i was talking to a really nice girl for about 2 months and we were getting on great then she mentioned something about a past relationship and my view of her changed completely .so much that i stopped taking to her and took her of my messenger. i told her why and she took it very bad nowi am feeling so bad about itand did not mean to hurt her feelings my question is did i go about it the right way and should i try to start our friendship again
2007-01-21 07:05:24 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanx to everyone who answered this question she has been in contact and it looks like everything is going to be ok.
2007-01-22 04:23:40 · update #1
she was only trying to be truthful with you, seems like she liked enough to talk about her past!!....but what you need to remember that is the past and for her she needed you to know, something to do with trust and honesty!! You could try to start a friendship up again but if she knocks you back you only have yourself to blame
2007-01-21 07:18:02 · answer #1 · answered by Chell 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just explain to her that you over reacted, and you are sorry. You can't knock a girl for being honest right? If you like her and she likes you then no matter what you should be with her. Her past is her past! Just IM her and tell her you are sorry, and you wanna try this over again
GOOD LUCK!!! Hope this helps!
2007-01-21 07:10:56 · answer #2 · answered by ♥xvioletx1882♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
*shrugs* I don't know what she said that upset you, or how you explained it to her. If she chose to be hurt by that, it was her choice...but perhaps you could've handled it better.
Don't seek friendship again unless you truly want it. Can you overlook the issue that upset you previously? If so, then why did you react negatively before? At the very least you may want to apologize...but don't try to befriend her unless you are truly prepared to be her friend.
2007-01-21 07:10:18 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just let her go. If she did something that upset you enough to take her off your messenger list...then you probably shouldn't start a relationship with her. Tell her that you're sorry about your reaction but you just can't be friends.
2007-01-21 07:09:06 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lets put it this way would you want someone else do that to you.
i think you just didn't know how to handle the situation. it's not a bad thing but since you had sometime to think and realized it, that's great.
just write to her and tell her that you are
genuienly sorry and overwhelmed and you are willing to
give it another try.
good luck
2007-01-21 07:29:12 · answer #5 · answered by just_cookie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you didn't - she trusted you! However given you've come around try to apologise for misunderstanding her and see if she wants to continue the friendship. If so, it will be stronger and well done for your personal reflection.
Paul
2007-01-21 07:08:58 · answer #6 · answered by Paulie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well since you sound like you are opinionated and up your own ar5e, I think she would now tell you to get knotted.
You say you didn't mean to hurt her, then how stupid are you? She opened up to you, and you judged her and dropped her, what is not to hurt?
I think it's best that you don't talk to anyone else, again, ever...
2007-01-21 07:24:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It all depends on what she told yah about herself. If it was disturbing enough, it's ok to just cut ties, but if it was something normal, you may have been a bit harsh.
2007-01-21 07:10:13 · answer #8 · answered by gerrykrauss1978 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it must have been bad if you dropped speaking just like that,, every one has a past and if your looking for a pure white virgin that's never had a boyfriend your not gonna find one in a chat room,, your shout,, your choice,,, your life,,,
2007-01-21 07:14:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
whatever happened in her past relationship helped make her the person she is now and the person you enjoyed talking to. be her friend life's too short.
2007-01-21 07:12:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋