They're right behind me! But, when they piss you off ignore them. Just let it go. Don't talk to them. Do everything you're supposed to for a few weeks. Catch your brother being an asshole. Try not going on facebook for a few weeks. Y did u tell your parents u had faebook in the first place? What they don't know can't hurt you. Your brother sounds like a spoiled brat. Be sneaky, but be good. Y would your brother say stuff like that in the first place, talk to him. Blackmail him as your last option. Eventually you will get ur freedom back. Just be patient ( and clever).
Boo. They suck.
2007-01-21 09:57:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like your brother is an ***. realistically---about the best thing you can hope for is to die in your sleep.
NO! wait a minute---that's the lyrics from the old Kenny Rogers song, the Gambler. where in the hell did THAT come from?
seriously---it sounds like about the best you can hope for is that your brother either screws up royally---or he moves out.
you could try getting on your brother's good side--having him as an ally would be much better than having him as an enemy. but some people just get off on causing other people pain and you may never be his friend.
did this evil behavior by your brother just start recently or has he always done this?
i'm thinking the best thing to do is lay low for a while--no open confrontations with the parents about ground rules. and try to get on your brother's good side. good luck!
2007-01-21 10:02:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi ,
I am sorry you are feeling the impact of your brothers lies.
Read this web site and show your parents that you can be trusted to make informed decision .It is too bad your brother is insecure about himself and feels the need to sabotage you.It is too bad your brother is a bully.You need to work on yourself and here is a great site that will help you be the best that you can be for you.http://www.thefarmline.ca/teenstalk/issues/self-esteem.html
Look inside yourself you are your own best thing..I hope your parents will read some materials and have an opened mind or they will lose your trust and you don,t want that...also you can talk to a councillor at school or maybe a minister to help you talk to your parents.
2007-01-21 10:38:31 · answer #4 · answered by soledad67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee to be a fly on the wall would be good cause there is always 2 sides to a story and as a 14 yr old i probably wouldnt trust u either. I have 3 teenagers and i watch them like a hawk.
2007-01-21 10:46:54 · answer #5 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know how much help i can be with out knowing the lie your bro told but I assume it has something to do with the comp. My advice would be to ask them to check the history on your comp. give them full access to your pass words or anything else they might need. I don't think they are trying to hold you prisoner I believe they are trying to keep you safe there are so many bad guys on the comp. so cut them a little bit of slack.
2007-01-21 09:51:46 · answer #6 · answered by blueeyedcat28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to sit down with your parents and listen to their concerns. Then you need to take those concerns one by one and figure out how you are going to ease their collective minds on each item they mention. It does not matter where they got the information from or if it is true or not, if they believe it to be so, then it is so from their perspective. Don't fight it. If you argue or refuse to comply with their requests you are just hurting your wish for freedom of choice and causing them more concern. A dutiful daughter who wants, what she wants, would be kind, loving, and generous in spirit towards her parents. You need to learn what is worth fighting for and what is just a passing phase and not worth the effort.
2007-01-21 09:50:43 · answer #7 · answered by T esira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... first of all, to gain their trust, i think that you should do something and when ever you go out you should tell them a specific time that you will be home. try to do your best at school so that your teacher would complment you on your study. but about your brother... he's a bit tricky. maybe you could like try and find some thing that's bad about him but do tell your parents straight away but make them find out without them realising that it's your intention!
Good luck!
2007-01-21 09:48:06 · answer #8 · answered by azn_venus2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your parents should pay "closer attention" to what your brother is doing...My guess is he fed your parents a "string of lies" to distract them away from what "he is doing"...The reason he is watching over you may be to "make it appear" that you "need" to be watched-over...or just to intimidate you...part of the brother-sister game, I'm afraid...Have you talked to him privately...? Ask him why he is creating this "drama" between you and your parents...? Do you know any of his friends or someone that knows "what he is doing" away from the home...? Keep in contact with your friends for support...Talk it out...maybe they have some ideas for you on how to deal with this situation...Seems to me that it's time to "prove your innocence"...Go ahead and do as your parents have asked...stay away from the computer sites...focus on your school work...and chores...even though your parents are watching you closely...don't give them a reason to doubt you...eventually, they will begin to question "just why are we watching her so closely...when she isn't doing anything wrong...?" As for your brother and what he "thinks he is getting away with"...all will be revealed...because, "Whatever you do in the dark...comes to light"...Hang in there...ciao, CAKES
2007-01-21 10:00:37 · answer #9 · answered by CAKES 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you probably shouldn't be on the computer, for starters. You should just tell them that you will try hard to regain their trust. And that should be easy becuase you didn't do anything as you have said.
2007-01-21 09:45:58 · answer #10 · answered by Green-eyed Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋