Am a girl .. and am asking if it is ok 2 like a guy .. just liking .... and i didn't talk to him yet .... is that ok in islam ??? answer plz if u know
2007-01-21 06:56:00 · 14 answers · asked by Manar 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Well, if you like a guy, then it puts you in a vulnerable position staright away, and teh Shaitan will defianlty try to take advantage of this sistuation. One day you may ask him a question and he'll answer, and it would make you happy. And then you may start talking to him and get a bit comfortable with him. You may even one day tell him how you feel. He may take advantage of you, may tell you he likes you to, or not do anything, BUT, you see, at first, even small minor contact may see aceptable, but it's not, because these small things would lead to bigger things. Your faith as a Muslim is like a shield. The more you protect your self from sin, the stronger your shield will get, and you will be more protected against committing sins. But the more sins you commit, the weaker your sheild will get, and you will just lose your Iman and fall into greater sin. I think if you like this guy, then ok, but please don't tell him, or tell anyone. Peole are often the cause to leading others into sin. They may not do it intentionally, but they will. I don't know how old you are?? If it's time for you to get married, and you like this guy enough, perhaps you could ask an elder to look into it for you. But if you're not am age to get married, then please try to stay away from this guy. Your feelings could easily grow stronger, and feelings often get in the way of logical thinking, .i.e. thinking about what is wrong and right in Islam. In one Hadith it is stated that if you think of something bad, but you don't act upon it, you will be rewarded, and if you think of somthing good and don't act upon it, you will be rewarded. You see, it's all about the goodness. Bad things always come into peoples mind, but your Iman has to bestrong enough so that you don't do what the Shaitan is telling you to do. I don't think there is anything wrong with you seeing a guy who you like, but don't act upon your feelings unless it is a step towards marraige. Even then it would be purer for you to get a third person who is older then involved in this. Our Prophet SAW had said that we should lower our gaze and gaurd our chastity, for it is purer for us. Try not stare at this guy. Keep your gaze lowered. It would be better for you. Islam is based on a lot of logic, and if it has directed us to do somthing then we have to follow it. It is best for us. It would be best for you to stay modest and shy. All the best. I pray you stay on the correct path inshAllah. Take care sister. W'salam
2007-01-21 07:14:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Nice Question.
If you really want to take this in Islamic way, you first have to ask yourself "Why do I like him?". Is it because you saw him and he looks cute? Or he behaves very nice? Or he has an impressive way of talking or handling things? If the reason is something like that then you have to be very careful because this is the beginning of a major sin. Because you are not supposed to think about a guy and like him for the reasons stated above.
It is very natural that a girl will feel attraction towards a guy and a guy towards a girl. This feeling is accepted so long nothing beyond just this feeling happens. Love, as an emotional feeling, is not disallowed.
If you think you really love this guy, and you will be ok with him being his life partner, then you should make him ask for your hand. Marriage is a highly recommended solution of such matters.
Please read the links below:
http://www.islamqa.com/index.php?ref=82941&ln=eng
http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/Satellite?pagename=IslamOnline-English-Ask_Scholar/FatwaE/FatwaE&cid=1119503543446
http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/Satellite?pagename=IslamOnline-English-Ask_Scholar/FatwaE/FatwaE&cid=1119503544448
2007-01-21 07:50:06 · answer #2 · answered by SFNDX 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is OK to like somebody. You can't help it if you see someone and think they look good, or like how they act. Talking is OK too. Just don't flirt with him, at all. And if you feel he is starting to flirt with you, back off. If he asks you out, say no and try to avoid him & not provoke him.
2007-01-21 15:15:12 · answer #3 · answered by saasay0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
asalam alaikum wr wb....Dr br in Islam. you're Obligated to stay close adequate to a masjid to a minimum of attend Friday prayer, if in any respect obtainable. U could desire to make the istigharah prayer approximately marriage. If u truthfully have not any sexual want then that's non-vital so you might marry. that's difficult i understand to discover a spouse right here interior the west. it extremely is a factor of the explanation i regarded distant places to discover a sister. Its no longer demanding br.....takes it sluggish and attempt although that's extremely do-able Insha'Allah. salaams
2016-11-26 00:24:53 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all a normal part of being a girl, lol! As long as you keep your relationship with him halal, you will be in good terms with God. He put that love in your heart, he isn't going to forbid it as long as you can control yourself to do good and avoid what is bad.
2007-01-21 07:31:20 · answer #5 · answered by hayaa_bi_taqwa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's fine to like a guy and fine to feel anything towards him, this is for sure.
2007-01-21 07:21:30 · answer #6 · answered by catch_the_vapours88 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think its ok to like a guy with out seeing him or doing somthing that is not hlal with him.
i am muslim
2007-01-21 07:41:11 · answer #7 · answered by وعووودة 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if the matter is only liking in your heart WITHOUT TALKIG TO HIM OR SEEING HIM I think it's ok but don't try to meet him or talk to him this is 7aram and Allah only knows
2007-01-21 07:03:35 · answer #8 · answered by SemSem 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ya i guess its alright i cant control my feelings about this guy but its ok to like him
2007-01-21 07:30:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
ya dear i guess it's fine with that
no pro
and salam
2007-01-21 07:04:28 · answer #10 · answered by anno 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋