Dealing with Grief?

Question

My mum died 2 weeks ago and I find that I am kinda struggling with the world. Any tips on getting through the day, would be appreciated.

Answer 1

Carry a picture of her with you, and every time you feel down...look at it and think of a good time when she was laughing and chatting with you. Recall her voice and the expression on her face when she last told you something comforting...
Smile to yourself at the memory and you will find that you feel just as close to her as if she was still around.
Don't cry, feel happy that you always have her company in your memories.
Whisper goodnight to her when you go to bed...this will help you to sleep.

Answer 2

Sorry for your loss. Grief is a very personal thing. People sometimes try to be helpful but it's only ever any good if they have been through the same experience. I found when my Brother passed away it helped by seeking help from a bereavement councillor, it helped me to face up to the reality that life does does go on. Also found that all the cliche's in the world are true like time is a great healer & just take each day as it comes etc.

Answer 3

I don't think there are any simple answers. I got through the days better once I stopped trying to feel better and just accepted that it was a horrible time. I went over things in my mind until I kind of came to accept what had happened. I know a lot of people said to forget the worst bits but I sort of needed to keep going over it until I could really believe what had happened. I guess what I'm trying to say is there is no right way to cope just do whatever you feel like. It does change .The loss is always there and you don't forget but the bad memories sink abit and the good ones rise. Hope this helps. If you have a good friend to talk to that would be a help too.

Answer 4

I too lost my mom and I know the pain you are in. The one thing that got me through it was remembering how she wanted me to be and trying to honor that. It has been 15 years and yes time does help, it makes the heavy feeling not so heavy, just remember that she loves you and do something everyday that would make her proud of you.
Let the world know that she helped you to be the best person you can be. I am sorry that you have to go through this but you can be an example by how you deal with this. make her proud. I will say a prayer for you.

Answer 5

People handle grief differently and grieve differently for different people. For the next year you're going to experience a lot of firsts. First holiday without your mom, first birthday without your mom, etc. You choose what makes you feel the best. You will have suprising reactions sometimes to events, people, places, objects, etc. and you need to handle it in whatever way you choose. Some people may not agree with the way you cope with your grief or think your actions are off the wall but that's their purogative, you do what's right for you. Whatever or however you choose to handle it is okay and just talking to someone that is willing to listen to you will help alot. Just don't keep your emotions inside, if there is no one available to listen to you then write your feelings down in a journal but by all means vent. It's very hard now and will be for some time to come but the pain will eventually lessen but your memories of your mother will remain in that special place in your heart. Just give yourself time to cope and to heal, things will be okay for you. Best of luck!

Answer 6

Really sorry to hear about your loss. I took it really hard as my mom died suddenly and I didn't get to tell her goodbye. Everyone deals with this differently but it took me a long time to get over it. I finally went to local grief sessions that community has where all can talk about it and it helped more than anything. I went thru the could of should guilt trip and finally made peace with myself after hearing this was a normal part of grieving. By all means seek out help if you need it there is always someone out there to help you thru this time.

Answer 7

i am deeply sorry for your loss.. I have lost many loved ones in my time. i am a counselor at a cancer camp and we have a remembering ceremony where we send letters up to the heavens... what you do is write a letter and then burn it and the smoke will carry your message to your loved ones.. balloons work well too you can tie your message to the balloon and release it or just hold the balloon and put all of your thoughts and feelings into that balloon so to speak and let it go... as crazy as this sounds it really does help. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 8

Just remember that there is no right or wrong way on how you should feel or behave - when I lost my father, I was consumed by feelings of guilt and regret, and I just wanted be left alone. Other members of my family dealt with it by talking and wanting to be together. The fact that I had to sort out my dad's affairs and arrange the funeral actually helped me cope - it was a little bit of normality in an otherwise chaotic period in my life. My thoughts are with you.

Answer 9

I am so very sorry for you. Losing a parent is very difficult and even more difficult to deal with after the funeral because you know you'll never see her any more.

There are many things you have to go through in order to get better. There is grief, anger, etc.

My advice would be to stay busy. But, when you feel like crying, do it. When you feel angry, let it out. Do not be afraid to grieve.

Answer 10

You will be good one or two days and then it will hit you hard. It's a process. I highly recommend a support group or a councilor to talk to. It will take you a while to get over her death. I speak from experience. It's not easy. When you get sad and feel like crying, don't hold it in, go for it, cry and get it out of your system. But beware, it might come in waves. I am sorry for your loss.