My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years. During those 2 years we took a 7 month break, (it was my fault). The first time we were going out, I met a boy in my class. I thought he was cute, so i started to like him, while I was going out with my boyfriend. when my B/F was In South Dakota, the boy i liked took me for a walk around the neiborhood. We ended up kissing and that was it. Right afterwards I realized that i love my b/f soooo much, and swore that I would never do it again. The only reason why I want to tell him this is because I have seriouse jelousy problems with him cause I'm afraid hes going to do the same thing to me, but he never has. What should I do. I know the consequences, but do you think he deserves to know? Would it help me with my jelousey if he knew?
2007-01-21 07:52:12 · 24 answers · asked by PrincessM 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This happened a long time ago. How will it benefit your relationship to tell him now? You say that you will never cheat on him again, so just "let sleeping dogs lie".
2007-01-21 07:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by Ti 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No do not tell him anything. Few reasons:
You guys werent together at the moment, no matter whos fault it was.
It will hurt him and maybe he will leave you for good, unless you want that.
Maybe he done the same in SD while you been broken up or apart.
Also you a better woman now. You said it yourself. Whatever happened between you and this guy made you realize how much your actual boyfriend mean to you. So now that you know he is so important to you and you had to take that step to realize that or figure it for yourself better then thats what had to have happen. At least you know you are not doing this mistake again and i am sure wateva the case is he would appreciate that. And no it wouldnt help you with your jealousy if he knew your situation. It have nothing to do with your jealousy.
It does look like you have serious conscience issues. Maybe you need to get it off your chest, but only for the purposes to releave your struggles and guilt issues, but thats it.
2007-01-21 08:05:24 · answer #2 · answered by BK thang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt it would help you with ur jealousy (i have that problem to Lol) but if he finds out from some other way than from you, then he's probably gonna have some issues with trusting you, even if it was just a kiss. Plus, it was 2 years ago and you chose him over the other guy anyway, so it might even make him feel more secure with the relationship. Hope this helps. Good luck. =)
2007-01-21 07:58:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy and I think that if the guy you messed around with it is still around then you should tell him.Because if he ever tells anyone and it gets back to your boyfriend.It would hurt him more and to me I don't give 2ND chance to girls that mess around.because if you been together that long than marriage maybe an option for him with you.If you were broken up at the time.I don't really think it should matter as long as you didn't give yourself to him. sexually.Do not know if it would help with your jealousy problem but it will take all your guilt away.And if you tell him make sure t tell him the whole story and don't leave anything out.Be prepared for 20 questions.
2007-01-21 08:13:15 · answer #4 · answered by rici2d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu only kissed another boy( you didn't sleep with him* and you're not Married to your boyfriend)and it was 2yrs ago****** You don't know 100^% if he's "kissed" another girl...You believe he hasn't and he would never tell you......
Honesty is the best way to do things in life tho* but i dont feel it will Help with Your jealousy in anyway, but it will ease your guilty feelings if you do let him know* but you can then kiss him goodbye*
GoodLuck*
2007-01-21 07:58:46 · answer #5 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it would help you , but im not so sure it would help him , cause depending on his personality,it could cause him not to trust you anymore, but that is a chance you must take and start fresh and just be open with eachother, talk it over and you will begin to feel better about your relationship.
2007-01-21 08:00:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should tell him. After all it was only a kiss. if he does not forgive you than that is his fault! you were trying to be honest w/ him! just put it in a nice way that wont sound like you made out or something like that! ♥
2007-01-21 08:00:49 · answer #7 · answered by Taylor*Leigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HEck NO! what is there to tell, you had a kiss no issue. If you tell him now about something that happen back then be prepared to deal with the storm that comes with it
2007-01-21 08:00:25 · answer #8 · answered by D W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you have nothing to tell him. What is point of discussing an innocent kiss from two years ago. Forget it. Get on with sharing your present and future
2007-01-21 07:56:44 · answer #9 · answered by wally 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I in actual fact propose you to no longer tell your modern boyfriend approximately any untrue affairs which you have had contained in the previous. as quickly as the affair is over, that's over. in basic terms brush it below and cover it up with any piece of carpet obtainable at your disposal. ok?
2016-10-07 12:28:52 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋