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2007-01-21 07:04:08 · 24 answers · asked by emily34565 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He sucks. Get rid of him. You're better than that!
2007-01-21 07:08:15 · answer #1 · answered by SassyC 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As usual the silly little girls think things are all black and white, with no grey. You call it cheating, but it was at the start, when you were just another girl he was getting to know, and he may have had a few on the go, and has settled on you, is that cheating?
In the first couple of months you cannot think that by dating someone a few times, that you are in the midst of a full blown monogamous relationship. But two years down the line he is still there, and honest enough to admit to things he has done. I think he is really committed to you.
What you do now is up to you!
2007-01-21 07:30:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie, my and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years and at the beginning yes he cheated on me. It did take time to get over it, but, i did and we have a kid together and we are totally in love. I dont agree with the once a cheater always a cheater because u 2 dont know eachother very much in the beginning. You should really think about the way he treats you.
2007-01-21 07:19:44 · answer #3 · answered by proudmommie120504 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Need a broader definition of "cheat". Was it an ongoing physical AND emotional fling he had with some women over a period of time,or did he get drunk and fool around with some chick in a bar ?
If the former,or the latter,there's a chance he's madly in love with you. Guys cheat for allot of diferent reasons.Allot of guys cheat just when they realise they're starting to fall in love,that's scary to some,a total loss of control,and so will sabotage the relationship.He might of done that,but then realised that you would be a blessing,to lose control to,rather than other women he has met,and so stays with you and is in love with you.
No fixed answer here,gotta talk to him about why he did it.
2007-01-21 07:18:55 · answer #4 · answered by tally_fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would depend on the circumstances of the cheating (e.g. you were only 'sort-of' seeing each other), what exactly the nature of the cheating was etc (kiss, sex, whatever). It would still be upsetting but i think the focus should be on what his feelings are at the moment. i don't personally think it's as bad as if he cheated today, when he would know you much better as a person and you would had even more of a commitment to each other. But it's a personal judgement call.
2007-01-21 07:11:26 · answer #5 · answered by Nikita21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe he has been "stuck" with you then go single.
perhaps I may have misunderstood your term stuck.
Hoever, he never appeared to be stuck with you when he was doind whatever he was doing with another,or other females not that it makes any difference if it was only one, or only one hundred.
the first two months was maybe when he never felt commited,like he may do now.
I would say he sounds as though he is committed to being loyal to you,if that is what you want.
How much he likes you is about how much you feel he likes, respects, or loves you.
trust your gut instinct with this one,and remember it is perfectly natural that someone gets hurt in relattionships ,so take the chance and let go of the fear.
its not just about him liking you, but you liking him.
2007-01-21 07:15:21 · answer #6 · answered by meditation and mango juice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like u still have reservations about him. How did u find out? did he tell u himself? in my personal view if he can cheat once he can do it again but i dont know your personal situation. Also im wondering at u using the words 'stuck with you' almost like hes doing u a favour, hes lucky to have u!!
2007-01-21 07:12:14 · answer #7 · answered by BABY BELL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well hun...if you and him really love eachother yall would get some therapy and forgive one another. Me and my man did. but the thing is i am the one that did it and it hurt both of us. Because i didn't do it for pleasure i did it to get back at him because i was very angry. this was before we had kids and now we got two kids. so we are pretty good. We forgave eachother and therapy for a while. i hope this helps.
sorry you have to go through this i know how much it hurts, because i had boyfriends before i met this wonderful man that i have now and they cheated on me alot.
Good Luck!
2007-01-21 07:10:55 · answer #8 · answered by Nascar Momma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if not within the last 22 months your doing well, but given you now know I assume the trust is gone. Maybe he was messing to start with but now loves you given this was a long time ago. Better question how do you feel about it?
Paul
2007-01-21 07:07:24 · answer #9 · answered by Paulie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not much cuz he doesnt respect you. Your better then that and cheating is disrespectful and is away to show they dont care about how you feel until they have done what they want. it seems that thi boy will do what he wants dispite how you feel.
2007-01-21 07:08:43 · answer #10 · answered by The H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen love this guy obviously doesn't like you as he has cheated on you! take it from someone who has been in this situation and idolised the person. get shut and get looking for new bait! good luck!
2007-01-21 07:10:18 · answer #11 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋