I am not getting married anytime soon; but If I was, I wouldn't want any of the traditional gifts that guests often give (towels, kitchen electronics, crystal, etc.) Although those things are nice, a donation into an account or towards a down payment on a house would be much more useful and smart. How do you word this on an invitation or is it extremely rude to even be choosey over your gift?
2007-01-21 08:20:15 · 12 answers · asked by TwinkaTee 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It is tacky and rude to instruct your guests how they should ply you with gifts or money. Sadly, tackiness and rudeness are becoming very commonplace at weddings, at the pre-wedding things, the bridal showers, and so-on.
You wouldn't mention gifts or money on a wedding invitation. To do so would be like setting an ultimatum. What gifts or money guests decide on giving should be entirely up to them.
The only acceptable time you could mention money or gifts on a wedding invitation would be in a line that read something like this:
Please, no gifts or money. We only want to share our happiness with you.
2007-01-22 02:11:29 · answer #1 · answered by Mario 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, there is no appropriate way to ask for any type of gift, monetary or otherwise. You can register for a honeymoon, but let your gift preferences be known through word of mouth. Never include this information on your invitation or an insert. Keep in mind, though, that most people bring checks and cash to the wedding, especially if you don't have a gift registry.
2016-05-24 07:50:24 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's NEVER correct to even mention gifts on your invitation or anywhere in your wedding invitation 'packet'. Cash gifts CANNOT be asked for, unless you don't mind being seen as rude and tacky. However, it is appropriate to use word of mouth to spread such a request. Have the family gossip spread word.
Dont forget, you can also register places like Target and Home Depot - if you are getting a house, this is a great way to get all the things you need for it. Even if you returned all the gifts you got, you can have the "cash" put onto a gift card and use it as you need it.
Remember, weddings are not fundraisers.
2007-01-21 10:14:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's rude to put it in the invitation, but a way to get what you want is to register at the stores in your area for the things you really need and like. But for cash gifts, the best way to get the word out is to tell the mom of the bride and groom. Most weddings I've been to, those attending contacted the parents to ask what the bride or groom would like. And most people are more than happy to just give cash and skip trying to figure out what to buy.
2007-01-21 08:27:25 · answer #4 · answered by glitterkittyy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to have to tell you, but there is not only no way to direct the sort of gifts you'd like, but no way to request a gift, at all.
A gift is not an entrance fee to the wedding/reception, after all, it's an expression of the giver's best wishes.
You get what you get. Buy your own house, like everyone else.
2007-01-21 08:30:12 · answer #5 · answered by silvercomet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I completely understand where you are coming from, but it's considered rude to ask for money on an invitation -- it's dictating to people what kind of gift they should give you. If there's a possibility of registering for it, you should do that. And also tell your family you'd appreciate money so that if people ask them what to give you, they can say.
2007-01-22 04:45:52 · answer #6 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, and I know I have Miss Manners backing on this, it's extremely rude to expect presents at all.
Is that why you are inviting people to the wedding??? I'm guessing probably not... so, you shouldn't expect anything... just be gracious about what you are given... and thank GOD there is ebay, because then you can just sell it. ;)
Don't even get me started on gift registries.
2007-01-21 08:37:42 · answer #7 · answered by Tiff 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have attended a wedding where the invitation says
"Thank you for your thoughtfulness but in lieu of material gifts, we shall appreciate it further if you can give us monetary gifts to help us start our new life together."
I think that is more convenient for the guests anyway, since they don't need to bother shopping etc.
2007-01-21 14:53:25 · answer #8 · answered by Wookiee 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't think there's any polite way to request cash/check only for a wedding gift.
2007-01-21 08:57:20 · answer #9 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is quite rude to suggest that guests give you ANY gift -- much less to specify cash.
2007-01-21 08:29:55 · answer #10 · answered by Jay 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋