Should I dump him?

Question

My boyfriend of a month and a half is SO sweet and polite. He always holds the door open, makes sure I'm happy, and overall really cares about me. But, it seems like he's uncomfortable when he's around me, which makes me uncomfortable. We can't find anything to talk about, because we don't really have anything in common. Basically, I'm just pretty bored around him. Plus, I've heard from various people that he's always afraid I'm going to break up with him, so he won't do anything "out there" (thus, he's boring). He took me out to the movies yesterday, and afterwards we grabbed a bite at the food court. He probably said less than 30 words the whole time. To put it nicely, we have no chemistry. So, I was planning on nicely breaking it off with him tomorrow. That is until, he just called and apologized for yesterday. He said he wasn't feeling good and he was really sorry. Why is he so nice?! It makes it so hard. What should I do???

Everyone is telling me different things! Answer it and make it The Best answer that you know I will want to choose. Prove why you are right and I should pick your answer.

And thanks everyone!

Answer 1

Yah, get rid of him. Life is too short to fill it with boring people!

Answer 2

Develop a "history" together. Start by going out to really fun places such as amusement parks, bowling, a ceramic class where you can be together and create something. Each time you are doing something fun, this creates history. Having said this, you and him will be able to laugh and talk about some of the things that you had done. This will/might open him up into talking. Some guys are just plain boring and some guys need a little nug. Give it some time. If he is still the same, time for him to go. There are plenty of really nice guys who can have conversations with you. What you really need is someone you can communicate with...which is the most important thing. If you can't with this guy, after a while, you know he has to go.

Answer 3

Giiiirrllll, I know how you feel. I had a boyfriend like that before and I tell you it is annoying as **** when they dont talk about anything. It gets old. I dates this guy who was smoking hot, extremely hung and just plainly nice. You would think someone whould snatch him quick, but you know i didnt have to worry about that because all toehr chicks probably wouldnt want his borring *** all the goodies he have either. I dont know.....I felt like i need to be rude and just tell him that "Hey you need to do something about it. You boring me to death!" but because he was a such a good guy I was afraid to hurt his feelings. What I did is i stop receiving his phone calls and stop answering a door when he was coming by my place. You would think it gave him enough hint that i am not interested but no! he actually came out to be dumb too so he and his good self didnt have a clue of what is going on. I say run away from what. However you want to do....do it now until its not to late, until he really have feelings for you, untill it will hurt you mentally(the whole thing bout breakin someones heart blah, you know), etc. Good luck!

Answer 4

What do your friends think of him. Any guys I go out with, I have my friends aprove. So he's sweet and kind. A lot of guys are sweet and kind. What do you do together. Is it something you enjoy. Do you have to ask him to do something or does he bring it up. My cousin had the same thing. Their off again on again. Any ways you said he dosen't talk much and is really boring. Do the same thing that he does to you. Don't talk ,act uncomfortable be boring. If nothing happens dump him. GOOD LUCK!!!

Cloggingkitty

Answer 5

Well if there really aint no relationship between yall then why should yall be in one? I mean if ya'll have nothing in common then its just gonna be boring throughout the whole relationship unless he actually starts being un-boring and actually starts talking to you i think he's not ready for a relationship just because he's nice doesn't mean you should be with him if he's uncomfortable thats a bad thing but just ask him why doesn't he say alot and why he's uncomfortable and ya'll should figure something out. Good lucc =)

Answer 6

Why don't you try and talk with him about it? You won't know what's really going on unless you ask him. Maybe he's just nervous, if he's heard that you want to break up with him - that would explain his behavior.

The only ones who knows what's going on are the two of you, therefore you are the only ones who can decide whether or not you should be together.

Good luck.

Answer 7

ok, i'm a lot like him. its not that you dont have a lot of chemistry.

it depends on how old you guys are junior high and highschool meens that he probably doesnt know the right thing to say. and the reason he is uncomfortable is he's trying to figure out what do say without looking like an idiot trying to think.

you should probably just sit and talk to him about it.

but, its not really my decision, so go ahead and make yours.

oh and about the nice thing is that he's a little scared and he just trying to make up not being able to talk to you with being nice.

Answer 8

That will have to be a decision that you make.From the sounds of it you are not very happy with him but there has to be some kind of attraction that brought you together.Talk with him about it and give him a chance.Maybe he has something on his mind and if it comes out in the open things may be better.Good Luck

Answer 9

some people are really really shy and it takes a lot of time for them to come out of there shell. Give it time and give him a chance to come out of his shell. He will! Then you will be one of the few people that know the true him. Ask him questions to get him talking. YOu will have to take charge of the conversations for a while. Nice guys are hard to come by....dont let it go to quick.

Answer 10

conversation is a two way street, you sound like you are not making a very big effort either. What are your common interests? School, tv, music? If you dont have anything that you enjoy together, then it is time to move on. You are not doing him any favours prolonging the agony.

Answer 11

well sometimess in relationships if one is soft the other must be brash.
to me you might be his back bone hun.
dont break it off because you feel like there isnt a click between the both of you, you must find something to talk about.
ask him what he enjoys and what strikes his fancy.
you just might find that there is something the both of you share in common.
good guys are hard to find my dear and it sound like to me that you found one.
if you want to break it off with him then fine, but dont be surprised to find your next guy to be a total jerk.
then you will be wishing you stayed with mr soft.
give this man a chance.
he may feel like a little sheep when hes near you coz you probably intimmidate him, he must love that about you if he himself is afraid of lossing you.
you should apreciate a man like him, make him feel good and comfortable, then you will feel comfortable to.
spend more time together set dates and follow through, you need to start talking to him it dont matter if its about your favorit show, he then will start talking to you without saying 30 words or less.
in order for you to go out with him there must be a reason why you did, the attraction is there and you both need to come together, you know what i mean ''communicational stimulation''
trust me it does wonders, my fiance is just like him and im a brash woman myself.

so please just try what i said out and see.
he seems like a great guy please dont let him go, there aint to many good guys out there, you are one of the lucky one huns.

good luck