why do people make such a big deal about their daughters wearing thongs?

Question

what i mean is if a 13 year old asks her mom for a thong he mom freaks out and thinks she wants to wear it b/c she is having sex or something... they sa she is growing up to fast... but maybe its because i am young but when i was high school and middle school thongs were just underwear and no one thought anything of it everyone wore them so it wasn't such a big deal. i work in a juniors store and there are girls thats are about 13 who come in and buy themselves thongs with the money that their mother gives them.. i am sure that they tell their mom thatthey spent the money on dinner in the mall or something. but the point is that they are gonna wear them anyways and just keep it a secret. i think that older people and by that i mean people 35 and older make to much out of it. because their girls are gonna do what they want and if they have to hide their underwear from them wht hapens when its more serious things???

Answer 1

I wear thongs just because I don't want visible panty lines
I would freak out if my daughter was wearing a thong and low jeans so people could see her thong but I think that is tacky on any age

Answer 2

Here is a test. have someone ask a guy about your age or a little older, what kind of underwear style he would like his girlfriend to wear. If he answers thong etc, ask him why ? I'm quite sure he will say because it is more sexy etc. So do your parents want you sexually active, probably not. Also, find a young man, 20-24, and ask him what kind of bodily reaction he has when he pictures a teen or young lady in a thong ? that is why adults freak. I know it sounds crazy at 13, but ask them what underwear they wore and see how much more it covered than a thong. Just trying to see things from many points of view.

Answer 3

Some parents think that a child who is 13 years old does not need to be wearing thongs. To them it is disrespectful and that they are growing up to fast for their age and most of them do buy thongs so they can get boys attention and the only thing that leads to is sex, because when they do buy the thong they are thinking about being sexy for someone and when they bend down the guys well see their thong. So I do agree with the parents who think that wearing a thong at the age of 13 is wrong.

Answer 4

Ok... look! I am 23 years old and when I was younger, 13 (I hate admitting that), I lost my virginity. I begged my mother to buy me cute underwear, because I didn't want to be embarrassed by the kind of underwear I was wearing when I did have sex. And... I would often not wear any at all because I was so embarrassed, because I didn't have anything but typical childish underwear. If my teenage daughter approached me and said that she wanted to buy thongs I would probably fall on the ground and say, "NOOooooo...." because that is what would come to mind. I know why I did it.. so why wouldn't that be the reason she wanted to?

By the way.. I feel that it is necessary to add that they do make seamless underwear (underwear that you can't see the lines...) so if panty lines are an issue... this is what you buy (especially for a young person). You don't HAVE to wear butt floss. Also, it is very obvious when someone is wearing a thong.. their butt looks as though they aren't wearing any underwear at all.. all jiggly (and not just when you are fat).. yuck.

Answer 5

You know, you are right on one side. The part of hidding more serious things than just wearing a thong. But as a Mother if my daughter, who is 12 and will 13 in June, ask me to buy her thong or that she bought a thong, I will certainly ask her why. Of course you need to wear underpants, but why thongs. My thought would be.....so who else is going to be looking at them. That is I would not allow my daughter those underwear, usually when a girl as young as 12 and up start using things like this, is because they have interest in boys, and if by chance they have something to do with a boy, the boy will see her underpants. I know I sound as old as old hen, (which I am), but in reality my concern is for my child. I talk to my child and advise her on what is wrong and what is right. She doesn't always listen to me. But I certainly go behind her and check.
Let me tell you a short story, the other night I woke up about 3am in the morning, my dear, darling, sweet 12 year old was talking on her cell phone, I asked her who she was talking to...she said a friend, I asked a friend who, that needs to talk to you when every one else is sleeping? Well for that night I left it alone. I come to find out the next morning, that she was talking to an 18 year old from MYSpace website. I hit the roof, I called his house and then I told the police about it. The scare my daughter got she will never forget, I explained to her what those men want with little girls. I took the computer away from her for a while and now I have her cell phone to see if that man calls again.
My point is that yes, kids will try anything on their parents but it is the parents responsibility to try and keep them away from danger. So if a mother says no thongs, no thongs it is.
A child can hide everything they do, but believe me, with Mom Patrol I will find out sooner rather than later.

Answer 6

Here's the answer love: Because if they "look" cute, the obvious logical deduction is, that you want someone to *see* how they "look". First problem with parents and thongs. Second, more practical problem: They're a gynelogical health NIGHTMARE! This is gross, BUT you need to hear it: it's clinically proven: thongs are going to sweep LOT'S more bacteria into your vagina than any other type of underwear. Basically, you have a string connecting the most bacteria-ridden part of you with the most bacteria-vulnerable part of you. Not a good situation. It leads to bacterial vaginosis, yeast infections, and all other sorts of nasty things you don't want to thing about, I don't care how hygenic you think you are: it's a dirty area, and things get dirty. Better solution? Boy shorts! I'm 21, I'm of age, and I'm very conscious of cute panties: I wear boyshorts in cute coordinating colors because it's safer, it's more comfortable, and it actually accentuates all my cute parts. My bet is that they'll make your parents happy. I wore Mudd and Lei brand when I was your age. Still do actually, when I'm feeling spunky. They're adorable!

Answer 7

Im only 15 and i still think thongs are inappropriate. Just because gonna buy them and wear them anyway doesn't mean that parents should buy them for their teenage girls. Kids are gonna drink do drugs and have sex whether their parents want them to or not does that mean they should commend it? Thirteen year old girls don't need to wear thongs underwear is not meant to be seen so what would be the point in wear skimpy things like that? Sex. Beleive me i still go to school and girls thongs are way out in the open thats just asking for the wrong kind of attention. Why do you think little girls get raped? Because they dress like grown women

Answer 8

Hmm... well for starters, anyone who thinks their daughter has to wear a thong to have sex is clearly misinformed and uneducated. A teenager will have sex if they want to, regardless of what kind of underwear they have!!!!! If you are that worried about your daughter having sex JUST because she is wearing a certain type of underwear then you need to learn how to communicate with her. Girls see thongs in clothing catalogs, movies, etc... they want to wear them. I was 14 when I got my first thong, we were required to wear one for a dance recital so our panty lines didn't show. I don't have any children yet (I'm only 21) and I wouldn't go out of my way to buy my 13 year old daughter a thong, but I wouldn't flip out if she bought one behind my back, as long as she wasn't wearing it in a trashy way with those really low cut jeans. Underwear is underwear, who the heck should care what it looks like except the person wearing it.

Answer 9

Thongs do not mean you are thinking about sex. If a girl wants to have sex regardless of what underwear shes wearing she will. When I was in highschool, I would wear them depending on what pants I was wearing. Some pants you had to wear them because of how they fit, or the fabric they are. And your right if a girl wants a thong, shes going to go to the store herself and buy them, and then hide them so her parents will not see them.

Answer 10

Firstly i think its definitely a personal thing. Not every mother would object to their child wearing a thong. It completely depends on the mother/daughter relationship, if the mother is conservative etc.

personally i think that if a 13yr old asks her mother if she can buy her a thong, then this shows that the child obviously trusts her mother alot, and values her friendship. She could have easily gone behind her back as you say and bought it anyway.

Its no big deal, what is a big deal is a mother objecting to it and making a huge issue out of it.

Anyway - thongs are uncomfortable if you ask me....granny knickers all the way!!

Answer 11

Because at 13 you shouldn't be so fasion obssessed that you're worried about panty-lines. And given the suggestion of sex that comes with a thong, a 13 year old doesn't need to go there either. I'm not 35, and I don't think kids that young should wear them either.