it is normal for a father to not wake up to his own child crying or do you think that this happens often? My friend and her husband work different shifts, mainly because of babysitting and daycare costs. Her husband rarely wakes up when the child is crying when he is watching her and it really worries me. I think it is more natural for a woman to wake up to her crying child even if she was a heavy sleeper before she had the child, but should things not change for a man as well?
2007-01-21 09:16:32 · 12 answers · asked by Holy Macaroni! 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Don't get me wrong.. he really loves his daughter and they share responsibility equally. He changes diapers, bathes her, feeds her, provides for her. Everything a real man should do.. however, he is a heavy sleeper and I always thought that a good father would get that natural instinct when their child was born-to wake up when their child was crying. I don't know..
2007-01-21 09:39:39 · update #1
Oops.. I forgot to mention that the child sleeps in the same room...
2007-01-21 09:40:19 · update #2
i understand 100% my boyfriend is a heavy sleeper, and it has been a couple of times i have came in from work and the baby is crying. i get upset because as soon as he cries, i jump up but again he doesn't have the same instincts i have. and there's no doubt in my mind that he is a good father, he does alot but i have to be honest i did change my shift because he sleeps heavy
2007-01-21 10:57:32 · answer #1 · answered by meika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys just think it is the mom's job to do things. Also especially if you are not working and he is. His take on things might be that he as to get up in the morning and go to work...where as you can "sleep in" and stay home. It is a very challenging situation, my friend is going through it right now. Try to talk to your husband. Let him know that yes he may have to go to work the next morning, but your job is 24/7, and his is not. See you can compromise...ask if instead of him getting up for the baby in the wee hours of the evening, would he, when he come home, let you run to the gym, go food shopping etc...because I know what is bothering is not the fact that he not responding to the cries in the wee hours of the morning, but the fact that you feel like you are NOT getting a break from your 24/7 job. (my friend finally discoverd that...and her husband is beginning to get it)
2007-01-21 09:29:46 · answer #2 · answered by ArtBaby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When women wake up its natural to them. I think when it comes to men, it does not even click that they are supposed to wake up, that or they can be heavy sleepers that just dont hear the baby. Some men will jump out of bed when a baby cries, but alot of them its not natural so they dont hear it.
2007-01-21 09:40:24 · answer #3 · answered by angel01182 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The father helped to create the child so he should help care for the child equally to the mother.
All the duties should be shared when it comes to looking after the child.
If he doesn't want to take responsibility then he should not have children as he is a child himself.
2007-01-21 09:24:54 · answer #4 · answered by Jojo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might just be lazy. When my 1st was a newborn my husband and i would take shifts during the night and he had no problem waking up when the baby cried.
2007-01-21 09:21:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
with my first child, i was so paranoid that someone would break into the house and take the baby, or he would stop breathing that i didn't sleep soundly for the first 6 months of his life. my hubby thought i was crazy. we work different shifts also and even when it was my hubby's turn to get up with him, i was always awakened before him anyway. for some reason i guess i thought that no one, even my own hubby, could take care of my child like i could.
2007-01-21 09:20:59 · answer #6 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that all men have the same instincts as women. I'm blessed witha wonderful husband who difintely does his part with our children ages 3yr and 6 weeks.
2007-01-21 09:20:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
my husband and i both were heavy sleepers before we had our first baby. however after the baby was born we would both jump to every sound. this happens still and our oldest is almost four.
2007-01-21 09:20:59 · answer #8 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I could never have slept through any of my kids. I'm a very sound sleeper and the slightest peep out of my youngest (nine) still brings me right to the surface (and her bedroom is across the house at least twenty yards from mine).
I dunno. Maybe he isn't as emotionally attached as I am.
2007-01-21 09:22:23 · answer #9 · answered by Goofy Foot 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i know it takes some getting used to, maybe if they put the child in the same room as he or install a monitor beside his bed with the volume up, it might help.
2007-01-21 09:23:30 · answer #10 · answered by anyone0102 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋