Long Island, NY: About a Catholic Conformation for an 8 year old:?

Question

The father, now divorced, who is my friend, had named his sister as godmother. Now, years later, the sister and his parents had turned against him, the father. He has had no contact with any of them. They would NOT testify on his behalf when he divorced and sought custody. They refuse to not only forgive this very nice man, but speak falsely and ill of him. He wants no part of them forever. They are indeed vicious.

Someone said he MUST invite his sister and parents to the conformation of his daughter.

Any outs of, or to circumvent any of this?

His Catholic girlfriend is cornering him into a fancy multi-thousand dollar conformation expense for his daughter with new clothes for the child, a solid gold cross, white bible qnd new white pocketbook/gloves, and a formal sit down dinner in a restaurant.

I am not a Catholic. Are there any ways around this, all or any modifications allowed, such as not inviting the god mother, naming a new godmother or none, his parent

Answer 1

No there is no law in the Catholic Church that says he must invite his family and he can have any Sponser he chooses, tell him to find a new Sponser I would, it is not wrong and let them be as for the clothing, if he was not happy about the expense he would tell her. Good luck

God Bless You

Answer 2

the godmother doesnt have to be his sponser, it can be anyone.

sure its polite, but 'must'?

heres how it works,
at conformation(8 years old? sounds a little young, i was 14)
the person being confrormed has a sponser, someone whose already been confrimed, to stand behind them, i guess its like a symbolic support for them. this person can be anyone, i choose my grandpa and my godfather is my uncle.

there is no 'you have to invite these people' sure its polite and christ-like, but no ones pulling your arm.

but the godparent isnt involved unless the child says so (chooses them as their sponsor)