Why is Spanking Considered Abuse By Some People?

Question

A spanking is one firm pat on a clothed butt, that doesn't even hurt, so why is it considered abuse when some (weird) people actually GREET each other that way?

Answer 1

Because these days we aren't supposed to be parents..we're supposed to be friends. If we spank our kids, we might upset them and (Gasp!) they won't like us.

I'm all for spanking..kids who aren't spanked are some of the WORST behaved children you'll come across.

You know what I think is abuse? Putting a child in time-out. Sounds crazy, but I'm serious--time-outs should be considered abuse. You know why? Well, how would you like it if someone made you stand in the corner for being bad? Making someone "go away" for doing something wrong? How degrading is that? That doesn't teach a child to behave, that teaches them they are ONLY acceptable as people if they don't do anything wrong.

Answer 2

spanking is not a buse. some people are extremist and make things worse than they really are. a few gusty winds all of a sudden is a hurricane, a knocked down tree and we had a tornado, spanking all of a sudden turns into beating. some people are just strange. if spanking as a form of discipline is abuse than so must put a kid in time out in a corner persay. i dont know mental abuse maybe. its all just corny to me. a spanking does not cause any harm to the child. i am not a weird person that greets people like this but sometimes my husband slaps my but playfully and although it catches you off guard and startles you, it does not leave a mark and doesnt hurt. i agree with what someone else said on here that kids who arent spanked end up being the more naughty ones. my daughter is spanked and is 7 and has never ever touched another child in a bad way nor would she.

Answer 3

The line between acceptable spanking and actual abuse is INCREDIBLY thin. My one open-hand swat on my youngest child's well-padded tushie is not the same as a grown man whaling on the back of his preschooler's thighs with a leather belt. Factors such as the child's age, size and mental state, the parent's motive, how often it happens, where the child is struck, what the child is struck with (backhand, open hand, closed fist, paddle, belt, switch, etc.), how hard the child was struck, etc., make it so it can be easiest to err on the side of caution.
For the most part, I'd like to assume parents should decide where to draw those lines for their own family, but even those of us who are ok with spanking have seen or know of parents who have crossed the line and gotten out of control.

Answer 4

Because people are idiots.
How can you compare a spanking to full out beating that leaves bruises up and down a child's back, legs, and bottom? It's absolutely ridiculous. People also feel the need to force their opinions on other people. I laugh at them myself, because they fail to see how so many kids and teenagers these days have no respect for anyone. You got teenagers (even on here asking questions) about how they can get back at their parents for grounding them. They don't get grounded. Their parents ground them, yet they sneak on the computer because they don't care what their parents say. Their parents "can't spank them". They will "call child abuse" if their parents lay a hand on them. But you know what? It's sad that I tried to scare my parent into calling the police, I just got handed the phone and asked if I wanted the number dialed for me. Kids these days know that parents can be afraid to spank them. My cousin actually even called the police once and the police told his dad to go ahead and spank him. So, why is it that the KIDS can scare their parents these days?
I'm sorry if I'm going to spank a child so they won't end up getting killed by getting ran over by a car. Would I rather spank them, or lose my child? Just so I won't "OMG! HURT THEM!" Hmm... That's such a "TOUGH ONE"!

Answer 5

there is a difference between spanking and beating your child. if you have a three year old who insist upon touching the electric socket or other things that can hurt him/her a slight smack on the hand will let them know not to touch that. i feel there's nothing wrong with that. however if your child is older than 8 years old you should not spank. i feel spankings should be used from ages 2-7 anything younger than 2 the child is too young to understand why you hit them. older than 7 it becomes an abuse issue. but again these are my views

Answer 6

What your talking about is a swat or spank. A spanking is multiple swats to the bottom. Clothed or unclothed. I really don't see it as abuse either way. We believe in spankings as I defined it. I don't like to use the swat thing, maybe very occasionally I Will, but if it's minor enough to earn one swat, then we usually put them in time out. Spankings, though rare, work wonders as a last line of defense when everything else breaks down.

Answer 7

because people don't realize that there is a difference between beating and spanking. Some people were abused when they were younger and it can be a touchy issue or they may repeat in their parent's foot steps. I think that proper spanking is a good thing.. but if the parent can't control themselves then they shouldn't do it. You do have to be careful though.. sometimes your kids will walk all over you if you don't!

Answer 8

i'm on the fence with this one. i do no longer think of spanking is abuse if completed not often. i've got not got self assurance in spanking in my opinion. i think of that if spanking is used too in many situations then that's seen abusive. the explanation i think of it extremely is by technique of the fact by skill of making spanking a usual style of dicipline you're no longer truly coaching your baby acceptable coping skills. As an grownup, you won't be able to spank your friends, co-workers, workers or everyone elses babies. Violence won't remedy all your problems and its would not seem as though a great getting to grasp gadget if used too a lot.

Answer 9

The government should not be telling parents how to raise their kids period. There is a big difference between a F'd-up pevert abusing a child and a parent innocently swatting a child in his terrible two's to get his attention. The liberals WILL use this to propagate this perpetual need they have to destroy the bases of what this country is based on....the family

Answer 10

Spanking and hitting are two completely different things.
No parent likes to spank but it is sometimes necessary.
Spanking got a bad name when parents were too concerned with being friends with their kids than actually parenting them.
Now we see metal detectors in schools, 13 year olds getting knocked up with their parents throwing them baby showers. It makes me sick.

Answer 11

I myself cannot spank anyone, I did spank my boy when he was little and I know, myself, that I got out of control. Since then I have not spanked anyone. My boy now is 23 years old, and I have not spanked him since he was 6. He listened when he was little even without the spanking. I have a daughter that now is 12, she has never, ever been spanked, and she listens to what I say. Sometimes like any other child, she misbehaves, and I just have to talk her strongly and that is that. I do not believe in spanking, if you only can control a child by hitting on him, then he does not respect you no matter what you do. I have proved with my own children that spanking is not necessary. If you show them that your are the Mom and Dad from the beginning, the child will know who is in control.
WHERE PARENTS MESS UP AT IS WHEN THEY SAY THEY WILL PUNISH THE CHILD IF HE DOES IT AGAIN, AND THEN THEY DO NOT FOLLOW THROUGH, THIS IS A SIGN TO THE CHILD THAT THAT PARENT IS WEAK. I KNOW MANY OF YOU DO NOT LIKE MY ANSWER, BUT WHEN THE TRUTH HITS YOU IN YOUR FACE, NO ONE LIKES IT.