I have known so many guys that cheat and/or are cheating on their girlfriends...I'm on the fence because sometimes I think I should mind my business but other times I just think that if my boyfriend cheated on me I would be pissed if no one told me and feel so stupid.
One time I hooked with a guy then found out he had a girlfriend so wouldn't that be a good idea to tell the gurl that I made a mistake plus I know for sure he cheats.
Also, some girls have come to me and asked if their boyfriend is a cheater, and I know they are, but I don't want to lie but don't want to get blamed either
2007-01-21 06:26:30 · 21 answers · asked by Sarah 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
(my personal advice)
If you truly care; and are close to the girl you are about to let know, that her boyfriend is cheating on her i believe you have every right to. If this girl is honest, respectful,caring and loving to her boyfriend,then she has every right to know herself. Although it may break her heart, it will only make her stronger for future relationships.And im not saying there willn't be negitive tentions between you and this girl. But she will soon realize that she diserves better, and will only have you to thank, she will forgive you. If you make it clear to her, while explaining the situation, that you are letting her know,not to ruin things but to fix things, NO GIRL DESERVES TO BE CHEATED ON.
2007-01-21 06:56:44 · answer #1 · answered by true love is your first and last 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't tell her. You'll be in the middle of the drama. I have told a friend that I know for a fact that her boyfriend cheated on her, and then I became the bad guy because I was "jealous". She was so head over heals over this guy she went back to him after a week. I would STRONGLY suggest that you don't tell her but show her. That way, she will see him in the act. Seeing it is way better than hearing about it. If you see him out with someone, tell her to meet you there so she can see it.
2007-01-21 06:35:53 · answer #2 · answered by luvofpanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the girl being cheated on. Some like being ignorant, some don't like it. Others may get upset with you for telling them, others may be grateful.
Personally, I would want to know - but ONLY if it came from a really close friend. Other than that, I'd rather find out for myself. Since I'm not the ignorant / denial type, I'd probably know before she would anyway!
They always leave clues.
2007-01-21 06:34:16 · answer #3 · answered by Kiki Joy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I found out that a girl was cheating on my best friend, I would definately let him know. Just so he can get out ASAP. It's not fair to be second or third meat. In every relationship the couple needs to feel like they are #1 for each other and not for someone else and obviously if he's cheating on her she is not #1.
MJ
2007-01-21 06:34:40 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Jeff - It is what it is ☺ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't! Unless these girls were close friends of mine, then I would...
If they're just acquaintances, I say back-off and let them make their own mistakes. I mean who are you to meddle in everyone else's life. They might probably also take your information in the wrong way and think that you just wanna hook up with their boyfriends that's why you're "making up stories" as they would so nicely put it!
So in a nutshell... Don't get involved where something doesn't involve you...
2007-01-21 06:35:18 · answer #5 · answered by *Flutter* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My babys father was cheating on me with my supposed best friend. I had a lot of other really close friends that knew about it, but didn't tell me about the situation. Though I love my daughter and I do not regret her and I would never want to loose her, if someone had told me sooner I might of had a chance to be a kid.
2007-01-21 06:40:35 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first question is why do you want to tell them? What is your motive? If you can honestly say it is to help the woman out... because they are your friend... then -
Remember - a lot of women want to BLAME THE MESSANGER - so it might get pretty heated....
However... from my point of view - I would like to know, so I could get on with my life and not have to worry about wasting anymore of my life!
I would say tell them, but realize the reprocussions might be hard!
If your answer to the questions above is to get the guy yourself - remember - if they cheat WITH you... they will cheat ON you!
2007-01-21 06:31:28 · answer #7 · answered by Glory 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the seekers of information that you've made a new year resolution: You mind your own life and business and stay out of others. Stick to it. You're setting yourself up as a tattle tale and a gossip.
2007-01-21 06:34:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if they are ur really close friend and they ask you if you know their guy is cheating u should definately tell...and as for the one u were with who was cheating u should definately tell her...i mean she deserves to kno...and at least u kno for sure he was cheatin since he was with you
2007-01-21 06:30:15 · answer #9 · answered by icingonthekake99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how u feel. U don't want to be blamed and u don't want to see your friend or another girl's boyfriend cheating on her. I thinks its best you mind your own business, but knida drop hints. Hopefully she'll catch on.
2007-01-21 06:34:22 · answer #10 · answered by lovemyma515 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋