Im 18 and so is my boyfriend. He has big blue eyes and blond hair and one of my girldriends ( a girl who is a friend) says that most guys with blond hair and blue eyes are gay. He is really charming, and gentleman he always opens the door for me, and offers to carry my stuff. So im little suspicous because st8 guys are usually jerks. And he also likes to watch passions with me, and loves going to the movies and last week he made a picnic on the beach for me. Is this gay behavior?? And something really get me suspicous like when rented I am Sam, and Step Mother he cried. So I don't know. IS HE GAY????
2007-01-21 08:01:40 · 25 answers · asked by goldwinner 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No maybe you just have a really good man! ^_^
2007-01-21 08:04:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to be trusting of your boyfriend and of your relationship. Nobody turns gay b/c they look a certain way, your friend is just being silly. If a guy made a picnic lunch on the beach for me, I'd fall even more in love! That's so romantic! My b/f has cried over some silly movies and has the same gentleman like qualities, but I know for a fact that he's not gay. Love him for who he is and appreciate that he's one of a very few guys who treats women with respect.
2007-01-21 08:07:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was that you said most guys with blond hair and blue eyes are gay? What kinda stupid generalization is that. I bet Brad Pitt would be surprised to hear that all this time he was getting it with Angelina he coulda had a man instead! Just because a man exhibits gentlemanly behavior doesn't mean he is gay. Just because a man is not afraid to show emotions doesn't mean he is gay. If a man has sex with another man - now that does mean he is gay. Has he had sex with you? If so he could still be gay but he probably isn't. Best way to know is to ask him.
2007-01-21 08:10:36 · answer #3 · answered by PRS 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So far, you've used a lot of hearsay evidence (your friend, the 'gay guy' expert), generalities, and stereotypes to pigeonhole your boyfriend into a whole different sexual orientation.
Most women would be more than happy to have a thoughtful, attentive, and emotionally available boyfriend. Instead, you've gone into "Gay-dar" mode. How much do you WANT him to be gay?
This isn't about him being (or not being) gay. This is about you not having enough self-esteem to think you are worth all of these attentions that he is giving you -- or having to have the acceptance of your friends that he is, in fact, the catch they WISH they could have.
If you care about your boyfriend, talk with him. Admit that sometimes his behavior makes you uncomfortable, and you don't always know how to handle it. See how things work out from there. Don't give yourself or him expectations to meet in this conversation, and allow yourselves time to absorb and respond to each others statements or questions.
2007-01-21 08:13:41 · answer #4 · answered by CarinaPapa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes a person may do things that seem to be feminine, but it doesn't mean he is gay. You are so lucky to know someone that has the confidence to show all their emotions. Your friend may just be jealous of what you have. If he behaviors like this in public will it bother you? If it doesn't bother you now, will it 1 year from now, If it does, then get out before you get in too deep. If it doesn't bother you, then you are the luckiest girl in the world.
2007-01-21 08:10:42 · answer #5 · answered by help 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends, has he ever said, "Yeah I'd love to try sleeping with a guy at some point."?
Most likely you just have a really great boyfriend. Honestly you're too young to know that most straight guys are jerks. How many guys have you dated? You should just chill and enjoy it.
Your girl who is a friend is a moron by the way... definitely
2007-01-21 08:10:47 · answer #6 · answered by sweetcandy11234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend sounds like one of the most ignorant people around... THINK before you go accusing someone of being gay because they have blond hair, blue eyes, and happen to be a nice person...
2007-01-21 08:06:26 · answer #7 · answered by Stephanie B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hair and eye color has nothing to do with it.
My man is the sweetest in the world opening the door for me and all. He is not gay.
2007-01-21 08:08:12 · answer #8 · answered by moo shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is only trying to be a gentleman and that he really likes you... o and about the crying during the movie maybe he is just really sensitive... I haven't seen the movie,but maybe it reminded him of something that happened in his family and it made him really upset!!!
2007-01-21 08:08:58 · answer #9 · answered by clb <3 tjb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all guys r jerks its just the jerks that u been with. This one might just be a sencitive guy that doesnt mean that hes gay. He just likes you that much that he likes to do the stuff that you like.
2007-01-21 08:06:18 · answer #10 · answered by Vader 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop being so seteriotystic
you cant say that straight guys are jerks and gay guys are nice and charming
stop being obsessed and worried
if you really feel that he is gay, talk to him but i doubt that the conversation will end on a good note
2007-01-21 08:08:13 · answer #11 · answered by dramais4thestage 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋