Is he jealous and/or Insecure?

Question

My partner often says things to make me jealous, if other girls fancy him, he tell me, another girl asked him for a bj, he tells me, he was even showing me through his mobile and showed me a text ending with love ya and this girls name. I told him I dont like it and that if anyone does come onto him he needs to tell them he not interested and leave it at that, He says I have a right to know but I dont need to know every single detail. It started to make me feel down about the relationship when he does this.

I want to know if you feel he has a problem?

Answer 1

He's being an insecure, insensitive jerk. He's more interested in you being jealous than in you being his girlfriend. Also, you need to understand that he is definitely encouraging this behavior in girls that make them leave him messages like that. He's flirting back, or they wouldn't keep sending those messages.

You've already told him that you don't like hearing these things, and he's continuing to do it anyway. He knows it’s upsetting you, and he’s fine with that. Is that the kind of guy you wanted to be with? One that hurts you and thinks it’s funny?

He's doing this because deep down, he's insecure and thinks you're better than him, so he's trying to show you what a hot commodity he is, to keep you focused on him. In reality, he's just making you feel bad and he doesn't care, as long as it makes HIM feel more secure, that you're not going anywhere. I'm sorry to tell you, but it’s not going to work out with this guy. He's going to get worse and worse and start showing more and more insecurity. Unfortunately, because he's already shown that he has a mean streak, you can expect that he'll take it out on you and make it your problem, instead of his own. And this isn’t something you can fix in him.

This won't get better. It'll get worse, with him eventually out and out telling you can't do better than him and insulting you. If you want to give it a chance to fix it, you have to nip this behavior in the bud right now. The next time he shows you a message from another girl or tells you about one that's so into him, roll your eyes like it’s pathetic (which it is, sadly) and say, "You know what? I'm not impressed. I've already told you I don't want to hear this crap. And since you keep saying it anyway, you're obviously just trying to make me to feel insecure about us. I'm not interested in dating someone who needs to make me feel like **** to make himself feel better. If you don't want to be here or you’re so insecure about yourself that you have to keep pulling this garbage, guess what? She can have you."

By taking the power out of his action and stopping the slide into your own insecurity, you end the game he's playing. He can either straighten up and deal with you respectfully, or he'll bluster and BS and make up a reason to move on, (he’ll probably blame it on you “over reacting” when really you just called him on his BS) because in reality, he can't handle dating you without making you feel weaker first. That's the only way some men can feel big, is to make their women feel small. You don't need that garbage. He'll try and make you feel sorry for him, make you feel guilty, all of that crap. Don't fall for it. There are better men out there who will appreciate you. You don’t need to waste your time with this one.

Good luck.

Answer 2

i ask your self if the insecurities and jealousies are not restricted to the aims of the bullying, yet comprise those who witness the bullying, and the homestead situation. A bully would no longer be insecure about his position mutually with his associates or with the guy he's bullying, yet he will be with another toddler, and needs to bully so as that different toddler likes him. a similar would bypass for jealousy. perhaps he's not jealous of the toddler he's bullying, yet jealous of somebody else that he ought to be like, so he will bully to target to get there. it would also be rather some lack of self belief at homestead, too. at the same time as divorces take position, or mom brings homestead a sparkling boyfriend, or mom and pa do drugs, abuse the toddler, or at the same time as a baby thinks that his massive brother/sister is cool and revered, or that his little brother/sister needs to look as a lot as him, that child would imagine that bullying can help ascertain the themes. If (purely an celebration), mom and pa are too stuck up of their personal lives to care in any respect what he's doing, bullying will supply him someone who immediately cares about him and notices him (adverse interest is larger than no interest). it would have no longer something to do with the objective of the bullying in any respect. If mom has a sparkling boyfriend and a baby is disillusioned and jealous about the time mom spends going out, bullying receives her interest. for sure, it would also purely be imitation. If a baby is bullied, verbally, emotionally, and bodily abused at homestead, he would imagine that those type of behaviors are primary and envisioned.

Answer 3

Yes! He has a problem. From my own experiences, I'd say he is doing it to deliberatly making you jealous.
Then again, he may just be telling you the truth about what other girls say to him, but why do they say these things? These girls that message him 'love ya' sound very straight forward, and asking for a BJ? Wtf? Is that girl a 'tard? She thinks she's better than you and that your boyfriend will leave you for them or something? I think your boyfriend needs to tell those girls to back off, betting then just leaving you in the dark about it, stop it entirely.

Answer 4

my ex did something like this to me i blew it off and thought he was just making me jealous but maybe if i didnt blow it off we would still be together anyway what he wanted me to know was that other girls are interested in him and to prove more to him that i wanted to be with him ya know what i mean....

Answer 5

sounds unhealthy.