ive just had what might just be classifies as a conversation with my ex of less than a week and i just realisewd how self absorbed and how much of git he is. now i was hanging on to him for dear life, but i suddenly feel free and i really dont care!! i still have confidence issues cos he really made me feel awful about myself, i could never ever do anything firght, but i can finallly realise he was bieng a complete d**k. is it bad i feel so normal after less than a week after 2.5 years of a so called relationship???
2007-01-21 08:15:16 · 14 answers · asked by cookie 85 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sorry bout the bad spelling, was typing fast!!!
2007-01-21 08:33:07 · update #1
yep...its probably normal...but dont bank on it lasting...you'll likely as not go through phases where you feel angry...upset...hate him...want to kill him...regretful...blah blah blah...you will go through a whole range of emotions before you come out feeling able to be objective and whole again...thats normal too...good luck...;0)
2007-01-21 08:26:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually what you are feeling is very normal. After I broke up with my first boyfriend, we had been together for a year and a half, I almost immediately was relieved and found I just did not care anymore. During the last few months of our relationships he was displaying all the signs of someone who wants to break up, but I kept calling him and acting needy. I was so afraid to lose the relationship, but I never stopped to think about what I would gain by getting back my self-esteem. Years later I realize this guy was full of himself because he used to say things like:
I am smarter than most people, but I say stupid things to make people laugh and mostly because I do not pay attention.
I have a higher IQ than most people, but I do not look down on anyone.
The four years since we broke up it is hard to believe I actually dated someone like this. I think you are just beginning to realize you and the ex really did not have much in common and you are relieved to have him out of your life.
2007-01-21 16:33:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol, let me say a few things. First, congratulations on finding out how much of an asshole he is.
Secondly, I know what you will do next. After a month or two he will start begging for you again by saying he will change and stuff and then you will just come running back to him.
Knew a girl whos bf cheating on her with some many one night stands with other women but she was stupid enough to go running back to him.
Women do this alot of the times.
2007-01-21 16:24:36 · answer #3 · answered by medic_man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you have just reached the thankful relieved stage that most women take months to get to!
Enjoy the rest of your life without the loser - you've got two and a half years of fun and confidence building to catch up on!
2007-01-21 16:20:57 · answer #4 · answered by Poppy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No....its really good.....it took me three months to realise that about my ex, and we'd been going out less time than you and your ex. So enjoy ur single status and have some fun :D
2007-01-21 18:31:18 · answer #5 · answered by Leggy_Babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God, you have a gift there! Cherish it. In future the tell take sign is if he is trying to change you, in any way, it's not working. If someone else says "I think you should change this", you say to them, "Shove off doofus, and find someone else who already has it"
You are you, and bloody heck you are perfect at that job, if someone doesn't like aspects, that ain't your fault.
2007-01-21 16:24:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
not if he was treating you this way im sorry that it took you long to see this crap was going on you deserve someone else a bf isnt supposed to make you feel stupid...ect..... they are supposed to make you feel specail and that you can do anything that you want so go find someone that does that for you and forget about your loser ex bf
2007-01-21 16:22:51 · answer #7 · answered by advise_gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope - you've realised what a Richard Cranium he was - be happy - enjoy!
2007-01-21 16:18:06 · answer #8 · answered by jamand 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal 'cause you were dating a loser. Congrats for finally figuring it out.
2007-01-21 16:19:24 · answer #9 · answered by Paul L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Don't freak out. Chill.
2007-01-21 16:21:42 · answer #10 · answered by eli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋