Ok I'm getting married but have had problem after problem....?

Question

First My sister gt mad because I picked my best friend and maid of honor.
Second issue of many I chose a date that my parents didnt like and got chewed out because they had a trip scheduled that I knew nothing about.
Third changed the date and now its on mothers day got a lil flak for that one too but now I cant change the date cause its paid for non refundable.
Forth the bridesmaids cant seem to pick a darn gown, i picked one and they went up in arms ... but now when i tell them to pick one and they still cant decide.. they have even changed MY wedding colors.
Fifth I just had a blowing up at all the bridesmaids n told them you either come or you dont because im having a vegas wedding and asking people if they want to come to the dinner (other then parents or the wedding party) you will have to pay a small fee $25 per person to join the dinner... my maid of honor was mad that her mother had to pay... am i wrong or should i just give up and runaway... :(

I had to add this since some dont understand that we were originally trying to just get away and have a cheap wedding cause we dont have a bunch of money to spend. The dinner is optional and paid for for my wedding party and our parents. We are partially paying for other guest but dont want to cut them out entirly if they want to come so we are charging 25 per person if they want to come. Its not true that the dinner is always paid for in a vegas wedding with no reception. and 25 bucks includes appitizers, bread, soup or salad entree non alc drinks and desert. Stil my major problem is my best friend is upset because her mother who is not even my family has to pay... when my family and my fiances family have to pay also.

Answer 1

Sweetheart... This is YOUR WEDDING!!!!!!!!!! Don't let some pushy picky bridesmaids get in the way of the colors you've chosen. They don't like it, they get over it or get out. That's how it goes. If you want them to pick the dresses thats fine, but u say u want this color, its up to them to find that color in a style they want. It's your wedding. Your special day and no one can ruin it.

Answer 2

People will always get mad around weddings--bridesmaids will always be a pain--people will always tell you what to do. This is your wedding..plan it like you want to.
Give your bridesmaids a day to decide on the dress by...if they cant choose, tell them you will choose for them. Don't listen to their crap about whatever you picked, because you gave them the option. Don't let the change your wedding colors because the don't want to wear a certain color. My bridesmaids didn't want to wear pink (which I had chosen) so I them wear green (my other wedding color), and had pink flowers...it actually turned out prettier than it would've been, although I was mad I gave in to their issues.
Don't worry about the date, it's done now, and people will have to get over it. You probably will have problems getting people to pay for the dinner---that's not usually done. You may have to invite fewer people, or figure out a different option. That's just my two cents. Good luck!

Answer 3

I would take the runaway option!!!!! That's just too much drama!!! Go to the Justice of Peace!!! The marriage will probably last longer if you do. Most people I know that had really extravagant weddings, were married about 2-6 months. I'm not kidding!!!

Answer 4

cut 'em cut 'em. this is ur day. u dont need the headaches so u dont need the bridesmaid. the date has been set it is non refundable. continue with ur plans. dont let them get to u. whomever does not comply smile and proceed on. all u need is the clergy, the gromm and 2 witmnesses,(they can be the caterer's lol) but DO NOT stress about others on ur day.

congrats!!!!

Answer 5

First decide which is more important to you: Marrying the Love of your Life or the Wedding. If you choose the first, go anywhere where there's a minister, judge, rabbi, or celebrant. Your family and friends will get over it after you come back from your honeymoon. But if you want to have grand wedding, you need these people to make it happen. I know it's tough, and you don't need the stress. I almost went to vegas...

Answer 6

Your 1st problem is that you did not have a meeting with both sets of parents to discuss your wedding ideas, possible dates, etc. You can still do that now.

Your "non-refundable" deposit is probably refundable as a credit if you use the same hall.

NO ONE should pay to go to a wedding dinner. Just invite less people.

Answer 7

Your wedding party sounds like a pain in the a**. I would elope; they can come if they want, or, if not - good riddance.

Answer 8

WOW ~ here these bridesmaids are making sure they are looking perfect, when I thought it's the bride's day.

First of all, in regards to the bridemaids, I would just say, here are my colors, you chose the dress and I don't care if they are different style but HAVE to be the same color.

Second of all, you sister doesn't have to be the maid of honor, you may not be as close to her as you are to your friend. That is your choice.

Third in regards to your parents, tell them to grow up. You have changed the date once and that you aren't going to do it again. Remember it's your date.

Fourth in regards to the dinner issue. I went to a wedding in Vegas and I also had to pay for our dinner. It's not the first time. I went regardless of what it cost is because my friend was getting married and I wanted to be there to share in their special occasion. If they don't want to pay, then they don't have to go.

I wish you the best of luck and hope things go well for you in the future.

Answer 9

Grab your fiancee and best friend and ELOPE! Then go back and have a reception. I did and have NEVER regretted it and it was 35 years ago!(and we are STILL together!)

Answer 10

This is YOUR wedding! Don't let people tell you how to run it.