my daughter is 16 we have caught her in several lies about where she was suppose to be and did somethng different or did not tell the truth about stuff that happened all that we ask is for her to tell us where she is going what time she will be back and call if plans change. we were giving her a nother chance to prove herself and she would be driving a B.M.W. at the end of this month well she messed up last night she ask her father to borrow his car to go to a ballgame that was out of town he said yes she then leaves the ballgame and calls her father to tell him that her and her girlfriend was going to get something to eat but they ended up in another county saying that the food was better she did not call and tell her father she was going to another county but the car would not start where she was at and thats how we found out so now the car is put on hold untill she can figure out what her responsibility is is this fair
2007-01-21 08:11:26 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First off, drop the idea of her getting a BMW. When I was in high school, I got a used Toyota Corolla and that's all a high schooler should get. No fancy cars. Also, she needs to prove herself more by being more honest, following the rules, and being responsible. And she should get a part-time job to pay for gas, etc. Tell her actions speak louder than words and right now, her actions say she's irresponsible.
2007-01-21 08:32:49 · answer #1 · answered by chnchita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pull the car away from her. She doesn't get it back for a very long time. She is now grouned from going out or having friends over and that includes school events. She has to win yours and your husband respect back and it shouldn't be overnight either. The more she fights, the more you take away. If you do not put a stop to it now it does get worse later. Put your foot down and take a stand.
I always leave with a cowboy quote: Good judgment comes from experience, and a lotta that comes from bad judgment.
2007-01-21 16:23:21 · answer #2 · answered by cowboybronco01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm 15 and I think this is fair. I wouldn't want it to happen to me, but if she knew the rules and she didn't follow them then this punishment is fair.
On the flip side, you said she told her father she was going to get something to eat, so she didn't lie because she did go get something to eat. She just wasn't specific about where, so maybe her father should of asked where she was going.
2007-01-21 16:21:34 · answer #3 · answered by bballrox4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most definantly responsibilty...put your foot down...i mean i just turned 16 2 days ago, and like my mom says nothing changes...until u get out of the house and pay bills...then u can do what u want
2007-01-21 16:17:44 · answer #4 · answered by muslimah4life91 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe u r giving in to her too much take the car away until u r satisfied that she can be responsible and stop lying.
2007-01-21 21:09:15 · answer #5 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. If she can't listen to your rules, then she can't get the car. Period.
2007-01-21 16:15:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋