i always wanted to go out with someone goodlooking. but i met this amazing person who is not goodlooking at all. i am said to be pretty. my family does not want me to marry him as according to them, he will have complex of not being upto my level in the society. and i wont be comfortable as well. because my society will look down upon him. is it a good enough reason to forget him?
2007-01-21 06:21:30 · 14 answers · asked by funnydillema 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i was asked out by some1 whom i turned down primarily because he was shorter than me, bald already etc. but later we became too much of close friends and then we felt like solemates. he makes me feel extremely happy all the time. i felt for the 1st time like i can spend my whole life with a guy. he is funny and has the best personality and i think we wont be bored even if to spend our whole lives with each other. Now the prob is i have seen ppl looking down upon him because of his looks. my family does not approve of him due to the same reason. i fear what if i fall for another guy as any1 else looks better than him. and on top of that he also seems to have developed a complex of he not being worthy of deserving me. what shd i do now?
2007-01-22 05:07:10 · update #1
Looks & Charisma fade fast once life, responsiblities, family,
expenses, career etc. etc. become realities...
2007-01-21 06:26:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm amazed that your family would say things like that, particularly if it includes your parents. Parents are supposed to be a lot more grown up than that!
Don't forget that "spend the rest of your life with" means you'll both be getting older. If that's your ultimate goal, there's no reason to look at someone's appearances really, except if you're breeding for better looking kids. He'll get old, you'll get old, and you'll both look grey and wrinkly, and he'll probably go bald while your hair goes grey. That's life.
I think pretty boys are only good for short term dating when you just need someone to pay your dinners and show off to your friends. The amazing nice guys who may not look as good are the ones you marry!
2007-01-21 06:31:56 · answer #2 · answered by calliope320 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks are not that important. One good car accident can wipe out looks; but a truly decent, loving, honest person is worth SOOOOOO much more than a pretty face. Also, as you fall in love with someone, you see the true beauty. Just because they don't look like the current "pretty boy" on the cover of a magazine doesn't mean that they may not be your soul mate. Usually, really "pretty" people tend to be shallow, self-absorbed creatures. They don't tend to make good partners, because they are so keyed into themselves and their looks, that they forget a relationship is more than how cute you are. Look beneath the surface; you might discover that the true beauty is not on the surface, but within. And that's the most important thing. Good luck and God bless.
2007-01-21 06:28:54 · answer #3 · answered by Judy W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? When it comes to choosing the person you want to spend the rest of your life with looks are pretty low on the list. Of course you have to have an attraction for them but that doesn't mean only physical. Even if you are with someone that is good looking that eventually becomes less important than how they treat you after a while. Beside beauty fades sometimes. You can't predict what life is going to bring you: illness, disfigurement, weight gain etc. . I know it sounds like a cliche but you better choose someone who you love, are friends with, compatible with, and who you can tolerate despite their little annoyances etc to spend your life with.
2007-01-21 06:30:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need someone that looks good enough you will not even think twice about cheating on him when you see a guy that looks great and has an equally good personality, it's not being shallow if you genuinely want someone to look good if you will be looking at them for the rest of your life, can you?
You will be spending minutes, hours, days, years, decades, looking at that face and that body, will he still look nice? Please, think about how long the rest of your life is, be sure you will not be tempted to cheat later.
Forget your family, society, this is about you and you alone. Is his personality enough to offset his looks in YOUR opinion?
2007-01-21 06:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you can even ask this questions attests to your level of sickening shallowness. You don't deserve this "amazing person." Move on, find your good looking guy who will also be shallow and probably abusive. You and your family are the reason why our society is falling apart. It's incredibly sad that you even THINK about how someone looks over their personality.
2007-01-21 06:26:38 · answer #6 · answered by kherome 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks are really, really important at the start of a relationship, and anyone who tells you that they are not is a liar.
The people who think that you are 'shallow' should ask themselves if they would really choose spend the rest of their lives with someone who they thought was physically ugly.
You've got to be realistic babe -you're not attracted to him physically, that's not likely to change. Ever. So move on and stop wasting that poor guy's time!
2007-01-21 06:37:20 · answer #7 · answered by Lucy Y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your an idiot. this can be the man of your dreams the one who is gonna do you right. your not perfect and i'm pretty sure you have many flaws. screw what society says...society is not gonna be their to bring you up when your down...and your family is ruining what could be something some people don't get to have...being devinely favored by god to be with someone that was made just for you..even if their not good looking or not. the cutest person can have the ugliest mind and soul. you need to wake up and smell the coffee...
2007-01-21 06:28:02 · answer #8 · answered by u2ugly2nv18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you and your family are going to be so shallow as to look at someone from the outside, then yes I think he would be happier else where. Looks are important when it comes to attraction, but what is the most important thing about someone to you. If you say looks then you are shallow and deserve to be with someone as shallow. Good Luck
2007-01-21 06:28:53 · answer #9 · answered by george 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read what you typed, you should be ashamed of yourself..what makes you think you are better than him or your family, be proud of your man no matter what...cause at the end of the day, his arms will be around, holding you in your nights.
Love him for what he is, money, power and society can't buy love.
Good luck
2007-01-21 06:32:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all who is the one getting married you or your family.and you are the one who is doing the choosing.Is your life so shallow that you can't marry someone for who they are instead of what they look like.If you were blind and couldn't see would you still chose him or he you?
2007-01-21 06:29:26 · answer #11 · answered by Smiles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋