Do you think it could mess up the wedding if you pick a flower girl (from the family) that's too young?

Question

She may or may not pull it off. What do you think about taking this risk. (Have someone 2 and a half in mind)

Answer 1

It depends on how you feel about your wedding and what "messing it up" means. 2 1/2 is young, but depending on the child, it may not be too young. Some two year olds couldn't do it, some could. Think about how you will feel if the worst happens. Think about how important it is for everything to be perfect. I think having children in weddings brings to mind what it's all about-- a union is the start of a family...and having kids in the wedding can symbolize that. Also, they can be the comic relief--sometimes it's nice to have a laugh in the middle of an intense ceremony. However, they may take some of the attention off of you, and if this is a problem for you (for some brides, it is), then think about that. Also, making sure they go potty first is a great idea. Have a plan for what happens if she can't do it anymore (during the ceremony). Have her practice multiple times...introduce her to a bridesmaid who she will look for when she gets to the front. Show her where her mom will be sitting, so she can go sit with mom if she can't keep going, etc.
I had three flower girls--and they were precious. One was perfect (7), one got bored and threw petals and swung her basket too much (6), one got tired and sat down on the steps, then went to sit with mom (3). No big deal...I didn't even notice...but the video is adorable. I couldn't have been more blessed than to have my three cousins there on my special day. Happy planning!

Answer 2

Hey there!
Two and a half is potentially too young. When my younger brother was 3 he was in my Aunt's wedding, and he was waving to people and smiliing teeth and all going down the aisle, and everyone thought it was cute, but once he got to the front - he thought it was time to play and walk around everywhere. My Mom had to go up to the front and sit with him. He did well from then after. If you're going to have a young ring bearer, maybe have someone meet him at the front - even his Mom or Dad... to be able to sit with him.

My ring bearer in my wedding will be 10, and the flower girl will be 8. They will be the youngest in attendance at the wedding and reception as well. It's not that children arn't adorable - I'm a kindergarten teacher! :P It's just that look at what is going to work for you and what can you manage. :)

Good luck!

Answer 3

I think it could go either way. I have seen 7 year olds who refused to go, so I dont think it matters really the age, just the situation.

Think about it this way. I have been in weddings, preformed on stage, been in many situations where I was the center of attention. Its unnerving even when you are used to it and older. Imagine you are a 2 year old standing at the end of an incredibly long aisle, everyone turned and looking at you, and most importantly your parents not in full site of you nor within arms reach. Scary thought. It could go one of two ways, tears or running. Tears will accompany refusal to go, running will be a child sprinting to the other end in search of her parents. I would think it would be very rare that the kid would go slowly with a smile and dropping flower petals daintily along her way.

My personal feeling is this, the day is about you and its ok to make it about you. Having this little girl, while in theory sounds great, will take away the attention from you, whether she goes or not, eyes and attention will be on her not you. I think its a little too young, my duaghter is 5 and will be a flower girl this july, when we were asked if it was ok, my husband and I really hesitated because we didnt think it should be about our daughter, but the bride really pleaded with us and we felt we couldnt refuse. But again, with our situation we really tried to make sure the bride realized that she might decided she wont be going down that aisle and we didnt want her day ruined by our daughters unpredictability. To this day, I am still unesay about this, but I wantthe bride to have what she wants. As will the parents of your little girl, but I really caution you to think about it and all the scenarios that could happen before you make the decision to ask.

Answer 4

Usually 3 & up is a good age. But this young lady may be more mature.
But at any age, you are not guarenteed they will make it up the aisle.

Hints:
Make sure they've had a nap before the event.
Potty before going down the aisle.
NO sugar.
Don't hype up their role.
If all else fails use bribery.

When she gets to the aisle's end have her sit with her mom. Don't make her stand through the ceremony.

One 4 year old flower girl was walking down the aisle throwing the petals. Suddenly mid-way she realized all eyes were upon her. She stopped & said, "They told me to throw them!" She made it the whole way.

Answer 5

It depends what your priority is. Our flower girl will be 2 1/2 when we get married. She might fall, she might run to Nana instead of going down the aisle (her mom is one of my bridesmaids), she might have to pee in the middle of the ceremony, or decide to climb on the alter instead of standing still like a perfect little angel. The bottom line is that she is my niece, she is my everything, and I could not be married without her in my wedding. For me, it is more important to have this little girl in my wedding than to have a guaranteed no issues. So what if she has to pee?

Answer 6

I remember being at a wedding where that idea blew up on them. The little flower girl made it clear that mommy needed to take her to the bathroom in the middle of the ceremony.

Answer 7

2 -3 year olds can be very moody. You just never know. I had a ring bearer who was 2 but he decided to cry all service long. So yes, an older child would be more reliable. You can always have more than one anyway. Let the older one be the guide.

Answer 8

It depends how you feel about her being unable to do it. If this would bother you ,say no.

Is there an older girl that could be a flower girls with her?

What about putting her in a decorated wagon, & have someone pull her. I've seen this it is so cute.

Answer 9

Skip it....Everyone will be oohing and aahing over her when she walks down the aisle and for once this day is all you. Most likely her parents will have to help her or she will start crying, so what's the point.

Answer 10

Well, it's a pretty bad idea if the child isn't old enough to understand everything. We (you and me both) wouldn't want her running up and down the aisles do we?