me and my ex went out for alittle over a month. Then she broke up with me and said that she just wanst to be friends and dosnt want a bf right now. I pleaded with her to give me another chance and aplogized numerous times but she still said no. I tried to get over her and even started to like another girl but I still love her. Im still not over her b/c we have alot of the same classes and I see her everyday and I get remined everyday of how wonderful she is and how much I want her back. I miss her so much and still really want to be with her and really like her and maybe even love her. So im askin What should I do. I asked her to hang out a couple of weeks ago just as friends but realized it would just bring back old feelings and cancled the date before it happend. I dont know what to do anymore.
2007-01-21 07:04:08 · 4 answers · asked by babyv 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was in your shoes before....
But you've got to move on! Focus on something else. Not someone else though. When you try to forget about her with another person, so can end up bringing up old memories of what the two of you use to do together. You could also end up hurting the new girl because you have not let yourself have time to let go of old feelings and emotions enough to devote your new feelings to a new person.
Try hanging out with friends and family as much as possible. Diversion is the best way of learning to letting go. I know it doesn't feel like it now, but in time, you will feel better, but in between that time you need to fill it with things that do not remind you of her. Now almost 8 year later I can look back and it not hurt, but at the time felt like the end of the world. Also when you see her, you need to separate yourself from your emotions. If not being her friend and only saying hi in class is what it is going to take to help you get over it, than you need to accept that. The reason I say that is because I when through that in high school except I was with my ex for almost 4 years!
You can also try moving to another school, but that's just running away from the problem. That can hurt you later as an adult because you have not developed the skills to adjust to a type of situation like that. I also say that because that is what I did and it was soooo much harder later when I broke up with an ex that I worked with and I could not just quit my job as easily as I left schools.
My final is advise is try reading some self-help books are if need be get some counseling. Sometimes traumatic experiences require such help. There's nothing wrong with it and if it helps than keep with it. Try reading How to Survive the Loss of a Love by Peter McWilliams, Harold H. Bloomfield, Melba Colgrove. This helped me learn to accept the loss.
Best of luck to you sweetie. I know you can overcome this. Just be patient and time can heal all.
God Bless!
2007-01-21 07:25:32 · answer #1 · answered by angelkiss95670 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone... it was a month long relationship, and in the grand scheme of things, that is not very long. If she decided she wanted to be "just friends" that quickly, there probably isn't much hope. I'm not trying to be mean, or anything, I just don't want you to suffer. Somewhere there is a girl who will be as interested in you as you are in her, and you deserve that. Not a girl who just wants to be friends.
2007-01-21 15:12:07 · answer #2 · answered by Balou0017 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her your feelings in person and tell her everything you wrote here. Then try asking her out like to just hang out, then keep asking and maybe her feelings will change. Good luck!
2007-01-21 15:12:16 · answer #3 · answered by 슈퍼주니어 ツ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go for her. Do whatever you have to to get her.
2007-01-21 15:08:00 · answer #4 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋